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Teen stress

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yes17 · 18/02/2019 21:48

Hi, I'm 16 and feeling quite stressed.

I'm studying really hard. My mum is 'helping' me study, she goes into a different room to do the same practice questions that i'm doing and then she comes into my room to ask me about my method, her method and some perfect method.

Each time she comes into speak to me my stress levels increase significantly and i'm finding it hard to have a conversation with her.

When she leaves the room i'm always on the verge of tears or cry as quietly as possible. My legs are constantly bouncing as a coping mechanism for the stress. But the stress is really starting to get to me...
I've resorted to scratching my skin till it bleeds as a coping mechanism.
Another thing that happens when she leaves is i feel very light and not quite real and i cant seem to do anything to get the feeling to pass for at least 20 mins... in that period of time i cant work at all as i feel like im in a dream and cant properly feel any part of my body.

This post was a bit of a mess but i hope you understand what i was going on about.

Is there anything i can do to help myself?
I cant talk to my mum about it as i'd "just be attention seeking" which would just add to my stress.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 19/02/2019 06:50

I'm so sorry you're feeling stressed. Could you talk to school about how you're feeling? They may be able to help

If you don't want to talk to someone at school, try Young Minds.

Is your Dad around at all yes? Can you tell him how you feel?

beachyhead · 19/02/2019 07:22

Your mum does sound quite over involved in your studies. Is there a different way you would like to work? Could you suggest it?
Having a bit more control over how you work might lower the stress?

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HopeMumsnet · 19/02/2019 12:49

Hi there,
We're sorry to hear you're so stressed, yes17. We do need to move your thread to our mental health boards now, and we hope you receive lovely support there.

noego · 21/02/2019 14:43

Hi,
If you need to talk to someone you can call young minds as PP said. There is also Child Line and the Samaritans you can talk to, especially when you want to scratch yourself. They can help you through that period of stress.
HTH

friendlyflicka · 21/02/2019 14:49

Could you try and tell your mother? I am a mother of an anxious 15 year old in same school level as you. It sounds like your mother has got anxious about your GCSEs and is transferring her stress to you.

Even if you have to send her a message to explain. Something like you have put on here. I am sure it is the last thing she wants to do to you.

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