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God I feel like shit today

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 13:47

I thought I had all our money sorted and that all the creditors had been sorted out so why have I received 3 letters today threatening court action? The house looks like a bomb has hit it. The kids are driving me up the wall. Working till gone midnight 3 times a week and 9 hours on saturdays is meaning that I am getting seriousley sleep deprived.

If I could pay off some of the debts I would feel better.

Any ideas on how to boost my income? I work part time and can't increase my hours due to childcare issues.

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 13:47

I just want to run away.

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 13:55

Sorry you feel so bad, any of the kids toys you could ebay?

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 14:04

Unfortunatly not. We had a massive clearout about three weeks ago and gave most of the stuff they have grown out of to friends who have just had babies of their own.

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 14:06

I am just getting p'd off as everytime I think we are getting somewhere something goes wrong.

To cap it all off ds turns 1 next month so we lose £35/month tax credits as well.

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 14:08

Have you got all the debt written down so you know what state you are in?
Whats the weather like, can the kids go outside and play get out of your hair?

Mascaraohara · 18/08/2006 14:09

Hi, sorry you're having such a tough time. Have you spoken to CAB about your debts?

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 14:19

Have spoken to various people in the past and they all started mentioning VIA's which I really do not want to do.

Our income isn't terribly low but we built up large debts before having the children. Since then we have made arrangements to pay and have been able to keep to it for the most part with the odd hicup here and there. In April tax credits decided that they had overpaid us and terminated my money till last month. Next month it gets reduced as ds turns 1. This has all had an impact on our ability to meet out comitments. We have talked to the creditors, explained the situation and they seemed ok about it all on the phone but now I have recieved these threatening letters.

Daft thing is if I went back to work full time I would be worse off than I am now as we would get little help with the childcare. Once ds is at school I will be able to pick up overtime durring the day in term time and therefore be able to pay more off the debts. But that won't be for another 4 years when hopefully if we can get through this patch most of them will of been paid off.

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 14:24

MIL has spirited off eldest child for a few hours. Leaving me with baby.

Will try and do some housework as if it is tidy I allways feel better. Would rather be sleeping though as I have to work tonight.

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 14:26

The housework is always gonna be there, it never goes away, do 30 mins then lay down with the little one and get some kip.
Get your OH to deal with the letters when he gets in.

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 14:38

DH Letters ha ha he just buries his head in the sand and hopes it will go away which is why I allways end up trying to talk to unreasonable faceless people who only want money and now!!!!!!

If DS goes to sleep this afternoon will curl up and sleep to but otherwise I might as well do something useful and tidy up.

Have spoken to the people who sent the letters, explained the situation again. Promised them some money on pay day and hope that will keep them quiet for a bit but I doubt it.

I am no longer sure if I am suffering PND or just plain old Depression. How much of it is down to sleep deprivation, money problems or thyroid problems.

Still feel like running away but have nowhere to run to.

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 14:41

At least the people on the phone should stay away for a bit.
Sleep and money and thyroid problems all at once is not good. Have you been to the doctors?

EvesMama · 18/08/2006 14:51

i know its time consuming and stresful(ive just got of phone myself!), but these threatening letter, ring them back, it may be that the letters were generated before you spoke to them.
or they didnt note it that youd rang(i really have no faith in these companis!)..try to always note who you spoke to and the date, it helps if you have to trace back over.
which job do you least want to do?...then do it!..otherwise that will be praying on your mind making you more stressed..then tidy just so you feel better and only if you have time..no rushing cos youl meet yourself coming back..good luck sweetheart.x

EvesMama · 18/08/2006 14:54

sorry didnt see that you had rang them.

sleep is major major major prob when your feeling low already, makes you feel irrational.
what if you asked to be put on sick for a few days/week? would money stop or would you still get paid?

have you contacted homestart to help you out in house with kids?..very good people!

were are you???
i would have kids for few hours for yiou while you got some sleep/got sorted????

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 14:54

Yeah I am on 125mcg thyroxine a day but need anothe blood test as I am still getting symptoms which suggest that levels are still to low. I am wondering about going back on ad'S as well but will have to fight the gp as he doesn't like prescribing them. Have tried councelling but our local MH team are crap I have been to them time and again and all they do is sit there writting notes and then try pushing me on to outside organisations that meet at times and places that are inconevenient for me to get to or involve group therapy. I disagree with group therapy as I have enugh problems of my own without taking on board everyone elses problems. Don't get me worng I will help anyone I can but I don't relish the thought of having to listen to complete strangers. It's different posting here because you can choose who you talk to iyswim.

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EvesMama · 18/08/2006 14:56

i know what you mean about group therapy

have you got a local M.I.N.D?..my sil uses them one to one and finds it very helpful..or change gp..theyre not helping you.

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 14:57

I have a homestart volunteer who comes out on Weds mornings but am still getting to know her iyswim. Don't feel confident enough to leave the room for longer than it takes to make a cup of tea. I have pnd and am so overprotective of the children. I am trying to work through it but not getting very far.

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EvesMama · 18/08/2006 14:59

you do need help if form of ad's or counselling..sometimes it just wont go away by itself.
do you mind me asking is it just recent event that make you feel this way or have you had past problems? which me have now resurfaced cos your down and tired?

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 15:04

I've been on and off ad's since the age of 16 initially due to undiagnosed thyroid misfunction. I had a few other problems a little latter on which really knocked my self esteem. I have also suffered pnd after both children. I was only offered councelling after having DS but so far it has been a complete failure as the MH team don't seem to have clue. They kept sending someone out to the house whilst my eldest is here which is no good cause I cannot talk infront of her.

Earlier this year a 'friend' thought that the best way to help was to report me to Social services because I had let the housework slide and they also alleged that I wasn't feeding the kids properly. I had 4 weeks of hell before this was all signed off.

I just want to get back on my feet again and to be able to get through 1 day where I don't snap at the children or burst into tears.

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 15:20

your not alone with your messy house either

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 15:35

Thanks charliecat I am aware that I am not alone and even joined flylady but am struggling to even do that atm.

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 15:35

I havent even signed up Is the little one kipping yet so you can get your head down? Maybe watch a dvd or something quietly and you can both nod off.

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 15:39

No but I'm not doing the housework either as you can probably tell by frequency of my posts.

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 15:41

I know, ive swept half of a room in ...oh about 3 hours

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mummyhill · 18/08/2006 15:48

Better get something done before dh gets homa and threatens to sever my life line by getting rid of pc so I won't spend my entire day on here!!!!

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charliecat · 18/08/2006 15:49

Off you go then, go get some kip tooxx

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