Can't stop panicking

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I am hyperventilating and feeling so panicky, I am scared and can't calm down, have been doing deep breathing but it's not working

Is there anyone around ? X

Hi, Try a mantra...
depending on what you are panicking over try to say the opposite and repeate it like a ryme.
Or, focus on something totally mundane and try to describe it in as much detail as pos.
I'm feeling a bit twitchy at the mo myself. But keep trying the positive mantras.
(Was it blood on my sandwich at dinner or beetroot?)

Hope you start to feel better soon.

Thank you for replying. I am just not sure what I am panicking about, I am trying to tell myself I'm being irrational etc it's not working

I've been like that before. It is awful. Hot stomach clenching trembly short of breath.
Not Nice.
I mostly know mine is hormornal triggered, like a few days before I am due on and when I am finishing. Today I saw red on my sandwich I had bought most likely beetroot as there were beetroot chips next to it but there is a little voice 'what if it was blood, you could have eaten someones blood they could have a disease..' The rational part of me tells me that it was the beetroot, I never noticed it inside the sandwich until after I had seen it on th edge and opened it and there was some on the inside where I had put a beetroot chip inside. I know I am sensible but I can't help feeling hot and trembly.
When I have had it before and not known what has caused it my mind would franticly search for something and 'lock' onto it with a fixation.
A few years of this has drove me crazy and my hubby! But I think I know the triggers now. Hormones. I also think sometimes if I am anticipating something that can trigger it of too. (today could be because I go back to work tomorrow after a holiday and I'm not looking forward to it!)
Try not to let your mind 'fix' on something because that only makes it worse. I know it doesn't always work but find a favourite book and read your favourite chapter and think if your character was feeling like this what would they do about it? I have done this and then got so into the book it has helped other times the words just keep disappearing!
Some of my mantras are;
I am fit I am healthy there is nothing wrong with me there is no need for anxiety.
Heart beating fast and heavy? Congratulations! Your alive!
Humans make mistakes and sensible people learn from them and move on.
Use your overactive imagination to do something...Write an exiting story extract, sketch a wonderfully weird picture or dance.
I hope some of this might help.

Thank you alwaysworried that was so helpful, thank you for taking the time out to write to me. I keep having them I've had 4 since I wrote that, but I'm gonna try the tips on the next one.
Xxxx

So pleased I could help. I really sympathise. I thought of something else I have done in the past and that is find as many words as you can out of another word say 'September' and work through the months or famous peoples names. This helped when I couldn't sleep, though if you are with a light sleeper they might not like the paper rustling or pencil scratching!
I hope you do start to feel better and the tips help. x :)

Am panicking again but trying what you have said. Repeating to myself that I'm healthy and ok and nothing bad is about to happen x

Hi

Can you try listening to a relaxation cd.? I also suffer with panic.

Look up breathing techniques for panic. that really helps.

Do you know why you feel like this. Are you stressed. Have you got a lot on your mind. What are you thinking about.

Hi, thank u for replying I do have some relaxation things I listen to but it's become more of a problem during the day, at work or when I'm driving. I try the breathing techniques and I am able to stay relatively rational but there's a point where it gets out of hand which just scares me.
I am stressed but I can't stop being stressed I don't know what I can change to make it all better
Thank you for your reply xxx

It isn't always easy to get out of a stressful job or situation. On T.V. they make it look easy but there are usually complications in real life, like money and time!
I'm sure there are other Mumsnetters out there who have 'broken out' of a stressful situation and may be able to offer better help.
I just suffer! (cos of the money and time!)

My jobs a break from everything else to be honest! It's home and thinking about or being told about what's happening at home that is the problem

:(
Would a change of routine make a difference?
Write a rota to change the workings of things...
If it's people, that's trickier. A friend of mine recently had some problems with her daughters and there wasn't an easy solution, they just had to muddle through, though she did say that talking to them a lot helped and whether that was the trick or they have just got through it naturally, things are better with them now. I'm not very good with people problems really.
I hope someone else can help too!

Thank you so much for all your help.
I'm in a bad place tonight feeling v low and everything is dark but am doing ok with the panicking
Thank you x

((((hugs))))
Glad your managing the panicking, that low feeling is rubbish and unfathomable and wallowing in it feels weirdly righteous and unreal. But it will pass, just keep talking and looking for as many good things in a day as you can. At times it won't matter that that 'the way the sun shines through that glass makes a rainbow' (sorry a bit corny!)and then one day it will hold your attention for a moment longer and something will lighten inside.
Heres a treat... !

Thank u I only had one panic attack this morning I want to cut but I am trying to distract myself
Thank u lovely x

Oh, don't cut. You will only regret it later. It's not worth it in the long run.
Well done distracting yourself.
Think of something to treat yourself with for doing so well even if it is an extra long soak in a bubble bath.
Keep being strong!

Can I ask a question?

If something baddish happens, do you then cope well, or fall to pieces?

I gave in and cut so pissed off at myself
yellowballoons
I'm usually good when things are happening I.e calm and decisive then have some bad attacks in the days after.
Am all shaky now

I presume there is a backstory to all of this?

Was in a very long emotionally and physically abusive relationship and caring for my parents Etc
I am v low today
Thank u for replying x

You sound like you have had too much on your plate.
Have you had a break this summer?

not this summer no but am trying to find some respite for october hopefully
I don't know if i can do this

Have you seen the GP about everything you are going through?

Not really. My gp knows I was diagnosed with depression a few years ago that's about it x

I think that you really do need to see your GP.
For yourself, and also, I am wondering if you will be able to get some respite help as well?