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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi

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Fairydust26 · 09/12/2017 15:31

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppaBrew put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hiSmileFlowers

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Trooperslane2 · 30/01/2018 15:09

I'm sorry I'm joining you again

Big hugs to all.... I haven't really been out of the house much for the last bit and went into town to meet DH, managed to - which was good and then though I was going to panic.... so jumped on the train and did my headspace app.

I'm also going to force myself to begin journalling first thing... I seem to have got out of the way.

DD is being a little shit ATM and I'm worried my anxiety is rubbing off on her (:

I'm watching the crown and the QM is talking about change being loss which I'm finding really helpful to think about

And I'm also going to stay on this thread - it's really horrible to know there are so many of us struggling.

From a practicality POV - what do you eat when you don't eat? I've just managed half a cup a soup and a small piece of cake..... weight is dropping off me

Trooperslane2 · 30/01/2018 15:13

And Bunting well done!

An email from my boss has totally set me off.... I have another thread re leaving my very stressful job and though it's the right decision I'm afraid of people thinking that it's very convenient timing.... which is adding to it.

I keep remembering the physical feelings are only adding to the mental ones and so the vicious circles continue

inthewoods4 · 30/01/2018 15:45

Well done Bunting- keep going!

Trooperslane2 I also go for soup, and oat cakes. I'm watching the Crown too- it's so good.

Do any of you take anything to help with the anxiety? I've got promethezine which is an anti histamine- over the counter. It's really good, I only take half a tablet and it doesn't leave me groggy.

Trooperslane2 · 30/01/2018 15:58

I've just been moved from citalopram to venafalaxine.

I think it might be starting to work a little bit, but that (perfectly reasonable) email from my boss asking me to do something that should have taken me 1 minute to do put me into hyperspace when there was absolutely no need....

Trooperslane2 · 30/01/2018 15:59

Keep posting everyone!

inthewoods4 · 30/01/2018 16:03

I'm on citalopram too, I'm into my 4th week on 20mg so hoping the effects will kick in soon...

Fairydust26 · 30/01/2018 16:27

Trooperslane2 I’m on sertaline but they’re in the same ‘family’ but hopefully it works for you and you get some relief from it. Things like yoghurt drinks/milkshakes are good for when you don’t have much of an appitite, also I need to watch the crown too heard so many good things about it!.

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Fairydust26 · 30/01/2018 16:29

I’m feeling good today I’ve kept myself busy and been productive think the fact I had a decent nights sleep last night has helped loads. How’s everyone else getting on today?.

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RaspberryCheese · 30/01/2018 18:16

OK I name changed so thought id throw my thoughts in here.

First of all im what might be described as middle aged male. If you saw me you'd maybe guess me younger than i am but im looking well for my age and keep fit,eat healthily etc. Im fully employed, have money etc. Mental health issues are of course not just about being in a poor position. You can be happily partnered, working,healthy,money etc apparently no problems and still have mental health issues.

It isnt surprising. We do not live natural and normal lives. There are so many demands and precious little freedom,space and enjoyment. I'l bet there are fewer mental health issues amongst for example, African tribes people who live in communal groups.

I too have suffered periodically from depression and anxiety. I had meds for a while then decided i couldnt live my life on meds so stopped. I managed.

Life is peaks and troughs.

Samaritans? Some find it helpful but personally i find no solace in mumbling down the phone to someone who just listens and humms and hahs now and again.

I find the best therapy is finding someone to have a good chat with if possible.

Long term,the strain can have physical effects on your body.

Now? well im in a steady state mode where i have built a psychological firewall and the bad feelings are on the other side of it.

Sometimes life can seem insurmountable but sometimes its because we just try to do too much and be all things to all people. It just isnt possible.

Sometimes you have to run similar things in parallel and not let them crossover.

Sometimes you have to compartmentalise some stuff to insulate yourself from it.

Its good to talk..

Bunting9 · 30/01/2018 20:10

Hey all! I managed another day at work through some tough moments - I had four people looking out for me. One of them I gave a lift to most of the way home so we had a good chat (she is prone to anx too). Back in tomorrow - you’d think it should get easier, right?!

Re food, my appetite is very much affected by anx!! Try to have something even if only a few bites. Easy to make things, easy to eat things. A small serving from a carton soup will probably provide a few more calories than a cup a soup, a few croutons could go in too. Soft rolls with cream cheese. Shortbread. Cake. Stewed apple. Yogurt. A mousse type dessert.

Bunting9 · 30/01/2018 20:14

inthewoods4 yes hopefully you’ll notice a difference really soon now!! It got me out of a couple of really big holes.

Fairydust26 · 30/01/2018 21:04

Bunting9 that’s great that your getting so much support at work hopefully now things will start to get a little bit easier for you. I hope tomorrow’s a good day for you! If not don’t worry little steps at a time😊

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inthewoods4 · 30/01/2018 22:21

Bunting, I think your anxiety will soon realise that work is safe and hopefully stop bothering you so much!

Believeitornot · 31/01/2018 07:58

Can I join please?

I’ve noticed over the last few months that my mental health isn’t right. It’s reach the point where some days I feel like I can’t breath properly.

I’ve started a new job a few months ago which has been a disaster.

It sounds silly but I don’t think the building agrees with me - I keep getting viruses and feel thick headed when I’m there. I’m much better at home, even when I’m ill.

Last night I was lying awake at 3am worrying about tigers killing my dcs BlushHmmBlush which isn’t good is it?

I need to leave my job but it’s well paid and I feel trapped. Not sure what to do.

Trooperslane2 · 31/01/2018 08:34

Believe - I've just resigned from a very well paid job that is definitely making me ill. See up thread - my boss asked for a small favour yesterday (though I'm signed off) and it threw me 10 steps back.... I am fortunate (unfortunate) that my parents are dead and we sold the family home last year, so I've resigned to study again because for the first time, financially we can afford it. I earn x2 DH but our mortgage is manageable and we can put money aside for DD for later (or she'd spend it on Frozen tat)

(have you been reading too much The Tiger Who Came To Tea? :))

There are always choices to be made.

I realise I'm lucky in a way to have the choice, but clearly I'd rather have my folks. DH's uncle died yesterday and we'll be home for the funeral - it was expected but I'm so sad. It's such a relief that he's at peace.

It's again made me underline that life is very, very short.

However, we can't be happy all the time. It's not achievable. I'm about to re read The Happiness Trap which really helped my anxiety the last time I read it.

The other thing I'm going to re read is The Naked Mind by Annie Grace. She was in a similar industry to me, much more high flying but hit the booze big time and has really practical advice about limiting or totally stopping drinking, to the point on proper sleep being a god send.

We've recently swapped bedrooms and the moon seemed to be staring straight into my eyes last night, so not a good sleep at all.

God I'm rambling. Anyway - hope everyone has a good day today/relatively speaking and we're all not too shaky. I've literally shaken off a stone and a half.

DH is jealous because he's trying to lose a bit, but I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. It shows me how much people don't fully understand how awful this is.

inthewoods4 · 31/01/2018 14:13

Does anyone else find it hard to distract themselves? I find Tv generally quite trivial, and then I end up googling articles about anxiety etc which obviously keep me focused on the problem. I just feel bored and restless...

Trooperslane2 · 31/01/2018 14:57

Woods - check out my other thread (not sure how to link) re what to watch

Loads of good ideas - I'm engrossed in The Crown and it's amazing.

BUT! don't spend too much time in the house and get plenty of fresh air. Sounds trite and it's baltic where I am...... but wrap up and get out.

Fairydust26 · 31/01/2018 15:03

inthewoods4 I google articles on anxiety too not sure what I’m trying to achieve by reading them I guess it helps me feel like I’m not going crazy. Getting out helps loads even if it’s just a walk around the block helps you focus on something else lots of distractions.

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Trooperslane2 · 31/01/2018 15:25

I feel the same Fairy.

Air.

Head space

Trying to eat little and often

Slllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeepppppppppp!

inthewoods4 · 31/01/2018 15:47

I've just done the school run- the fresh air was good but I felt such a fraud talking to the other mums. I used to be one of the more sociable ones, but this time I felt like an outsider. This is rubbish!!

bigfatmeanie · 31/01/2018 17:07

Another fan of the Crown here, love it!
Wondering if my meds are actuslly starting to work, my car broke down today (we have a trip away coming up this week) and what would normally send me into a spiral of panic was just a minor irritation. I still wake up feeling like crap and the tiredness is a problem but I finally feel like I’m starting to get somewhere.

inthewoods4 · 31/01/2018 18:11

That's great bigfatmeanie, how long have you been on them?

qumquat · 31/01/2018 18:18

Hello. Hope I can join in. Recently split from dp and falling apart.have OCD and eating disorders as well as anxiety and depression. Just feel so tired of it all. Sturggling my whole life just to keep my head above water. Sorry for the moan will come back and read properly if I can. Xx

Fairydust26 · 31/01/2018 18:36

That’s great bigfatmeanie really hope they work for you!.

Of course welcome qumquat😊

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bigfatmeanie · 31/01/2018 18:51

Started on fluoxetine almost a week ago, making me dizzy and a bit nauseous and still the odd panic but really trying to think positively.