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Just need to say this aloud

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 15/06/2018 22:16

If I could guarantee my kids wouldn't be harmed by it, I'd kill myself tomorrow. I'm perfectly safe because I know my DCs (8&5) would never recover from it. But I just feel so sad that I feel like this. Life feels like it's one long battle and I'm just so tired of it. I'm under MH services already and I have good days and bad days. But, I wish I could just stop.

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BeyondSceptical · 18/06/2018 23:04

Flowers frozen. I know it's shit, I'm there too
Just keep plodding on

FrozenMargarita17 · 18/06/2018 23:22

I was doing so well. Today has sent me off the edge again

BeyondSceptical · 19/06/2018 07:33

How are you feeling this morning frozen? And everyone else?

FrozenMargarita17 · 19/06/2018 07:47

Very tired. Wish I could stay in bed but dd up.

abbsisspartacus · 19/06/2018 07:53

I've got to get the kids to school then off to work for anothe 8 hours of draining tedium followed by guilt trips from the kids there must be more to life

BeyondSceptical · 19/06/2018 07:56

I have sports day today, so I'm up - have taken some of my (prescribed!) morphine to try to float through the day.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 19/06/2018 19:22

I'm feeling frazzled and fed up today

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BeyondSceptical · 19/06/2018 19:24

Anything you want to talk about Gast?

TuTru · 19/06/2018 19:25

I know that feeling. You can feel better again though even though it prob feels like you never will at the moment xx

MyGastIsFlabbered · 19/06/2018 19:32

Just feel like everything I do is wrong, nothing is good enough and it's never going to get better. It's such a struggle getting stuff like school uniforms ready. Plus my eldest has a show tomorrow which I've only just been reminded about.

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BeyondSceptical · 19/06/2018 19:57

Flowers yep I know that feeling
Oh bugger, that's a pain about the show :( do you need to do much for it?

pinkpixie83 · 19/06/2018 20:04

I have moments where I feel like this too, the thing stopping me is the kids and knowing they don't like their dad.
I've resorted to self harm when it's really bad which takes the edge off for a few days - not that I'm suggesting this as a solution.
I am also trying very hard to see at least one positive per day.

Hugs to all

MessyMummy15 · 19/06/2018 20:14

I must have read thousands of mumsnet posts in the many years at I have been on here but this is the first time I have ever commented...
to ANYONE who is feeling like this, I have been there and sometimes feel depression pulling me back in but talk to someone. Anyone. It can do the world of wonders.
Samaritans, doctors, a stranger or even message me for a chat/moan/rant.
I honestly believe that loneliness is a killer and no one should ever feel alone.
Love to each and every one of you. ❤️

SpeckledDot · 19/06/2018 20:23

I have been in a similar mood since midday today. No thoughts of suicide (I wouldn't dare) but all I've done today is lie down on my bed drifting in and out of sleep. I have a 3 year old too and she's been on her tablet all day. She's getting down too :(

Sorry to hijack the thread i have read all your messages. I have noone to talk to either. People say talk to someone you know but i have seen my fair share of threads on here about dropping friends because they are depending too much on the poster for emotional support. Noone really wants you to tell them how bad you feel.

Just wanted to chime in and let people know they are not alone

MyGastIsFlabbered · 19/06/2018 21:13

No need to apologise for hijacking. This thread is for anybody and everybody who needs it. And thank you to those people offering to talk/offering positive thoughts etc. I do appreciate them even though I may not respond to them.

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colouringinagain · 19/06/2018 21:33

Hi speckled sorry you're also feeling similarly shit.

I managed to drag myself to a yoga class this eve ,just. But the bleakness is suffocating.

Thanks messy you're completely right about loneliness. But it's so hard when you feel like thus, and I've lost a good friend who just had enough.

pinkpixie really good idea to try and find a positive thing. And there is evidence it does help. I guess going to yoga would be mine.

SpeckledDot · 19/06/2018 23:21

@colouringinagain how are you finding yoga? Is it a relatively new hobby? I have tried it a couple of times but i am too self conscious to relax around a group of people

colouringinagain · 20/06/2018 11:54

I find it really good, when I make myself go. It's good for general toning and strength, because you have to concentrate it's absorbing. And it's relaxing. Tbh I've had so much shit go on in my life over the last 6 years I care very little what other people think.

Start with a gentle one like hatha yoga

Haribogirl · 20/06/2018 13:09

Was at very very low yesterday, even rang mh social worker I’m going to see on Friday for assessment. Not very helpful at all, as I’m not under there services, just told me to distract myself and that’s what she would tell me if I was!
I pushed myself to shower get dressed and hair blown, but those suicidal don’t/can’t cope with this any longer was well at the forefront whatever I was doing.
Rang the Raid team up at the hospital who told me to see if I could get an urgent same day appointment . I rang Gp and explained and she got me in within hour.

DP actually said to me “ do you want me to come” I was gobsmacked
I’m having thoughts of not wanting to be here wtf.
I’ve told him depression is an illness, I’m not just fed up, having an off day. Would he be any different if I had cancer or heart attack
It’s still an illness. And a bloody horrendous one.

Anyway he came with me, Gp started off great (locum, not mine) until she said
“ I want you to promise me you will get this book,
The Power Of Postive Thinking By Norman Vincent Pearle
It will do you better than any medication, and come back and see me in 2 weeks. I’m frightened and suicidal
Turns out it’s a god book, she is obviously a big church person( dont want to offend anybody)
So she rang Raid at Hospital and told me to go they expecting me.
DP was not happy at this, we’d spent never 4 hrs there 6 weeks ago and got sent home saying they’d write to Gp.
So he never spoke all the way there, making me feel really shit
He needs his space!
Never got seen by Raid it was absolutely heaving in a&e people standing everywhere and me crying eyes out. I still had to go through triage(which I was told I didn’t) I managed an hour and c
I think sometimes he puts himself first, will carry on his life around me no matter what state I’m in.
Like today, me suicidal yesterday
He’s up and about, I get up and he Says wow that was a good sleep. Ugh I’d been awake since 6.50.
He then goes upstairs, on his ex bike, comes down and goes to shops
Not a “ how are you today”
Comes back from shopping and says his taking his car to garage is that ok? He’d already made appt so why ask, if I’d of said no I scared
It would of kicked off, because he wanted to do it.

It’s like he expects me to carry on, going out with him, cooking meals
Even last night son(30) said why are you even cooking mum
But he sat there on his phone, and just came in to do pressure cooker
As he thinks only he can cook this but leaves the rest to me and sits there till ready. Oh I’m just moaning ignore me

Another moan, he come in, takes shoes off then goes in garage get step ladders and goes to hedges in back garden f.... raining grass is wet to cut one strand that’s sticking up wtf. I’m depressed, he’s f... winding me up
He will walk through the house now, still in his wet
slippers footprints everywhere ahhhhh

How does your Husband/DP/wife live/act around you
Would love to know please, as I don’t know if it’s my thinking all wrong

Haribogirl · 20/06/2018 13:10

Wow sorry for a long post, that’s if your still reading.

Hope everyone struggling is coping today

HarshingMyMellow · 20/06/2018 13:22

I have been there. It's always bubbling away in the background and I'm terrified of myself falling low again.

I had plenty of nights where I went to bed hoping and praying that I wouldn't wake up.

It does get better. I promise you.

One thing that helped me was a story I read about people jumping from the Golden Gate Bridge.
Not many survived, but the ones that did (with and without injuries) realised as they were falling, that the things they thought were unfixable were actually totally fixable. Except for having just jumped off the bridge.

It sent shivers down my spine then and still does now.

Please seek some outside help. Even if it's just calling the Samaritans for a chat, to clear your head.
You're not alone. X

Takethemdown · 20/06/2018 13:35

Another one only here because of my children. I wouldn't harm myself because of them. If they weren't here I would have done.

Shit life, lots of trauma and medical issues, DV marriage, now in a shit rental situation with the epitome of Jeremy Kyle neighbours, no friends anymore as lost everything when with exh.
Have had counselling, cbt and psychotherapy and I'm beyond tired.

SpeckledDot · 20/06/2018 16:00

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colouringinagain · 20/06/2018 16:14

haribo from what you've written he really doesn't sound nice Sad

Sorry to hear that takethemdown it's shit isn't it. I've also had six years of trauma, severe mental illness in the family, bereavements...

I could do with two weeks on a beautiful beach while someone sorts out for good the stuff that's going on here...

Spudina · 20/06/2018 16:23

I felt the same way this time last year. I was heavily medicated as a result, had CBT etc. Honestly worried I would be sectioned. 11 months on and I really couldn't feel more different. Not that every day is perfect but what I see now is the possibilities life has to offer. I'm looking forward to things. On a bad day my new mantra is "it's a bad day, not a bad life". You ladies can get through this. Keep talking. And take it a day at a time. Flowers

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