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Help. My anxiety is massive.

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:27

I am really really anxious. Different things. My kids. My neighbours banging on the wall. My house and the work that needs doing to it. My ex boyfriend and how he treated me. My looks. How other people perceive me. My weight. I feel anxious about so many different things that I realise that anxiety is the main problem rather than all the things. I just feel really crap.

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:29

I can't sleep and my mind is really racing

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TyneTeas · 11/08/2017 00:34

Sorry you are feeling like this.

Hopefully someone with more helpful experience will reply shortly but I find this free app from Bristol University for anxiety is quite helpful

www.sam-app.org.uk/

Have you talked to your GP?

iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 11/08/2017 00:37

What do you do that you enjoy? I usually sew to distract myself and give myself a bit of a boost.
If your anxiety is beginning to creep into so many areas of your life though it is probably time to get some help in managing it, especially if you have children dependent on you x Flowers

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:39

I used to take ads which helped a bit. In my mind my neighbours hate me (I'm catatrophising) and I'm a bad mum and I can't cope with life. I can picture my ex sneering at me saying I struggle to cope with anything.
I probably need antidepressants again.
I don't enjoy much at the moment as I can't really concentrate on anything

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ArcheryAnnie · 11/08/2017 00:42

I'm feeling massive, crippling anxiety too at the moment, OP, and what helps me a lot is having a "comfort book" to read. Anything which draws you in, puts you in a different mood, whatever works for you. Old favourites, new stuff you have found, romance novels if that's your thing - anything which distracts and calms you is worth trying.

Books seem to work in a way that TV and radio or music don't for me.

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:43

I will try that. I need to see.the gp again but they will probably ask why I stopped talking my.anti ds. I felt ok for ages but I have genuinely crashed.

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:46

I can't concentrate much at all right now though

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St01c · 11/08/2017 00:46
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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:50

Thank you. I will try that

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:51

It's panic and I'm.obsessing about the neighbours

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TyneTeas · 11/08/2017 00:52

Why are the neighbours banging on the wall?

TyneTeas · 11/08/2017 00:53

Sorry pressed post too soon

Are they banging on the wall or do you worry that they will?

anniemac1984 · 11/08/2017 00:56

I like to read encouraging books such as a Katie piper novel or write all my thoughts and feelings down that are going round and round in my head. Sometimes channeling all the stuff trapped in your mind is a good way of being able to think bit more clearly xx

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:56

No they are. The woman shouted shut up. I was on the phone to my bf at 10.30 but talking normally and my daughter pulled her bed out when she got in at 11

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 00:57

I didn't think we were making noise but must've been

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TyneTeas · 11/08/2017 00:57

Sometimes it is helpful to rewrite the script and picture that

So instead of thinking your neighbours hate you, can you reframe it maybe, like that your neighbours haven't seen you at your best yet, but that's okay, they don't know all that you are..

TyneTeas · 11/08/2017 01:01

Cross post

A few years ago, my neighbours woke me up in the middle of the night (4amish)

Startled I shouted through the wall.

I didn't hate them but I didn't like the situation.

I had no idea why it had happened, when I shouted it was purely instinctive about how it affected me and no judgement on them at the time.

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 01:02

I find that hard to do but I need to accept that not everyone will like me

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 01:02

That helps. Thank you

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TyneTeas · 11/08/2017 01:03

Sometimes people don't have the right sized reactions to things.

There may be other things happening with your neighbours that mean their reaction isn't the one they would choose that are nothing to do with you

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 01:06

Well I initially thought they were arguing with each other. And I've heard hammering on the wall when my house is silent

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TyneTeas · 11/08/2017 01:10

There are a few good tools on the app that might help you file things away and sleep.

You might find Picture Peace and/or It's only a thought in the Relaxation section helps you tonight

Easier said than done, but sleep helps too

St01c · 11/08/2017 01:14

Very wise posts there TyneTeas.

I once read actually that it is hard to express the appropriate level of anger for the right duration to the intended target at the right moment. Or something like that. And I'm sure that that is the case for most reactions that come tumbling out, charged with emotion, from something else perhaps.

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Farontothemaddingcrowd · 11/08/2017 04:45

Slept for a few hours

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Cwandry · 11/08/2017 05:28

Now do a guided meditation, try Andrew Johnson - Don't panic