HI everyone,
I'm new to this forum, so thanks for taking the time to read this.
I have a problem. Let me tell you a bit from the beginning.
When my wife and I got married, she moved in with me. The house she moved into is owned jointly by myself, my brother and my late aunt.
My wife and I are expecting a baby in November, and by December I will be taking a contract overseas, where my wife and the newborn shall be joining me.
We live with 3 lovely cats, whom my wife used to like.
Ever since she has been pregnant, she has turned against them. She got worried about toxoplasmosis. Although she doesn't actually have any dealings with the cats i.e feeding or changing their cat litter.
Nonetheless, she went for a toxoplasmosis test, which all came back negative. I should mention at this point that she does suffer from OCD ( contamination/disease fear). She was on Sertraline 0.50mg for a while but stopped when she wanted to try for a baby. Since she has come off the meds, her OCD has got progressively worse. It has got to the point now where she sees a specialist midwife weekly to address any concerns with her pregnancy. She has also been referred to see someone to receive CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy).
Anyway, thank god the baby is all fine.
She has told me now that she wants to move out of the house until I go overseas to work. She doesn't want the baby to be near the cats.
Moving out of the house is going to be very costly, as I'm already paying a mortgage. It would cost over £1000 p/m excluding food. She has told me that she would foot the bill for moving out from 'daddy's money'.
To me it seems a bit extreme, as this money could go towards our baby's future and anything unexpected.
The house we are in has a spare room, which would be great as a room for the baby.
She has also told me that she needs her own space. I fully appreciate this, but if she could just wait a few months until we all travel overseas, she can have all the space she needs.
I love my wife dearly, I want to help her, and would welcome your opinions on this matter. I want her to be happy but i don't want her to be controlled by her OCD. She has given me an ultimatum. Either the cats go or we move out. This is a real tough one.