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Difficult night - is anyone awake?

46 replies

Handlingit · 02/02/2019 02:38

Feel panicked and anxious.

Having very intrusive thoughts and sleep is completely out the question.

I have rang a support line earlier - it didn’t really help as I couldn’t get across how unwell I’m feeling.

Don’t know what to do - at moment I’m posting here and playing games

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Orchidflower1 · 02/02/2019 02:40

Can you get a warm drink and something to eat? When I’m hungry / thirty it can trigger anxiety for me.

Keep posting if you need to - there’s always someone somewhere awake!

Handlingit · 02/02/2019 02:43

I am an emotional eater so I’m well fed... could do being a little less well fed but I might make a warm honey and lemon

I am so tired but scared to lie in bed as the thought will overwhelm me...

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blutoo · 02/02/2019 02:44

I'm here too - also awake due to nervous tension (having a very stressful time atm so I can sympathise).

icklekid · 02/02/2019 02:45

Awake if you want to talk or be distracted

blutoo · 02/02/2019 02:48

some things i'm going to try:
reading a book (something not too taxing and light-hearted)
some solitaire on the computer for a bit
I'm going to try and think of five good things that have happened once i go back to bed - the effort might send me to sleep I hope!...that and the knowledge I've got to be up again in 3 hours. Hope you get some sleep soon.

Smotheroffive · 02/02/2019 02:49

Are they to hurt yourself or someone's else? How about Samaritans so you have a voice IRL to talk with?

You could try calling them back to say exactly that, that you don't feel they have really listened to how I'll you feel?

Smotheroffive · 02/02/2019 02:51

ill not I'll

Broken11Girl · 02/02/2019 02:55

Oh, lovely. I'm generally nocturnal and fighting bad thoughts too rn. Flowers

Handlingit · 02/02/2019 02:56

@blutoo

Lots going on here too - I drowning a bit

I’m playing scrabble against the computer. It’s in my crisis plan.

@icklekid - it’s good to know I’m not alone

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Handlingit · 02/02/2019 02:57

Sorry it posted and I missed a couple of you

The thoughts are about hurting myself - never anyone else. I fight them all the time and I’m really tired

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icklekid · 02/02/2019 02:58

Scrabble is good. Listening to music helps distract me. I often lie in bed but that doesn't really help. Getting up and not trying to force myself to do something I can't do (is. Sleep) is important for me. Do you take medication? I sometimes need sleeping pills on top of anti depressants when everything gets too much

Thisisthelaststraw · 02/02/2019 03:01

I’m here too. In work tonight.

I still have this once in a while but it used to be very bad. I found asmr videos on YouTube helped. You could give it a try.

Another strategy I learned from a book, can’t remember which one, was to see the thoughts like waves and let them wash over you like a surfer would as they swam out to catch a bigger one. Or treat the thoughts like shooting stars. They will come into your mind. Visual them as stars and send them packing.

It’s how much attention you give them that causes the increase in anxiety.

During the day we’re busy. Lots of things to do and we have thousands of thoughts without acknowledging them. If I asked you how many individual thoughts you had yesterday and could you recite them all to me, you couldn’t because we never catch them. They’re like shooting stars.

At night we’re not busy. We’re free to ‘see’ the thought and give it consideration. If you can manage to tell yourself to bat it away or imagine it zipping across a night sky and out of sight I promise it will help. You could imagine ducking under the thought as though it were a wave and don’t look back.

Another method is to set aside a time to worry or be fearful. Sounds mad but it’s worth a go and has worked for me. You tell yourself you have a box beside you. It’s your worry box and you’re going to deal with whatever is in the box at 10am tomorrow (you pick a time that suits). Every time you catch yourself having a bad thought you visualise grabbing hold of it or writing it down and putting it in the box to be dealt with tomorrow. Every time! Pay no attention to any thought and say, out loud if you have to “no, I’m not thinking about that now so I’ll pop it in the box and I can address it tomorrow”. This works because a lot of time our anxious minds want to think something through to a solution. We can’t settle until we’ve thought it through but we can postpone and our brains are okay with that. Simply saying “no, I’m not thinking about that” doesn’t work because our anxious brain panics that we haven’t finished worrying.

Brains are funny!

Hope something there might help.

Handlingit · 02/02/2019 03:02

On an antidepressant and an anti-psychotic which is prescribed in a low dose to treat anxiety.

I don’t have PRN medication - I’m usually prescribed it as and when I need it but of course it’s a weekend

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icklekid · 02/02/2019 03:06

You can get through tonight. Tomorrow is a new day. Have you had much snow?

Handlingit · 02/02/2019 03:11

We’ve had a smattering

Hoping to go to sleep naturally soon - might just get quilt on sofa

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icklekid · 02/02/2019 03:16

Good plan. Tv on in background helps me

Lkbbdg · 02/02/2019 03:42

A quilt on the sofa with the tv on is a good idea, or the world service on the radio. I'm awake too as I'm worried about being sacked.

Smotheroffive · 02/02/2019 06:11

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3481555-asmr-videos
Has asmr vidoes on

Knittedfrog · 02/02/2019 09:12

Hope you managed to get some peaceful sleep in the end. It's horrible when you have so much going on in your head that it keeps you awake.

Handlingit · 02/02/2019 11:29

Thank you all - I slept from 4am til 9am

Now exhausted which is never good when battling thoughts

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Orchidflower1 · 02/02/2019 11:34

Hope today is a better day. My house is a total tip as we are decorating. I find disorder mentally challenging so taking it a bit at a time. Hope you could have a better day💐

Handlingit · 02/02/2019 23:37

@Orchidflower1

I’m the same and unfortunately I need to get on top of things.

I’m ok ish in the day but evenings and nights are totally different

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Handlingit · 03/02/2019 01:13

Can’t sleep and the intrusive thoughts are back.

Feel so alone with them - I am exhausted by broken / disturbed sleep but if I go to bed then the thoughts take over.

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JeezYouLoon · 03/02/2019 01:14

Hi there - I'm awake, what would you like to talk about?

OytheBumbler · 03/02/2019 01:14

Would it help to listen to music while lying in bed?