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I can't cope any more

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HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 11:04

Been trying really hard to cope but a recent miscarriage and break down of a long term relationship has totally wrecked me.

I'm struggling to understand all my feelings & feel like I no longer know who I am

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koTinkaBell · 02/01/2014 11:13

you've had a terrible time, it's ok to feel like this, but it's bloody horrible, I'm sure. How are you managing day to day? You sound very tired.

HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 12:34

Getting worse day to day. Am extremely tired

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NanaNina · 02/01/2014 12:34

Can you tell us more about your situation HB so that we might be in a better position to offer support. You may well have a depressive illness and loss of some kind is usually the root cause of depression. It sounds like you have suffered 2 horrendous losses at the same time and it is small wonder that you are emotionally "wrecked"

Can you tell us more about your feelings. IF it is depression you are likely to be feeling:

Sad, empty, no interest in anything, no concentration, feeling worthless, even ashamed, suicidal thoughts, wanting to withdraw and hide away from people. You may have sleep problems and difficulty with your appetite. You might feel there is something that you should be able to do to stop yourself feeling this way, as that is common in depression.

Does any of this sound like you?

Depression can be very scary especially if you have never had this illness before and you will struggle to understand what is happening to you. Depression and anxiety usually go hand in hand, so you might be anxious too and sometimes it's difficult to tell one from the other.

Hope you can tell us a bit more about yourself. There is loads of support on here. It's only people who have suffered this illness who can understand it. GPs usually prescribe medication which can be very effective.

HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 13:19

I've been to the GP and got anti depressants.

I feel so alone, empty, useless, the list could go on

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Pancakeflipper · 02/01/2014 13:26

Heartbroken, you sound utterly exhausted. How are you sleeping? Are you eating?
How long have you been taking the anti-d 's for? They take time it work. And when you next see your Doctor?

Sorry lots of questions.... i think you are on a journey to getting better. It's just really hard and pants this journey.

As Nana says there's help and you don't need to feel alone. Hugs.

HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 13:34

Hardly sleeping about 2-3 hours a night and that's not solid it's broken sleep
I've not really eaten since Boxing Day & haven't really drunk anything

I've been on my anti depressants for about 6/7 months as I was on them before everything happened

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Pancakeflipper · 02/01/2014 13:44

You need to make a YOU plan or you will make yourself seriously ill.

Try to eat a little every 3-4 hours. Not huge meals, just a little. Chicken with a little bit of rice is good. Bland enough to not upset your digestive system but give you substance.

Also please drink. Just some nice cordial will do.

Have a walk each day.

And bedtime - give your body a routine. Go to bed at the same time, read, listen to the radio. Perhaps a bath before bed. Try to stay off the gadgets asthey stimulate the brain.

Has the Doctor reviewed your meds since your relationship break down and miscarriage? Do they know how awful you feel? Or do you go in putting on a brave face?

HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 14:12

I've been in putting on a brace face as I feel I'm a nuisance if I go in crying.

I've tried eating and it just makes me feel sick. Even drinking a cup of tea make me throw up.

I try to go to bed around the same time but find myself crying myself to sleep then waking up crying

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Pancakeflipper · 02/01/2014 14:21

Heart - print this out, go to Doctors, hand it over to them to read. Sit down with Kleenex.

Please keep trying a sip of drink and a mouthful of food.

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HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 16:54

Tried eating toast and I threw it back up... Literally have no energy left to walk

Trying to get an appointment with GP but as I only see one I'm struggling

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SilverStars · 02/01/2014 16:59

Two major life events, both losses will affect you, that is pretty normal. Des not make it any nicer. I had two losses last year and both took me a while to recover from, to feel more able to carry on with some semblance of normality as it were.

Do you have any friends for some company or supportive family to be around? Maybe posting on the mc or relationship threads as well for specific support with those life events?

HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 17:10

Family are fantastic but none of them have been through it so don't understand fully.

I've spent the afternoon packing up the knobs stuff and am waiting for him to collect it

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NanaNina · 02/01/2014 18:13

Look HHL you do definitely need to see the GP again (and I totally get how hard it is to get an apt these days, but if you haven't eaten for 8 days and more worryingly you have stopped taking fluids. This can happen in severe depression and sometimes you need hospital care. Please make sure the GP knows how poorly you are.

Sending you warm wishes - thing to try to hold onto is that this too will pass and there will be brighter days ahead though I know that's difficult to believe just now.

HeartbrokenHateLife · 02/01/2014 22:27

Trying GP again tomorrow if not I may take myself to the hospital for the crisis team. I'm barely able to walk

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SilverStars · 02/01/2014 22:55

Hi if you are struggling to physically walk it is medical help and treatment that you need as soon as possible. Then you can focus on mental health support. Would you consider going to the hospital tonight or to see an out of hours dr if you can get there? If so ill you cannot travel or someone cannot take you phone 111 and they will advise you what to do.

HeartbrokenHateLife · 03/01/2014 00:50

Been dragged to the hospital by my mum who made the decision after literally carrying me to the toilet

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kotinka · 03/01/2014 00:53

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SilverStars · 03/01/2014 10:19

Glad she did that as sounds like seeing someone medical may be helpful. Wonder how you are today?

Pancakeflipper · 03/01/2014 13:27

Glad your mother is helping you. Take care.

HeartbrokenHateLife · 03/01/2014 15:24

Back home now, had a drip and wasn't allowed to leave until I'd eaten... Saw someone from the crisis team who helped a lot but I still down and crap.

Have to see someone from crisis team on Monday and then they mentioned getting me a regular counsellor

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Pancakeflipper · 03/01/2014 15:58

There's no instant cure sadly/annoyingly but each step forward is a step forward.

The mtg on Monday sounds a positive. Please try to drink even if a teaspoon of water every 5mins

kotinka · 03/01/2014 17:46

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SilverStars · 03/01/2014 18:34

I hope you can maintain fluids and foods as that will help you recover as well as other support being set up.

HeartbrokenHateLife · 03/01/2014 21:29

Haven't managed to eat as threw up at the smell of food cooking.

Managed to drink a cup of tea

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