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[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

Trooperslane2 treat yourself why not😊

Welcome Pannalash😊 - don’t feel I have been leading a normal life for years now. Just so desperately want to feel normal. I can totally relate to this and so can many others on this thread unfortunately☹️ Just know your not alone in feeling this way big hugs.

Thank you Trooperslane2 and Fairydust26

Feel at the moment that I am completely burned out with anxiety. I accept that I will have to start taking some anti anxiety medication have been on citalopram previously. Just want to be physically able to get on with every day life without feeling constantly terrified or that if I go into a shop I might have a panic attack. Feel like I’m swimming against the tide as I know that as far back as my Great great Grandfather was suffering from mental illness.
Fed up of being terrified that I may have cancer or another terminal illness and leave my children. I just can’t get things into proportion after a health scare that was thankfully resolved and then losing my parents in quick succession. I see my friends managing their lives, enjoying their children and feel so envious if I am honest they are all fortunate to still have their parents and I miss my Mum so much it hurts. I have 2 wonderful children and a lovely husband yet somehow I can’t stop the constant jitters and feelings of terror I’m so tired.

Hi all,

I hope it’s okay to post.
Just been signed off with work related stress as I’m in such a mess. GP and CBT counsellor both say get out and get new job but I’m stuck and see no light at the end of the tunnel

I hope everyone is having an okay day

Pannalash you’ve been through a lot and it’s totally understandable that your feeling the way you do. I always find that with health anxiety a slight twinge or whatever it may be always sends me into a blind panic that this time something really is wrong when in reality its anxiety creating these imaginary physical symptoms and it’s so exhausting. I go through stages where I’m not effected by it at all and others when it’s all that consumes my thoughts but I’m learning that not every sensation is a symptom and to just let these feelings pass and know that they’re just that. Also look up The Anxiety Guy on YouTube he has loads of insightful videos/podcasts on it that you might find helpful.

Of course NurseDread welcome 😊. Have you spoken to your work about the stress it’s causing you? Maybe they will be able to make things abit easier for you. Looking for a different job isn’t always a bad thing especially if it’s causing you so much stress. Sorry to hear your struggling at the moment .

Thank you Fairydust26 the Anxiety guys videos look good. It is so hard fretting about every sensation isn’t it. Just wish I could go back to being the old me who hardly ever worried about health and kept my worries in proportion.
Hope you’re soon feeling better Nursedread

Hey everyone, I’ve been feeling quite good the last week but had to take a sick day again today because of anxiety. It’s always Tuesday (I have mondays off) which is getting annoying.

I’m starting to learn to ‘allow’ me these days and try not to feel guilty. And to tell myself tomorrow is going to be better. But I’m starting to have these doubts that it’s only a matter of days until I get weak and call in sick again. And I start to not really believe myself when I say it will get better and tomorrow’s a new start. As if the immediate afterthought is ‘Yeah, right...’

Reike sorry to hear your not feeling great but the fact that you’ve had a good few days is great!. Did your boss ever mention to you about you being off sick last time? People don’t realise how much anxiety can drain you physically and mentally so don’t be hard on yourself for having to take days to recharge.

Fairy No, she’s been off sick and is only returning on Thursday. So that is something I still might have to face.

I guess I just feel angry that I made the decision to stay at home today, knowing it’ll make me feel low. I heard from so many people who have anxiety and depression but still manage to go to work. And here I am, struggling. I read a lot of books on that topic from people with the same illness and not one of them mentions taking days off or fearing their boss because of their sick days.

Mumof2sarah Hi, sorry only just saw your post regarding mirtazapine. I had it several times. The first time I was written off sick by my doctor for 3 weeks because it’s effecting you so much. He said it will feel like a hangover the first few days. He was right. I felt really drowsy and had the mother of all headaches. Also felt really tired. But it all went away after a week or so. It also made me fall asleep immediately in the evening when I took it but that didn’t happen when I took it again after a few years

Hi @Reike sorry you're not having a good day sending love

I took my first one on Friday night and I felt dizzy and knackered (almost like a hangover) all Saturday and Sunday but yesterday I wasn't dizzy or tired at all and I got loads done. Today I'm tired but I've got terrible back pain in my shoulders so I'm getting plenty of rest. I don't think it's linked but it's tiring me out. Thank you fo getting back to me.

Pannalash

I'm also signed off but I resigned before then - something else triggered this bout and there is no shame in it at all. My GP also told me to get out of the industry I was in (and have been for 20 years) because she has so many patients on her books that are the same as me, in the same industry.

I'm reading lots on self care. I'm shaking like a leaf today because my close friend's DC is seriously ill, again - I'm so worried about him. I'm really tearful.

But! it's a lovely day. I'm about to journal for a bit in my fav cafe, might pick DD up a bit early and go to the park. And I'm going to stay with my awesome MIL to help her through a bereavement for a few days which is good because she's at the coast, we'll go for long walks on the beach and eat ice cream.

DD is coming too and as MIL said, she's the best medicine :)

Look after yourself all x

Argh. I meant Nurse Dread.

Burnout is exhausting. I'm sleeping about 12 hours a day.

Troopers hope you’ve had a lovely time in the park with your Dd. Wishing your friends dc a speedy recovery what a worry for you all. Sorry work is so stressful sometimes we need to re-evaluate. Hope you have a good break with your Mum in law.
Seen my Gp today who is brilliant. They have prescribed fluoxetine very nervous about taking it as I seem to have developed a phobia about medication. I know it’s something I’ve got to try as I can’t go on like this. Hope everyone is having the best day possible.

Pannalash I really hope it works for you! If it doesn’t there are loads of other medications/treatments you can try if you wish just take it one day at a time and hopefully you’ll get some relief from it soon. Best bit of advice I can give is to not google peoples experiences on it when I first started taking medication I did exactly that and it made me feel 10x worse 😩.

Thanks Fairydust26 that’s good advice. There’s always one cheerful soul who say oh I took one of those tablets ....and then my head exploded . Going to give it a go. Was also prescribed diazepam and took one of those this afternoon but it’s wearing off now definitely helped me relax for the first time in ages. Take care.

Pannalash I agree with fairy dust, everyone is different and take each day as it comes.
It's going to snow and my anxiety ramps up. But only showers a lovely poster said on here

Thanks gttia fingers crossed for quickly melting snow

Thank you all. It’s the people above me rather than the work iykwim? Been soldiering on but it’s just too much now - anytime I’ve tried to speak about it I am rebuffed and it’s made out to be all my fault. Not sure I’m even in a good place to look for a new job elsewhere.
Had a nice day with DC so feeling less wobbly overall. Hope everyone is okay today (as can be!)

Nurse - I had a pretty awful time stress-wise in an old job. Colleagues were going off with stress left right and centre, HR were not helpful, management were worse, my hair started falling out and all sorts. I ended up being made redundant and it was such a relief. I liked the work, just couldn't cope with the culture in that place. I'm glad you had a better day today and hope your time off helps you recover.

Gttia - I hope the snow doesn't amount to too much. We've had flurries here tonight (central southern England) but not settling.

Troopers - I do agree about children being the best medicine, mine drive me nuts at times and I worry about them incessantly, but they can lift my spirits like no one else.

I woke up with butterflies in my stomach today, no specific reason, but I decided to follow Carol Weekes advice and get up and make a cuppa instead of wallowing about in bed, it did seem to help but boy was it cold in the kitchen. So looking forward to spring.

Wh0KnowsWhereTheT1meG0es glad the Claire weekes books are helping she does talk some sense!.

Oops, Claire not Carol. I'm rubbish at names.

Hi all hope your doing well. I’m not doing that great today could of easily stayed in bed all day but have forced myself to get up and showered feel abit better for doing so. Got family coming over later so hopefully that will be a good distraction.

Oh Fairydust hope you’re starting to feel better. A shower is always a good move. Hopefully having family round will be a good distraction. I’m really anxious today fed up of all the dizziness and have stayed in bed as I am so wobbly it’s hard to work out what is vertigo and what is anxiety. I have been listening to the Anxiety Guy podcasts which are really helpful. Take care.

Thank you Pannalash😊 it’s so hard isn’t it hopefully you’ll have a restful day and you’ll feel better for it. Glad your enjoying the Anxiety guys videos it’s very comforting to hear advice from people that have experienced similar and have cured themselves from it so there is hope for us all🤞🏻.