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When will I ever get my jeans back on??

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NAKM · 18/10/2006 19:50

Is there anyone else out there who is struggling to loose weight, despite doing everything you've been told to do? I am beginning to get a serious hang up about this. I have been exercising regularly since my DD was 8 weeks old. I started doing "buggyfit" 3 days a week, then started to do pilates twice a week as well as the buggy fit. I eat sensibly, don't snack on junk, don't ever drink alcohol during the week and only occasionally at the weekend. In other words, have become the most boring person on earth. I have just signed up a personal trainer, as I STILL weigh EXACTLY the same as I did when I started!!!!!!!!!!! How can that be??????!!!! I still have a massive tummy, am 2 sizes bigger than I used to be and we are 5 months down the line. I am seriously depressed about this, because I'm REALLY trying.

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buktus · 18/10/2006 19:57

i have tried for years and in 3 weeks time i am having a tummy tuck as its the only area that isnt moving, ihope i will get my jeans on then , but it just drives you mad i found bf was the biggest help this time, but when you love food it doesnt help things

pesme · 18/10/2006 19:58

relax, my body hung onto loads of fat until about 8 months then it all fell off (unfortunately i bent down and picked it all back up again but that is another story.) honestly give yourself a break until about 8 months and you will lose it.

mancmum · 18/10/2006 20:02

Have you been really careful about what you eat... it is not enough sadly to be sensible or so I find that is enough to maintain your weight... loss requires strict calories countin -- why not do a food diary and see exactly how many you are tkaing in?

Also, measure yourself == all that exercise might be tighting your muscles -- which weigh more than fat etc...but will make you trimmer...

Huge Sympathies as I have been there - it is really depressing...

FillyjonkthePumpkinEater · 18/10/2006 20:04

there's a good chance that you won't lose much til your dd is aroun 8/9 months. Then it may go fairly swiftly.

perme is spot on, relax, give yourself a break, and treat yourself to lovely accessories/slap/haircut etc.

SenoraPostrophe · 18/10/2006 20:04

are you breastfeeding? that can make you hang on to fat more (presumably it changes your metabolism or something). it will come off.

what is buggy fit?

TutterIckOrTreat · 18/10/2006 20:06

i bfed for 9 months and exercised

never got in my ol jeans

realised my shape has changed. bought new ones, chucked old ones out. voila!

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NAKM · 18/10/2006 20:07

I know, pesme, everyone keeps telling me I'll get there, but I thought at least by now I'd see some tiny little glimmer of hope. But no... I can't help feeling frustrated by it all. Some days I'm fine, but others I just feel crap! Today is one of those days.

Wow, Buktus brave move. Let me know how it goes. Good luck!

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Munz · 18/10/2006 20:11

ah tutter yes, I hear ya hon!

I am BF now, I got a whole new wardrobe (don't tell DH thou) after the boy was born due to the fact only maternity clothes fitted me, thinkin they'd so for now so didn't spend much - 7 months on and they're still being well worn! lol.

only now i'm feeling the weight start to come off, but I eat copiuos amounts of choccy and have started to walk more with the boy in his buggy - my theroy it take 9 months to go on - it'll take at least 9 months to come off.

one of my mate's DH's told ehr she'd best loose the baby weight after 3 months or he'll leave her - my responce then let him bloody leave!

FillyjonkthePumpkinEater · 18/10/2006 20:14

at munz's mate's dh

twatuk

buktus · 18/10/2006 20:15

especially with three under 5 to look after as well but cant wait to hve new tum, i have lost 4 and a half stone now but that has taken a long time, and my shape has changed so many times during then. 5 months is nothing give yourself longer i find drinking a lot of water helps, i drink about 10 glasses a day to start with it might make you feel bloated but after a while you willntoice the effect

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NAKM · 18/10/2006 20:17

buggy fit is exercise in the park with a fitness trainer for new mums. It's great fun and gets you out in the fresh air.

sadly was not able to breast feed, so all the weight loss through doing that never happened. (I did express for 2 months until I dried up)

You're right mancmum, I think I do need to write down exactly what I eat. it's not like its bad food, but maybe I'm not putting the right combo's together. And am about to get the tape measure out...

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Munz · 18/10/2006 20:20

are u ment to loose weight then when BF? I've lost all bar 10lb I think don't care any more thou - apparently they recon the alst 10lb (which I recon is the tummy weight) is the hardest to shift

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NAKM · 18/10/2006 20:31

Blimey, munz. hope your mate's husband told him where to get off. makes me so mad to hear stories like that. After everything her body had been through. I am very lucky with my dh; he's very supportive. Has just wandered up and after reading him everyone's postings, which he LOL to, has offered to go to weight watchers with me so we can do it together. Ah bless!
Have to say am beginning to feel a bit better already!

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happyatlast · 20/10/2006 15:10

I think its really sad for those who cant lose the weight no matter how hard they try. I fortunately bounced straight back to normal weeks after giving birth to both my kids and as I'm sure its not something you appreciate hearing I am not trying to make you feel worse, I am simply saying its not fair on people like you, I didnt diet or exercise and I had no problems and yet you're the opposite, I dont understand why it is that way and I know I am incredibly lucky and I appreciate it so much that I am naturally this way, I just wanted to say I hope you get somewhere with it all, I really do. I'm sure if you persevere you will get somewhere eventually.

Mum2FunkyDude · 20/10/2006 15:19

I stopped bf at 8.5 months, I upped my water intake to 2.5 liters per day and 4 weeks later I was 10 cm down on my waist! I think your body holds onto some fat to make sure there is a reserve for baby!

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NAKM · 20/10/2006 18:08

I have so many friends like you happyatlast, who literally snapped back and I'm afraid to say, I thought I would too, as I've always been able to shift weight without too much effort. I think that's why I'm finding it SOOOO frustrating. But lucky you for getting back in shape so quickly. (but in a nice way!)

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MandyBOO · 20/10/2006 20:44

OMG - i have just posted a thread under the weight loss section. DS is 5 months old and i feel exactly the same way as you. Have BF, still 2 stone overwegith and still look pregnant!

No advice as need advice myself but thanks for making me feel like im not the only one!

foxinsocks · 20/10/2006 20:49

5 months is nothing

took me far longer than that to get back to a reasonable weight and even then, my body shape had changed so much that I couldn't fit into most of my old jeans

I'm impressed you can fit all that exercise in - I was still completely doolally with exhaustion when dd was 5 months old

foxinsocks · 20/10/2006 20:52

just go to Tescos (or wherever) and buy a £10 pair of jeans that fits you now - that's what I did. I felt so much better even though I knew I was sort of cheating .

It's also very satisfying once the weight has gone (which it will) that you can look at them and think how much you've lost.

clewin · 20/10/2006 21:02

i have DD who is 4 months old and i thought i was the only one that is struggling with weight loast and getting back into my clothes!! pants esp are a no go..finding tops easier to get into but then they still have to cover the belly! i am trying my best to lose weight but i always get urges for choc and sweet things. will i ever lose this weight!!!

clewin · 20/10/2006 21:03

sory message below shoul dread i have a DS - my brain seems to of stopped working too!

Judy1234 · 20/10/2006 21:59

You only lose weight if you eat less than you expend. You must be eating enough to keep your weight where it is. You need to eat fewer calories. (Easier said than done of course). Exercise helps but you have to do a huge amount even to negate just one mars bar.

Lact8HisLiverWithANiceChianti · 20/10/2006 22:09

I understand how you feel, after ds1 I couldnt believe I hadn't gone back to my normal size, had a huge tantrum about it one day and threw all of my clothes out!

I regretted it though, once he became mobile and my backside didn't sit down all day, I went back to pre pregnancy size and was left with a wardrobe of huge clothes and a sense of mourning for my lovely clothes!

Honestly, I think when you are chasing a little one around it does mean that you really don't stop for a miunte during the day, so fingers crossed that that combined with your diet and exercise will get you back to the size you want

And in the rare moments you do sit down, tap your feet, twiddle your thumbs, it does burn more calories than just sitting still so must be worth something!

clewin · 20/10/2006 22:44

thanks. I do need to excercise more but i just feel exhausted all the time! i get out with the pram every day and go for long walks but thats as far as i go! i have bought some clothes that i need to lose some weight to get into to try and give me something to aim for but think it will be a while yet!

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NAKM · 23/10/2006 08:32

Haven't yet thrown out all small clothes in a fit of rage. Need something to look at to keep me on target! But I have bought a load of "wrong size" (not telling you!!) clothes, so that I don't look ridiculous spilling out of too small jeans. I think I'm going to put away all my maternity trousers today, as it's doing my head in looking at all that elastic. SOOOOOO unattractive!

I'm off to pilates this morning and am going to join weight watchers today. Didn't make it last week.

MandyBOO, let me know how it's going. Maybe we can inspire each other to keep at it and hopefully we'll have good news story to report shortly?!!!!

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