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new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

Hi snowy don't worry if you can't cope with the long posts - we still love to hear from you.

Not a good day today - work got very stressful and I felt like I was going to explode :(

But, I am going to get help with some of the tasks that take up a lot of my time, so that my workload goes down a bit :)

Starting to think I might have an anxiety thing going on, I worry about everything. Example, I live with my mum, gran and uncle. My room is on the ground floor at the front of the house. I'm always worried someone will come in my window :( I constantly worry I'm not competent at work, and also worry I'm not a good friend. I also tend to over-think a lot of stuff - comments people make etc. I'm also a bit of a control freak - have a fear of flying linked to this.

I really, really want all of this to go away :(

Thank you.

Just really struggling with free floating anxiety and waiting for therapy. I get so easily agitated.

Hope everyone else is ok. Sorry I've not added much x

Ugh, got stomach churning anxiety about work tomorrow :( Don't know why, though. Think after today I'm just worried that I've forgotten to do something, or someone's going to get annoyed with me when I go in :(

Maoamstripes sorry we missed you - welcome. Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. I don't have much experience, but I'd have thought it would take a while to recover from a big split, so be kind to yourself, get lots of rest, try and eat some healthy stuff in between the rest.... take care.

Thanks Snowymouse for coming on. As CiQ says, don't worry about long posts, and you are usually quite brief anyway. You are always supportive to others and very stoical about your mental health issues. Did you manage to get to art therapy. Would be quite interested as I have a close friend who is an art therapist but she doesn't tell me very much about her work. I often think about you and look for you on the thread. I know it's got very busy again but hope all the newcomers will find the affirmation and support that we all need with mental health problems.

Thanks Snowymouse for coming on. As CiQ says, don't worry about long posts, and you are usually quite brief anyway. You are always supportive to others and very stoical about your mental health issues. Did you manage to get to art therapy. Would be quite interested as I have a close friend who is an art therapist but she doesn't tell me very much about her work. I often think about you and look for you on the thread. I know it's got very busy again but hope all the newcomers will find the affirmation and support that we all need with mental health problems.

Sheesh - didn't mean to post twice - sorry!

Hugs to everyone who needs it.

welcome home orchard hope you get support you need.

well had rubbish nights sleep younger 2 woke 4 htimes hubby slept through.

I dident take any pills last night and felt tired but restless at same time.

I made effort sit down with husband and had small bowl of soup.
I also picked at some potatoes when cooking his.
I probably had 800 calories yesterday I seem to work out calorie count of everything but felt ate quite a lot yesterday.

Watches some tv together but felt odd hard to explain little bit dizzy and spaced out even after I had eaten maybe the days just caught up with me.

Was up early today get dd1 ready for school as photo day today.
Husbands taken her into breckfast club whilst younger 2 running round lounge like little phychos.

Aim today is laundry, bit housework.
have to buy birthday present later.
have to do pm school run then drop off at brownies.

will have another bowl soup for lunch as feel like thats managable and warm me up for crappy pm school run.

evenings as find tricky as just want some alone time but then husband gets upset I dont want to spend time with him.

Thank you 3

Evenings are tough aren't they? I swing from not wanting to be alone at all to just wanting to be by myself, which can be hard to ask of DP as it can come across as personal.

I'm feeling a little better today. Writing a novel/story as a way of distracting myself and feeling like I've achieved something whilst I'm at home doing not much because I'm still pretty low. It's actually really theraputic and is something to keep me going til my actual therapy starts.

Hope everyone is having an ok morning

tired tired tired........long day yesterday in hospital & today I feel shattered :( :( :(

3 not surprised at the dizziness and being spaced out if you only ate 800 cal. Also at it being hard to sleep. Could you try a little late supper before you go to bed? I often find I need to eat last thing, you could have a Weetabix or something (slips down a treat) rather than the fry up which is sometimes my supper of choice

Experiments on starving rats show that they spend more and more time awake - obvious really - as of course their bodies are focussed on finding food.

Orchard writing can be a huge help. DD32 remember it's OK to rest if circumstances permit.

[hugs] to all.

thanks silvery if only I could rest. ffirst thing I had to deal with credit card company they have really stressedme out & anxiety is out the window :( I feel.really sick now & have my therapy later..... dont know if I'll make it.

Thanks LEM and colouring.
Yes I know to some extent it is natural to feel as i do after split. He was not my childs father but was there for me through my divorce and i had hoped we had some kind of future together. Also had a miscarriage with him a couple of years ago. Im having councelling and just started ads. I blame myself, but he became v nasty. Also feels like i am getting over a traumatic event. Im v low at times and feel alone even when around people and i tend to keep people at a distance at the moment. Questioning if there is something wrong with me, or if this is mild depression/anxiety.. anyway, thanks for welcoming me :-)

Lollipop - it does sound like anxiety, and it causes you to feel like shit - anxiety is the bane of my life but i do keep it under control with medication. Most of the ADs that folk take are first and foremost anti-anxiety drugs, are you taking any medication at the moment? Anxiety is a physical thing - so for me the meds are a logical thing to do, they take away that horrible fright or flight feeling i used to wake up with every day. I still react anxiously to events and i fret alot, but its managable. Speak to your GP x

I am glad you are having counselling Moam - there is nothing wrong with you, however i can't help but wonder if your low self esteem is making you settle for guys that are not good enough for you! The counselling will hopefully make you see that you are worth more and value yourself.

Dumdum - I think i may have missed, or can't remember about your credit issues - PM me if you want advice, don't let the credit card companies stress you out, they are not allowed to do that! Seriously. I had an old debt rear its head last week, it really knocked me but when i finally contacted them they were fine, i happened to mention having mental health issues and my case has been passed over to their MH team - creditors have to tread very carefully these days as the laws have changed, people have had break downs due to debt (this iss what triggered mine) and the government have done one good thing and made it so that they cannot force you into paying mroe than you can afford. Do please PM me if i can help AT ALL.

thanks LEM, i know he wasnt "good" enough but i thought i was in control, i didnt want commitment after my divorce, but he near on stalked me... :-( its really knocked me, but i am OUT and need to stay strong

Art therapy for me again tomorrow. I'm hoping it's not too cold as there are only freestanding heaters.

Hugs to all.

ooh, painting in the cold is never going to be fun is it snowy :) Tell me about the art therapy though, have been meaning to ask, i should like to do something along those lines myself - even if i go and draw something (but can't bloody draw!)

It's about the process as well as what you draw or paint or make in clay. I can't draw either, you don't have to be able to. It can be hard to access (art therapy, I mean).

OK, better day today. Work was good, even managed to cope with a lady who was very angry having a rant at me (it wasn't our fault, but a third party our company uses for deliveries).

Got 1 more issue to sort tomorrow, that could become a little headache, but hopefully we can resolve it all and it will be grand, and the customer will be happy. We're also moving desks around in the office tomorrow, this makes me unhappy, I like my little corner where I am now, I feel safe there haha!

Missing my granddad a lot tonight, feeling a wee bit tearful :(

Hugs LollipopViolet

Keeping a seat

i am so sorry i am not keeping up - just need to post really - had a good day today with ds getting a job more local to us and not 300 miles away....
but tonight i have had a stupid facebook (yes. i know. ) spat with people on our works union site thing.....people are just so fucking horrible with no reason. this job is full of absolute bastards who just close ranks the minute you say anything they dont agree with.
and ive done the most stupid thing of checking emails before work and ive got some stuff i dont know how to deal with - stuff thats taken a bit of a turn.....
feeling overwhelmed again. im up in a few hours and i cant sleep. darent take a zopiclone or i wont get up and i MUST as i have something i cant put off tomorrow.....but its all gone pete tong.....