Leaving psychiatric hospital when unwell

[EmeraldIsle100]

My DD early 20's has bipolar, depression, and bpd and is currently in hospital. She was in our local hospital but got moved to another hospital about 100 miles away because she needed to be on observation and our local hospital didn't have the resources to put her onto observation. She has subsequently been taken off observation.

She is awaiting a transfer back to the original hospital but there are no beds available there. She is really scared and incredibly lonely in the new hospital which is nothing like the original hospital and her mood is going downhill badly.

She is telling the doctors that she is improving so that hopefully they move her back to the old hospital but in reality her mood is low. She feels incredibly low and thinks she needs to change her medication. If she tells the hospital this they will most likely keep her in for at least 3 weeks to supervise the change of medication.

She cannot cope with the thought of 3 weeks at the new hospital. She is struggling to get through the day and I am really worried that she will take her own life which she has tried to do on several occasions by paracetemol overdose.

Given her terror of the new hospital I think that thing she would be better off wcoming home, seeing her key worker, GP, psychologist, friends and family than being miles away from home and lonely and isolated. She could maybe get a bed in the old hospital sooner rather than later. I hve taken time off work to care for her and she could also see the Crisis Team if necessary.

I would appreciate any advice, thank you very much. She is completely terrified in the new hospital.

I just lost a long post and too tired to start again. I will try again tomorrow. Night!!

Emerald thinking of you

Thanks Longer much appreciated. Danger it didn't say parents it just said me but ended up being meaningless anyway.

DD got discharged yesterday as new hospital just not having any benefit and whilst she is on leave from hospital she can't access usual support. She is seeing the mental health team on Friday and has been referred to addiction services as she confessed that although she has only smoked weed infrequently with friends when on leave she has urges to smoke it.

She has also been referred to Borderline Personality Disorder Team. She only has traits of bpd but it should be helpful anyway.

When she sees key worker on Friday she is going to ask for an application for supported housing. It won't happen overnight and it is not without risk but she wants her freedom and so do I.

If the waiting list is long she is going to apply for regular housing. I think her living with me is stunting her development. I think she needs to take full ownership of her illness. If she falls she will have to find a way up.

I am not turning my back on her but it is her problem. I think if I died she would have to find a way to get better and she would. She spends too much energy railing against me and needs to use that energy for other things.

She also has 7 Recovery College sessions booked.

She woke up this morning and headed off on the bus to see a friend who doesn't take drugs. If she decides to hook up with dope smoking friends and go awol I will tell her she can't live here.

Fingers crossed it doesn't come to this. Thanks for reading. I hope your day is going well.

I think what you are saying makes a lot of sense Emerald she needs to take responsibility for herself and her own condition and more independance sounds like a good starting point. I think whilst you are the one taking responsibility she doesn't have to and you end up being cast as the bad guy. I hope the team can help her find her either supported housing or support in her own home.

Well so far so good! She came home at about half 9 ish and hadn't been drinking or smoking dope. She was in good form and cooked herself something to eat. She was very tired so took her meds and headed off to bed. All in all a good day in our household!

She has a Recovery College course tomorrow so we will be back on the road!. I will go for a walk while I wait for her. The courses are spread around our various locations in our area so I will get out and about a bit.

She can't do her driving test yet. DVA asked about her medications which she declared and have now asked about information in relation to recent cannibas use.

I think I will take the discharge day by day or maybe even hour by hour. I am not overly confident but am allowing myself feel a little bit normal.

I hope everyone is doing ok and thanks again to everyone who posted. You will never know how much you helped me. I don't know anyone in real life that I could have told what has been going on or anyone who I could ask advice from.

Good night and heartfelt thoughts to anyone affected by the events in Manchester. I am from Northern Ireland and we stand in solidarity with you.

I'm glad things are going better emerald. Even if the list is long for supported housing, many organisations do 'floating support' where they go out to people in regular housing (if the Tories haven't cut it all…). Referring your DD to the borderline team sounds positive too- firstly that they have one at all is excellent, and hopefully they can help her with some of those traits.

I think you're right, all you can do is take it day by day, and stick to your boundaries. You sound like a fabulous mum emerald, and it also sounds like your DD has the motivation in her to get well, I hope she can keep it up.

Glad to hear things are going OK so far Emerald as you say one step at a time.

Sending Emerald. I agree with NolongerAnxiousCarer and dangermouseisace. Take it one day at a time. It's all you can do.