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[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

I can't seem to cry anymore. Not real tears.

When it's dark and grey and wet and windy outside I sometimes find tears rolling down my face but they are not tears from deep inside (iykwim?). The deep down sadness just makes me limp and incapable.

I wish I had that kind of release. Extreme exercise is the only thing that helps me. There is a limit to how much if that I can do, though. I have to sit in an office all day with artificial light and heating on (which I hate because I can hear it whispering) and phones (which are one of my triggers) but I go for a really fast walk at lunchtime. I never do anything right at work but I can't cry. I just get more unhappy.

I posted this in mental health but there were no replies can I post it here?

I recently had an adult autism assessment. It seems I scored high enough on the test but the interview portion was inconclusive. The psychologist said an diagnosis wouldn’t be appropriate. He advised me to stop trying talking therapy (which wasn’t working) because my autistic traits would continue to make it ineffective. He believed I have avoidant personality disorder which is all based in feeling shy and inadequate. I don’t connect with this at all. I’ve never felt shy I just don’t enjoy talking with people that I don’t find interesting.
I also have terrible anxiety and occasional depression, including panic attack from as young as 6. His recommendation was to keep a journal. I’ve only left the house to go to therapy in a year.
I feel really hopeless. I was looking to get a diagnosis and a treatment plan and a way to move forward. I feel like I’ll never get better now.

Does anyone have any advice or thoughts to share? I’ve discussed it with my family and they are just as bewildered as I am.

Hi Luna, I don't have any useful advice, just that you will get better. Don't give up.

Hi Luna, I'm sorry I don't have any advice either as I just don't have the clinical expertise, but it does sound to me like you need another opinion, more advice or at least need to work with someone else if it's not working for you. Is there anything you can do to arrange that? Any professionals, GP or organisations who could give you advice?

I'm sorry you're suffering and hope things get better for you.

#%*+! I just can't get my anxiety down today so far, yesterday I did have a few calmer spells. I've got up, made my bed, had a shower and washed my hair, got all the knots out of my hair (no mean feat), put the radio on and tried colouring. So I am doing my best but I can't calm down.

I'm supposed to be going to the theatre tonight as my friend got us tickets for something for my birthday last year and I'm struggling - do I try to carry on as normal and to try and use it as a distraction (but I'm scared of panicking) or do I say I can't do it and then go through the emotions of giving into the anxiety? Friend is not pressurising me and does understand. I'm very jittery so far today and I've still got sinusitis (which has been one of the triggers of this anxiety peak, I haven't been well one way or another since around Dec 23rd).

Bunting9 I don’t know if you read a post I did a while ago on this thread but I was in a similar situation not Long ago, I had tickets to see my friend in her play and my anxiety was so bad I all most didn’t go I had already cancelled once. But I pushed myself and glad I did because it was a good distraction and I actually enjoyed myself. However if you feel like you really shouldn’t go don’t feel bad about that either .

Does anyone ever get a really angry feeling in their tummy? I woke like this today and it's really bringing me down today.

Thanks Fairydust26, what's actually happened now is that my friend came round, we had hugs and tears (me) and after saying how I felt she made the decision and just said we'd pick something else for another time and not to worry. She'd rather we had fun together at a better time. The theatre is 20 miles away so there's that to consider too and it really wasn't something I was terribly bothered about seeing anyway. Another friend is going with her instead and is really excited. So I've got to not beat myself up about 'failing' now (not easy).

We've also been out for a late lunch, a drive and a cuppa (decaf tea for me) as I thought it was best to get out. Can't get the anxiety down today at all but at least I got out and had company which is better than ruminating at home alone.

Man, anxiety sucks.

Bunting9 that’s great that your friends so understanding please don’t beat yourself up about it these things happen and that’s okay hugs for you😊.

inthewoods4 sorry your feeling that way☹️ I know it’s hard especially when you get the physical aspects of anxiety I really hope you start to feel better soon!

Fairy dust how is your wknd?

My trigger just been mentioned, was doing so well......

Oh no gttia☹️ My weekends been so so, Dp is away tomorrow and I’ve got a banging headache & stomach ache which I know is down to me getting into a tizzy & stressing about it. Thing is it’s no so much him go away that worries me it’s being on my own and overthinking about things or if something was to happen ect that’s making me anxious is that makes any sense?. How’s your weekend going?

Awful wknd. For other reasons than anxiety. Upstairs about to have a good cry. Not really sure how much more I can take

Hi everyone. Haven't posted for a while but still lurking.
Sorry Nettleskins has left as she was very kind and helped me out a lot but I'm so happy that she feels she doesn't need to be here anymore.
Hello to all the new friends. I'm not brilliant at giving advice but I understand and you are not alone.
I've been OK I suppose. Nothing in particular I'm stressing about but you know that feeling? As if you are just waiting for something to happen? This is my problem and I fear I will latch onto something soon and the anxiety will shoot up again.
Does anyone have "anxiety" dreams? I dream every night and in the dreams there are always problems and I wake up feeling uneasy, even though I know they are only dreams. They are usually related to things I have worried about in the past. My mind just won't let go

How do you all cope with kids when you are bad?

Intothewoods I find it really hard being a mother. I’ve had to miss Christmas concerts, school parties, doctors appointments etc because I am just out of my mind with anxiety. The guilt is crushing. It’s really hard because I constantly wonder if they would just be better off without me. But my dh always reminds me that a child would rather have their mother most of the time than not at all. It’s difficult though. Practically I need a lot of help and then the guilt cycle starts again because I feel like such a burden to everyone.

How are you feeling today gttia?

pinkcoat - Nothing in particular I'm stressing about but you know that feeling? As if you are just waiting for something to happen? This is my problem and I fear I will latch onto something soon this 100% and as for dreams I can totally relate these past few nights I’ve had horrendous anxious dreams. I had noticed you’ve been absent hope everything’s been okay? And your keeping well.

Better thanks but it's a blended family issue that is now so bad from one child that we can't spend the weekends together that all the children are here. The behaviour by one child has created so much upset that when they are here on our weekend we will spend both days apart. I'm very down about it, and I'm really questioning things because she clearly hates and resents me so much. It's got me in a bad place. How are you today?

Better thanks but it's a blended family issue that is now so bad from one child that we can't spend the weekends together that all the children are here. The behaviour by one child has created so much upset that when they are here on our weekend we will spend both days apart. I'm very down about it, and I'm really questioning things because she clearly hates and resents me so much. It's got me in a bad place. How are you today?

Thanks fairy. I've been OK. Still around but better to the extent that I haven't felt the need to post. I know that things could change in an instant though.
gttia no advice but I've been through a fair amount of upset over the years caused by teenage dd. Its so tricky with blended families and you must feel like you are walking on eggshells all the time.

Luna - it's so hard having kids and trying to navigate through this. I've got two DCs and for the past 3 weeks my youngest has been staying with his nana as there was no way I could have coped with him. It makes me feel terrible, and such a failure.

gttia I’m sorry to hear that I was bought up within a blended family and I know too well the struggles that can bring hopefully things will settle down for you soon.

inthewoods4 it’s so much easier if you’ve got a great support network around you when your finding things tough especially when they’re little. If it wasn’t for my Dm & Dp I don’t know how I’d cope so don’t feel a failure for asking for abit of help.

Today’s been okay my lil ones been keeping me busy which is a great distraction hoping I can get an early night tonight fingers crossed🤞🏻.

Hope you got your early night. We've ended the wknd on a happy note, so hard getting the balance just right. I really love work and am looking fwd to getting back into the routine tmrw!

gttia glad you’ve had a happy note

I’m going to do my best to get to work tomorrow. I last went on Thurs when I had an awful day with anx, coming home in bits and having a mini meltdown in the eve. I know the best place for me is work. I’ve laid everything out ready and am putting an anxiety care kit to take. I can do this, I can do this, I’m trying to tell myself.