Support Thread for anxiety .

[RockingAroundTheBloodyXmasTree]

This will probably on have me post on here, but another kind mn'er advised me to start a thread for people who are worried about the supposed doomsday on the 21/12/12.

I, myself am worried. I suffer from anxiety anyway, and this is just another problem in the long list!

I am worried because i think i won't be able to protect my kids.
I worry because i wonder if the government are covering it up.
I worry incase Nasa are wrong and we are hit by a rouge asteroid no one knows about.

Thanks mumwithtwokids.
I am trying to 'get a grip'. I have sought advice from a gp.
I am very sorry you have has a serious accident, but i cant hep how i am feeling.

You will get through the other side but only with the right help.

Phone your GP tomorrow. I am sure I will not be the only person who will check back tomorrow to make sure you have done this.

Explain everything, not just about 21/12/12 but about your fear of death and illness and your panic attacks. Tell them you feel like you are struggling to cope and you need help. They will have heard it all before.

Push for counselling as well as meds.

I would ask MNHQ to move this to Mental Health and change the title to Support thread for Anxiety. I think you realise that is not about Friday.

Rocking - Your GP needs to refer you for counselling. My DS lost his friend 1.5 years ago. He suffered terribly and had very similar symptoms to you to the point I thought he was having a mental breakdown. A children's councillor saw him for 6 months and he's back to his normal self.

Please go back to your GP as you can help how you feel but you need someone to help you achieve that.

There's a difference between anxiety and 'being a natural worrier', just as there's a difference between depression and being a bit down in the dumps. You cannot 'get a grip'. You cannot 'just snap out of it'.

Yes, phone the GP tomorrow. Don't leave this hanging, you need your rest. Lack of sleep can make things seem worse and start a vicious cycle. Don't neglect your mental health or think that it won't be taken seriously.

I agree too that moving this thread to mental health will help, you'll at least cut down on the 'get a grip' posts.

Agree on moving this to Mental Health - you might also find it useful to have a look over there, rocking, there always seem to be a couple of threads about anxiety going.

Panic attacks are horrible, DP gets them, it's terrifying for him and quite unnerving for me. Not to be taken lightly at all.

I see what you mean about ex-mil, but maybe it's just any kind of illness that can set off your panic, no matter who it happens to IYSWIM.

Glad your DH is supportive, and hope you can get help.

Ah, I missed that about your best friend. Sorry to hear that.

Yes, I am sure I have read that anxiety disorders can be triggered by specific traumatic events.

As eau said, totally different being a natural worrier and suffering anxiety.

The thing is if it wasn't this it would most probably be something else so you really need to see a gp. Sorry if youve already said, i
sleep deprived, are you on meds? Having cbt? If yes maybe a different med or a higher dose. If not definitely cbt and something to help with the anxiety.

Sorry that you are suffering with this. You need to address the problem f the anxiety, as everyone else has said.

Specifically about Friday - why would you (you as in generally people, not YOU) logically think that an ancient race would have the strange power to predict the end of the world? It's like something from a sci-fi film. And the fi stands for fiction. Humans have never been able to predict things. I may as well say that the pixies told me the winner of the grand national in 2046. It's utter stuff and nonsense. I'm not trying to ridicule people's beliefs at all, I am a bit cross though that these silly-funny things do often end up in people feeling very scared and vulnerable.

Please please don't worry about it. You are going to have a nice Christmas.

But yes, you need to get to the root of this anxiety.

Dear Rocking, "Feelings are not facts" as 12 step programmes say so it's very understandable that your feelings aren't being defeated by logic. I'm sure you'd put these thoughts aside if you could but for the moment I want to suggest two things I have found helpful at really difficult moments.

You don't have to live through the next 4 days all at once, can you just focus on what will help you get through the next 5 minutes or the next hour? What do you need right now?

Also the Samaritans are really good to talk to at any time of the day or night and they really are there for times when you feel like this. I think their slogan is "whatever you're going through, we'll go through it with you" Samaritans contact.

Remember that difficult and frightening as you are finding this time you are bearing it and getting through it as best you can and you are not alone. xx Is

sorry, tea time here!
Not on meds, no.
what is cbt?

I feel like crying now, you are all soooo lovely!
i have hardly any friends in rl, so you all trying to make me feel better and all the lovely advice is really touching.
You really have no idea how much this means

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.

www.counselling-cbt.co.uk/about-cbt It's like training your mind to process things differently. My sister had some to help her with her drinking.

This explains it in more detail

Ah.
I had counselling when my friend died, and when i had pnd. though my dd1 was 15 months when i was diagnosed!

Every person on here is a real person with a real life and you have reached out for help and support which is very moving and wonderful. People you can see and talk to will be there for you too when you reach out and we will be here helping you to find them. Remember every time you contact an unhelpful GP or other person-you-hope-will-help-but-doesn't you are a step nearer finding the person who says yes, I understand and I can help xx

Aw, rocking, you sound isolated love.

Make that doctor appointment. And I think someone may have already linked this, but the Mind charity's page on anxiety has a really good, clear explanation of anxiety disorder (if pretty long).

Also, I've no experience of this myself, but I think PND can take a long time to diagnose, can't it. Particularly if you are a "coper" who just carries on and struggles through, despite feeling awful a lot of the time.

i am quite isolated i suppose.
My dp is on nights, my dd's are asleep and im munching my way through a box of festive friends alone.
way to try and lose the 3 stone ive put on.

Baby steps! Get your head straight and losing weight can follow. Don't be too tough on yourself, you can't sort everything out at the same time.

ARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHH!
Why can't life be simple!
oh my god its so hard. I know there are lots of people so much worse off than me and i should be grateful.

No, don't start that! Don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. It's OK to recognise that you have no particular reason to be feeling like this, but that's why you get help- blaming yourself will just make you feel worse. Mental health issues and feeling sorry for yourself are not the same thing!!

Have a on me, once you get the ball rolling with counselling and/or meds then things will start looking up. :)

Hi rocking, reading your post I honestly want to just cuddle you up, you were me 3 years ago :( worst time of my life, I worried about everything! I was convinced I had something wrong with my heart, or cancer or lungs.

It go so bad I couldn't sleep and one night I woke up and had a awful panic attack, I though again it was my heart!! I went to the doctors convinced I was dying (24years old) for her to make me realise it was anxiety (my dad died) and she offered me anti depressants, I took them and my life has changed!!

I'm a natural worrier anyway, and this Friday has been bothering me, but I KNOW it won't happen, but I still think oh god what if!!

I just try and rationalise it, I think ok worst case senecio is we for, but at least we will all be together and reunited with love ones, seams silly bit I try and put a spin in it and in a silly way make it to a positive exsperience!! Not sure if I come across weird with that one!!

Big cuddle for you, I wig I could say something to ease your mind and everyone else's but I think d00inmycleaning's post are fantastic.

thanks lady, thats a really lovely post.
Im 25. i keep thinking im going mental.
i cant get the motivation to do anything.
When my dp 1st met me, he used to say that i had ocd with cleaning and tidying.
even when i had dd's i was hoovering, cooking etc by 3/4th day home.
Now they are 4.8 and 18 months and are easier to manage, eg playing together, the 4 yr old will help feed her little sister etc i cant summonds up the energy to do jack shit.
Like now the kitchen needs hoovering and mopping
lounge needs a hoover and dust.
hall needs hoovering
2 baskets of laudry to put away, one in the tumble drier.
bathroom to clean.
and i need to wash my hair.
(my house isnt a hovel by the way!)

Yep that was me, my dh also says I have OCD but then you would be lucky if I got off the sofa, when the dc were at school I would
Sleep, get up eat, go back to sleep, didn't go out, didn't want to do anything!!!

I remember wanting to actually pull my own hair out because I thought I was going mental, the un nerving feeling in my stomach drive me nuts!
If it wasn't me I was sitting up googling for it
Was the kids "oh my god they have a cough" "oh my god something is wrong with them" it was almost as if I was looking for something to worry about and then I would obsess about it, google, cry, the lot!!
It really isn't a nice way to live and I promise you you don't have to feel like this way, I just wish I didn't waste my years this way and sorted it sooner!!!

Don't get me wrong I still worry just a "normal" way a mother does :)
My little ones have a cough now, and I don't freak and there babies so that in its own is a huge achievement!

Also about Friday, if this was 3 years ago I would of been in a awful awful way, very much were you are now and I can just feel what you are feeling a it makes me so sad, again it's awful way to live and and until you have been there you can't know what it is like!!

I'm happy to hold your hand through Friday and I'll be about anytime

Hand holding would be good, thank you
google and nhs direct are my best friends atm!
my dd2 (18mth) is coughing her guts up in her cot and im sitting here feeling the panic rise in my chest in case she is sick or has croup or whooping cough or an infection.
Crazy crazy lady i am.