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Mental health

DH found out I was suicidal, asked me if I could clean the house...

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Maybeforthelasttime · 11/01/2019 21:01

Had discussion with DH yesterday about feeling hopeless and thinking of ending my life. Spoke to Papyrus, which he heard. He told me he was scared and loved me and didn't want to lose me. After talking a bit I stopped crying and said I'd try to get some sleep, to which he replied: "if you have time, any chance you could spruce the house up for when the cleaner comes tomorrow?"

I can't even.

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BBInGinDrinking · 16/01/2019 00:34

Hello again, OP. I'm glad you've called for help.

I'm sorry that you're feeling so bad. I understand that you want these terrible feelings to stop - getting help is the best way to do that.

Keep fighting, my friend. I'm sending you a very strong hug.

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Maybeforthelasttime · 16/01/2019 02:12

DH still leaves me to go to work at night, very lonesome place. Dr was supposed to call within the hour but it never happened. All the usual

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BBInGinDrinking · 16/01/2019 02:20

I think the nights are usually the hardest, and when first waking up in the morning. Are you ringing an out of hours service or 24hr service, OP? Can you ring them again if so? The Samaritans are always there to listen. You can ring them as often as you need to. Don't feel alone.

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BusterGonad · 16/01/2019 04:40

Have you got help yet Op?

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Nannewnannew · 16/01/2019 17:01

maybe I do hope you are ok and you managed to get a response from the Dr/ hospital. Please be aware that many people are thinking of you and sending healing vibes. Please can you let us know you are ok, if that’s not putting too much pressure on you? 🌹🌸💐

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Ella1980 · 16/01/2019 17:24

Hope you are OK. You are not alone in what you are feeling right now. Things will get better I promise you xx

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RhubarbTea · 16/01/2019 18:00

I hope you're alright. If you're feeling unsafe and don't get a callback, you can go to A&E. Look after yourself.

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Maybeforthelasttime · 16/01/2019 23:01

Sorry for not updating, just really tired. I saw my new GP this morning, she was outraged at the way I've been treated by services and spent half an hour on the phone yelling to the crisis team as to why they'd just let a suicidal twenty-something walk out of an assessment without offering further care. I've now got a new appointment tomorrow. DH went with me this morning and felt awful apparently because GP said he should stay home and look after me for now as she has serious concerns about my welfare.

Have a new appointment tomorrow with crisis team, and then DH is taking me on a spa break to get away from it all for a couple of days.

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RhubarbTea · 17/01/2019 14:41

I'm very very glad that the GP talked some sense in to your DH, that's the best thing about all of this awful recent stuff: he may now understand a bit more clearly how serious this is. Also brilliant that your GP is on the ball. I hope some time away helps, and we're all here to chat to whenever you need.
Hope the crisis appt goes well. x