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I can't keep going

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colouringinagain · 16/03/2018 23:48

I'm so exhausted. The kids aren't well, my sort of ex is talking about reducing his medication and I just can't keep doing this

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Greenyogagirl · 16/03/2018 23:49

What does your sort of ex and his medication have to do with it? How old are kids and what’s up with them?
Have you spoken to a gp/taking medication?
You can do it sweetheart because you are so strong and every day you get up and do it xx

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colouringinagain · 16/03/2018 23:53

Separated. Ex has bipolar. Really bad crises. Dcs sensitive

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LadyDeadpool · 16/03/2018 23:55

Your ex isn't your problem there's a reason he's your ex.

I presume there's no one to take the kids? What sort of illness? Perhaps a day for you all on the sofa with films and a frozen pizza.

I'm afraid that when we have kids we don't have a choice in carrying on anymore because it's not for us it's for them, you have to find that last tiny bit of strength and you have to keep fighting and no matter how low you feel you can do it have faith in yourself, it's okay if all you do for a day is survive that's enough.

LadyDeadpool · 16/03/2018 23:58

Can you keep the kids away from your ex until he's stable with his medication? I'm not judging him I have a whole host of MH issues but I work with my team to keep myself healthy for my kids and if he can't do that and it's affecting them then he needs to stay away for a little while.

I know right now it's draining for you because you have to be both parents and you have to be so strong for them so you need to make it easier for you and them and if that means reducing contact while he sorts himself out then so be it. In the end it will be better for all of you because when he's stable he'll be thankful that you at least had the strength to do that right thing.

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colouringinagain · 16/03/2018 23:58

He's still their dad. Too many days on the sofa

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Greenyogagirl · 17/03/2018 00:00

He’s their dad, not your problem. You clearly have a lot going on and you need to think about you and the children not him. Curl up with the kids tomorrow in front of a film or two and try to relax

LadyDeadpool · 17/03/2018 00:03

Yes he's their Dad but he should be protecting them too, if his mental health is having a bad effect on them then he needs to step back, the last thing he'd want as their Dad while healthy would be to damage them.

You need to practice self care, look after you so you can look after them. If there's been too many sofa days then what is one more? It's going to be awful over the weekend anyway use it as an excuse for you all to have some mental health days and put yourself first.

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 00:03

He's stable at the moment

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 00:08

Kids been ill this week.

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:18

Is anyone around? I sat on the sofa and watched TV lots. I'm feeling strange my head is spaced out and it's hard to move

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:19

Dcs with their dad

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NotTakenUsername · 17/03/2018 22:20

Are the children at home?

Bluntness100 · 17/03/2018 22:20

I'm here. Have you taken anything op? Medication?

Have you eaten today? Drunk anything?

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:20

Supposed to be doing a belated mother's day tomorrow

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NotTakenUsername · 17/03/2018 22:20

Ah you answered my question. Ok so you have an evening to yourself. It’s all just getting to much?

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:21

I wish I could speak to my lovely gp right now

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:22

I've had some dinner and 2 glasses of wine

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Bluntness100 · 17/03/2018 22:22

Ok, you can speak to us.there are doctors on here.

Have you eaten, have you been drinking and have you taken any medication op?

Swarskid2184 · 17/03/2018 22:22

I’m here if you want to chat.

NotTakenUsername · 17/03/2018 22:22

It sounds like they are really supportive. Can you see them on Monday? Would that be possible?

Bluntness100 · 17/03/2018 22:23

Ok, cross posted, that's all?

Then enough booze. Maybe time for bed and a good nights sleep?

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:23

I thought I'd be better without him around but I'm not so maybe I am just rubbish

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:24

Yes that's all

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Swarskid2184 · 17/03/2018 22:25

You are not rubbish.

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colouringinagain · 17/03/2018 22:25

Don't think I can sleep now. Feel a bit like I need a big cry but nothing comes out

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