Challenge from my Psychologist. Write down 3 positive things a day. Join me?

[fuzzpig]

Background in brief - history of abuse and lengthy depression, self harm, lots of therapy in teens inc psych ward stay. Now suffering from CFS (also known as ME) and having CBT as part of the treatment.

So, we were talking about low self esteem, negative inner voice etc, and she suggested doing this to gradually build up evidence against these thoughts. I've done similar briefly in the past but having done a lot of psychological 'inner work' this year I feel ready to make it stick and I thought doing a thread on it would make me more likely to bother!

I'm off to watch telly with DH in a mo (Big Bang Theory 6 arrived yesterday :o) so won't be back til tomorrow but if anyone wants to do this with me then jump in! Could be stuff you've achieved, nice things that have happened etc.

Mine are:

• Had my consultation over the phone for the first time - was worried it'd feel weird but I stuck with it and found it really helpful.

• Contacted a friend to arrange a meet up while he's visiting home (I hardly ever initiate anything like that)

• Wrote in my treatment journal the same day as my session, instead of leaving it for weeks!

:)

Lovely, lovely catch up with friend where I felt I helped her sort stuff out in her head.

New highlights and haircut.

Tidied downstairs.

Bought a Christmas present I was worried I wouldn't get hold of.
Organised some bank stuff.
Making good progress with Christmas knitting projects.

I would like to join in as well!
Been suffering from depression, low self esteem and anxiety for years now, started on citalopram 6 months ago and also recently started to see a therapist.

I could use some positive thinking!

Luckily today was not a bad day.

1. Made a decent effort to clean the house, at least the kitchen is spotless and decluttzred a lot.
2. Had sex
3. Had a lovely shower with a scrub and body butter and everything and cuddled up with DP tot watch our current shows

Welcome, neon!
Today:
Dd2 had fun shuffling in leaves
Had a lovely nap with her this afternoon
Ds loved his stocking that I made

Well, another day right?

1. Finally sorted out some paperwork I should have done a few days ago
2. Made a lovely meal
3. invited a colleague over for dinner next week (I can get a bit nervous about seeing colleagues outside of work so that is good )

Got offered a small, manageable job that I'm going to go for. And had the confidence to say yes to it.
Have a nice tidy house to go down to after dc asleep
Dd1's nativity was gorgeous and I felt calm watching her. She did really beautifully and her voice was clear and crisp

congrats, BBG, on the job offer!

1. recreational shopping
2. nice relaxing bath
3. found some gorgeous things for DD , which she also likes.

1. Doctors appointment, have put on half a kilogram in the last couple of weeks (I'm trying to recover from anorexia and am extremely underweight). It's hard not to want to fight against the weight gain (totally and utterly irrational) but I know it is a good thing, and so I'm reporting it as such. :)

1. Went to see the live screening of Royal Ballet's Nutcracker at the local cinema with both DDs this evening. Was very lovely.

1. Have had bad chest pains for a while, doctor finally sent me for an x ray and blood tests today instead of dismissing every medical problem I ever have as down to my weight. Feel I am actually being listened to at last.

musicposy, I hope that that is the beginning of a full recovery for you, I cant imagine how hard that must be. Congratulations!

1. Was in a very bad mood but "fake it till you make it" seemed to do its job today

uhm... it wasn't a super bad day but I am still struggling to come up with other Good Things...

1. I cooked a great meal? (again)

Tomorrow will be better!

1. cuddles from DD. really enjoyed it, considering that earlier this week she told me she wanted a new mummy and that I should just go in the bin!
2. nice family time this evening, let DCs stay up later than usual to watch a Christmas DVD all together on the sofa.
3. found a gift online for DH that he liked in the shop but they didn't have his size in stock so he thinks he won't be getting it.wasn't very optimistic that I'd be able to track one down so i'm looking forward to surprising him with it on Christmas morning.

Lovely time in town with dd. We bought material to make a dress for her bear and I really, properly let her choose.

Have managed to keep downstairs tidy and dc's rooms are now tidy too.

Gave away our old dining table to a lovely couple moving into their first house. They were really grateful and it made me glad I hadn't panicked and either binned or put in garage (which, after a winter there would have come to same thing). It's a small sign that the anxiety is so much less.

-nice family day
-Dh cooked yummy breakfast
-bath and pampering

Hi again all! Been rather lazy with this lately (and haven't kept up my treatment diary either

Welcome newbies :o

Today:
Went to my first MN meet up! Was really nervous at the beginning but ended up chatting with lots of lovely people I'd never met before - a Big Deal for me :) and I've managed not to be overanalysing myself (I tend to do that when I've been in social situations)

Have continued clearing out my emails. I have thousands of unread crappy emails - but have been going through deleting stuff and unsubscribing to newsletters etc.

Found what will be DD's most favouritest present this Xmas :o she is desperate for some 'Sparkly silver shoes with high heels' and I found some in the Disney store that are sparkly silver but are not too high. She thinks she's not got a chance of getting them so might actually explode when she opens them. I might be the best mummy ever

Tidied bathroom

Had lovely time with inlaws Christmas shopping. I felt full up happy and pleased to be out and about with Christmas music, lights and loveliness.

Dd2 slept seven hours straight last night! I was only asleep for four of them but it gives me hope and I'm going to hope lightning strikes twice and get to bed early tonight.

Hello Fuzzpig! Thanks for starting this great thread. How hard or easy I find it to post is a bit of a barometer of how I'm feeling now. And I love reading other people's too

All went ok at church thing I was organising this morning.
Gorgeous nephews were especially fab
House looking lovely and christmassy

mine for yesterday:

1. cooked a really good roast dinner, meat was sooo tender
2. DS had an extra long nap so I had a good break in the afternoon
3. spur of the moment decision to do some baking, DS really had fun "helping" and the finished product was rather yum if I may say so myself.

Hello, may I join in?

Trying to build up after stressful few months. So, if I may be so bold...

1. Meeting a friend for coffee and meditation at 12
2. Have almost finished DD's Christmas present wrapping
3. Having a filling at 5 (positive because this means my mouth will be all ready come Christmas Day, had to have emergency filling last year cracked tooth on Christmas Eve,)

Hello. Can I come in?

1. Slept for several hours last night.
2. Puppy is finally learning to ask at the back door to go out... ( if you have dogs you will totally understand that one)
3. AM going for a swim and a steam today.

Like the sound of a swim and steam. Enjoy!

I'm pretty 'hmm' at the moment not low. Trying to figure out how to be a better person.

I have seen three groups of friends since Friday - I am nice enough to have them and a social life

I had a big chat with DH on Saturday about my issues - I am lucky to have a DH who listens

I have been proactive and read some self help stuff to help me feel better.

hi there

ok. struggling today but...

• cleaned house
• managed to tell dh what was going on in my head and why I wasn't doing so good
• good stuff happening at dcs school

1. DD brought home her nativity costume and looks cute in it.
2. wrapped most of the Christmas presents.
3. no headache today, I've between getting a lot of terrible ones again lately.
4. was a busy day so feel tired now so hopefully that means I will get a good night's sleep, last night was pretty bad and I was awake way too early.

oh and am I allowed a fifth one?

1. sat down with a needle and thread and did some mending, quite a lot actually, so clothes that the DCs couldn't use are now wearable again, and hoping that it's a case of a stitch in time has saved nine for a (new! ) jumper of mine. I felt a ridiculous sense of achievement after doing this,it's the type of job I put off for so long but once I actually get down to it, it's not really too bad.

Wow! 5! That's almost greedy. :)

Managed to make phone call I'd been dreading.

Took dd2 Christmas shopping late afternoon and she loved the lights (she's 2.4)

Had nice meal out with a couple of friends

Saw my GP

spoke to my union

Managed breakfast and lunch today!