Banishing the winter blues, warming each other up in The Village

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Err, we need a new thread guys - I know this is Vicar's job so i hope you like the name.

This thread is a support group for those with mental health issues and generally feeling crap, some of us are on medication, some of us have help.

So come on in, grab a stool at the pub, the fires warm and the welcome is warmer - stay a while or move right on in!

All welcome

Ha! im not very good at this!

Sorry I've not popped in for a while. Been keeping a low profile and feeling pretty rubbish on my meds. I went to the Dr about 2 weeks in and mentioned my daily headaches with the fluoxetine. I've had a blood test for thyroid and liver function and got another months worth of tablets, but if I'm still ill they'll try me on something else. I know it all takes time to get things right but I feel frustrated that I'm not 'better' yet. I'm very impatient and irritable but thinking that's a side effect or just end of year grumps.

2013's not been too awful overall but hoping for much improvement in 2014. Hope you are all well or hopefully getting there. Have a good evening.

Thanks everyone. Yes lem sympathies. He is joining in a bit and had some wine and tbh am trying to ignore him a bit and not soak it up anymore (and drink more wine ) trying not to think about tomorrow...

Wishing You all a better new year, lem snowy. Lollipop, ondasher, dumdum, jingle, sparkly, ed, vicar, glabela, hoochy, ua, and anyone reading.

Thanks everyone. Yes lem sympathies. He is joining in a bit and had some wine and tbh am trying to ignore him a bit and not soak it up anymore (and drink more wine ) trying not to think about tomorrow...

Wishing You all a better new year, lem snowy. Lollipop, ondasher, dumdum, jingle, sparkly, ed, vicar, glabela, hoochy, ua, and anyone reading.

Sorry double post. Dh disappeared again. Thank goodness for d bro and sil

Thanks couloring. I've gone to bed but am mums netting instead of sleeping. Silly me as the screen keeps me awake!

Here's to the best 2014 we can get!

Hear hear x

Hello. I hope no one minds me posting, LEM suggested I take a look here. (I wasn't ignoring you, just trying to pluck up the courage to post) I don't know that I can cope with following everything so I'll just lurk in the corner if that's ok?

Best wishes for the New Year

Hi khimaira welcome. Lurk, post whatever you feel like x

Hey Khimaira - good to see you, we have a virtual pub, pull up a chair :) I can't keep up with the thread most of the time, we just bumble along really. I am being a grump as per usual on NYE, can't be doing with it - 2013 was shite, but not as shite as my anxiety made me fear it would be. I am watching father ted and am a bit the worse for the baileys. DP is still putting DD to bed this is an issue that needs sorting in the new year! I have never liked NY as it always signifies the end of christmas.

Am so glad you said hello :) Its good to know we are not alone

Just to say if you need support tonight and cant start a thread due to issues with the site . Please feel free to post here as this thread is up and running and id hate to think someone might be struggling and not be able to start a thread

Well I've had a shite night too. I've avoided wallowing on MN all evening...so now I'm going to have a philosophical waffle...feel free to skip past me.

I wonder if its a subconscious pressure we (feel we should) put on ourselves to change into 'something better/happier/more driven' overnight?

I wonder whether it is the fact that we feel enforced to feel happy tonight in isolation from our emotions that underpin the other 364 days of the year. A switch that (for me) feels so false, artificial, alien, just to perform to society.

For me that drives me to withdraw from all of society, even close friends and family. I can't help it. I don't know how to stop myself. I wonder if your dh feels similar ciq?

For me...I have felt so lonely tonight. I haven't text a single person to say happy new year. I have only received 1 tonight (from one of dds); got a couple of others in advance this morning. I did get a late invite to my (wonderful) neighboyrs earlier. I was going to go. Then she questioned whether I woukd feel difficult not knowing her other guests. So I hit tge self destruct button. I put my pjs on anf sat staring at the Wii for 5hrs. I was going to come here...to my 'friends' but I felt sooooo withdrawn that I couldn't even do that..

I've been like this for the last 3yrs on NYE - since I have been single.. I send tge dc to their dads so I can isolate myself. And then I proove to myself that I have no friends.

So here we go. I was on the up for the last few weeks of 2013. And then I hit the self destruct button...

Its just tonight ed. You only have to follow your posts to see just how on the up you are. 2014 is going to be your year because you fought and kept going and you deserve it. Fuck parties and small talk, who needs it. You are right the forced happiness is rubbish.

Changing the subject....wtf is going on here?

As I said I have avoided all forms of social interaction all night.

I've just seen JulieMNs thread and am well confused. ..and I can see how angry (justifiably) you are. Please PM me if necessary.

Hi everyone... I've come out of long-term lurking recently and decided to make this my normal username (it was originally a namechange to start a MH thread). I don't know if anyone remembers me but I feel a bit bad for never returning to the Village after lurking for a while and writing a couple of posts back in spring - I keep seeing people from here around the site and thinking how much you helped me during what was a really crappy time, even though you probably didn't realise it I'll try and stay around a bit longer this time (that's if there's no mass emigration following all the weirdness tonight, anyway )

I'll have a read over all the recent posts tomorrow, until then if anyone's still up sleep well

Changing the subject - what on EARTH happened on here last night?! I go to sleep (eventually, after the stupid fireworks) and it's all kicked off and people are saying MN is dead?!

Anyway, this morning I am mainly trying to stay happy and think of good things that are going to happen this year.

I can only think of 3, so it's not going so well.

Weclome back Tiranna - everyone is welcoem here, old and new - we take what we need from it :)

As to last night - There were so joke threads, all a bit childish really, i suspect had been taken. Juliemumsnet had been left on her own by the rest of MNHQ and she made a duff decision and shut the site down - you could post on existing threads but only from the mobile site but no new threads at all. I was worried that people may have come on needing support and not been able to post. really REALLY bad timing. I feel sorry for Juliemumsnet, everyone was pretty pissed off.

Lollipop - 3 good things? Thats pretty amazing, i have made no plans yet so nothing in the offing good wise - i'd be happy with three :)

Yeah, I've had a look around and a read - utter chaos descended by the sounds.

Anyway, I only have 3 things because they've been in the pipeline since last year: weekend away in April, friend's wedding in August and starting my course in February :) And actually, you're right, that's pretty good for Day 1 of the year.

Currently sat in PJ's, reading a skating blog and chilling. Need to get dressed really.

Hmmmm so I totally zoned out after the film as I took my sleeping meds missed all the ho ha of last night!!!

Hope everyone got through last night ok & hope today is a better day for all of us.... Though my stomach pain is saying otherwise.... I'm still in bed.... DD had been plonked on the computer watching her fav YouTube videos....so me thinks me will stay in bed a bit longer. I've got no energy despite sleeping well

Welcome back TirAnna I also missed the hoohaa last night. I still feel sleepy now

How's everyone doing?

Welcome TirAnna have some & [cake ] :)

snowy I think I have stomach flu, can't keep anything down & it hurts like hell. Dr shut today so will have to wait till tomorrow or Friday. Thinking of getting some gaviscon... It might help how r u doing today?

Sorry you're ill, DumDum32, I hope it clears quickly. I'm soso thanks, fed up of feeling sleepy, but I suppose it's better than having lots of symptoms.

Yes snowy I'd prefer sleepiness over the voices & hallucinations any day maybe try watching some tv as a distraction it worked well for me yday!

I'm watching the 7th harry potter, should be distracting.

Thanks LEM, Snowy, DumDum

I actually ended up having an ok evening in the end, despite thinking it was going to be pants - played some silly word games with my parents then watched Charlie Brooker on iplayer and felt cheerfully misanthropic. I'm still feeling alright but it's back to stressing about work now (funny how I always find myself on MN more when I have exams approaching, isn't it? )

Snowy are you starting to find the citalopram any better? I remember it was absolute hell when I first started taking it - I was eating about five meals a day and sleeping for an hour or so a night, and I hadn't felt such a strong urge to hurt myself in years as I got from the lack of sleep then. The only reason I persevered was because I was scared withdrawal symptoms would be even worse if I stopped. I'm so glad now that I did though - I really do feel like it's given me my life back. I wouldn't say I'm happy as such but I feel like a normal person instead of someone who's crazy and needy and angry all the time... hang in there, if it works for you it'll be worth it