Banishing the winter blues, warming each other up in The Village

[LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA]

Err, we need a new thread guys - I know this is Vicar's job so i hope you like the name.

This thread is a support group for those with mental health issues and generally feeling crap, some of us are on medication, some of us have help.

So come on in, grab a stool at the pub, the fires warm and the welcome is warmer - stay a while or move right on in!

All welcome

Ha! im not very good at this!

((( Nancy ))) take care driving..lovely to see a friend though.

Lots of and today to get us through..I feel so disorientated this time of year, but I too have indulged in the retail therapy, also with boots, those sound good, Lem.

People just sound exhausted.

So, getting my big fat bottom off the sofa and going swimming as dh nagging me I know it's good but I'd far rather stay here. Where it's warm, sort of.

Much love to all today, snowy, Ciq, DD, Violet, Queen, and anyone else I've forgotten

Omg it's horrible outside!!! Just got back from
G.p little mite has chest infection :(

On a plus point for the first time in a long time I weigh under 100 kilos (98 to be precise) :) that's put in a better mood :) gotta continue this weight loss me thinks - have a goal of 85 kilos to start with.

((( Love n hugs to all )))

hoochy I understand not wanting too be off the sofa I was like that yesterday but today had to force myself out to take DD to Dr's. It's just the initial push we need :)

sparkly it was chocolate yum yum & I don't feel guilty at all weight loss is continuing nicely but quite slowly. I just manipulate my diet if I eat badly. So today no lunch & a small dinner with plenty of water all day.

(((( all )))) veg'ing here

((((snowy)))) u ok?

((( Snowy )))

My new phone has arrived - much fun updating and putting apps on it

voilet what fone did u get??? It's always exciting getting a new fone

iPhone 5s - and one of the first things I do?

Google for stupid stuff to ask Siri

Lol snap I got the same phone & so do I. I think at one point I asked Siri "do u love me?" Lol pathetic I know!!!

No, what's pathetic is I just did it to see what would happen!

I got told I'm looking for love in all the wrong places - scary thing is, I'm single and he's probably right!

Oh this is all keeping me rather amused - I've got weigh in later so depending on how it goes I'll either be feeling awesome, or a bit down. Hopefully I've maintained or lost :)

Fingers crossed for u voilet re weight loss!

Siri is funny!!!

Nice phone! good luck with the weigh in, violet

I'm struggling, this blip needs to go away.

((((snowy))))

Thanks. Finding it hard with the new year, as this year just gone hasn't had many achievements, apart from going into hospital voluntarily, which isn't something I can share.

I understand snowy as that's the only thing I achieved this year too which like u I can't share with friends. Only my family know I.e brothers & mum n dad. Plus with dad having the stroke this year has been the most awful of my life aside from my horrid childhood!!!!

Haha. My DD has been having fun with Siri on my iPad you get some hilarious answers, she has even proposed!

Journey here was hellish the first 50 miles with torrential rain and blinding sunlight (felt like I was driving with my eyes shut!) but the rest was fine.

Am still smoking to ease the anxiety, tbh it's better than resorting to Valium every time and at least that way I can still drive to other places! I hate myself for smoking still managing to keep it secret from DD.

I keep reminding myself this too will pass. Is that helpful?

Smoking is great nancy glad u got through the drive today! My brothers know I smoke but mum n dad don't - want to keep it that way. Though I only smoke when I leave the house which hasn't been often last few weeks as don't wanna sm

Oke around DD! Oops posted too soon :(

This too will pass is a helpful mantra, just hard to believe at present.

for all

Hi all. Feel rather selfish for only posting when it gets too much for me but I do read all the posts and think about you all. NYE is my worst day /night of the year as it presses all my depression buttons- loneliness, everyone having more friends than me, not being in love with DH, daughter being an only child and not having siblings to celebrate with etc etc etc. just want to feel happy not like I'm drowning in a black toxic cloud. Not sure what to do with myself. I have no plans for tonight / today as didnot get invited to anything.

Someone send me a grip and tell me what to do!

jingle first, did you have a nice Christmas?

Second, I am sending you a grip, have you got a round tuit I could have in exchange?

Morning all :)

Hope everyone had a good night. Mine was so so with DD & kind of still asleep :( plus the voices are pretty darn awful...

((( jingle ))) don't feel selfish just keep posting.

Waves at sparkly & thinks of snowy

Hugs to all :)

snowy Christmas was better than expected but no as it should / could be ifyswim.

Your grip will be used to get me out of bed and into the shower - always good to be clean. But tell me what is a round tuit and I will go and see if I have one?

jinglebells - you have to say it out loud to get it "get a round tuit" :) I think i need both a grip and a round tuit. I definately need something to stop the anxiety driven procrastination that i am the queen of.

I hate new year too - but i'm not bothered about gonig out, haven't been to a nye party since the millenium and even then i hated it. This time last year I was preparing lessons and feeling stressed about not knowing what i was doing at work. The other night, i was prepping lessons in my head and feeling stressed about schemes of work for a job that i walked away from in march The job that put me back on citalopram and left me questioning if I was capable of anything significant. In terms of acheivement this year i think getting through it was one, but hey - most people do don't they. The end of the year hasn't been so bad but this is because i resigned myself to not working. Thankfully DP's business has done well (ish) and we have held our heads above water. I am scared for this year - I HAVE to be more positive, but the thought of getting a job still paralyses me and i feel disappointed with myself. I wish i could just be one thing or another - settle (settle?) for being a SAHM and embrace it - its a good thing to be, i love that i can go on school trips, be part of the PFA (even though some of he pettiness and the chair is pissing me off) and be there to pick DD up every day. If she forgets her lunch/recorder/violin or water bottle i can pop it into her class (i love doing this as i get to see her in class) The holidays this year have been the best of times - yet this holiday I have found DD hard to be around, i think its because DP is around too - not that i don't love his company too - but together i feel overwhelmed. He procrastinates too - we hold each other back i think, but we are soulmates its something we need to work on, not walk away from. Ive seen friends fall on their feet with jobs - but i just seem to fuck up, people have stopped asking me about work. I am sure most people i know don't believe i have a GCSE let alone a phd. THIS is why i hate NY, all this forced happy and reflection, oh and resolutions - i have resolutions that i want to try, but am scared of failing.

Arrrrrghhhhhhh sorry for the rant, it didn't come out right but i wanted to put it on the thread.

Snowy and dumdum - you both went to hospital this year, that is true - but you both came home, you may have to go back at times to get things tweaked, that is how you keep yourselves well - that is an achievement in my book