urgent!emetaphobe home alone.ds has thrown up down the stairs!

[liveinazoo]

ive gone to pieces.......
the only support i have is a partner of 10years and he is refusing to come as is working a sleepover at a residential unit with mental health clients
my son is sittin gon the stairs surrounded by a pool of vomit
ive never been able to cope with sick and cannot even manage to be around anyone being/been sick
what the hell am i going to do
some body talk me through this bloody mess

[MrsGrieves]

It's funny liveinazoo but I used to be quite emetophobic when I was small, pg and working in a hospital kind of put paid to that though, it was kind of normalised, although I do still freak out (in my head) about other people being sick.

The spider thing is odd, I was once terrified, but the fear seems to be getting less and less for some reason, I'm still not keen on the massive ones, but they just don't seem to bother me anymore??

[liveinazoo]

ha ha
i started an insomnia thread...
think everyones gone to bed now though!

i doubt i shall sleep tonight

it seems easier to have a cat nap in the day and the dcs are aware if they dont feel well

zoned out has gone very quiet-hopingshe has managed a few hours sleeep at least

[frantic51]

Must admit that I am beginning to nod slightly. Poor you zoo Is ds settled now? Are you beginning to, "come down" and feel a little calmer yet?

[liveinazoo]

sadly my damn top up went at 2.30 and i have just ran to the shop adn got some more credit

i was awake all night fretting

bloody knackered now,thank goodness the younget is 5 so i can catnap.it seems easier to nap in the day as i know they more aware if they dont feel well when awake!

ds asked for some water at 6.30

he very tired but hasnt gone back to sleep

he has just had a rice cake and is playing upstairs with siblings-i will struggle to have him too near me all day-usually this will go on for 4-5 days but i have firmly set myself just today and we will resume "normal" behaviours tomorrow it willbe a few more days yet before i stop panicking for myself and start eating again though

i will be on the insomniacs thread again later

[Iceaddict]

Hi. Just noticed your post, a friend of mine had this phobia. She was just like you. She overcame it with hypnotherapy. Took a few sessions but with each one it got easier. She's now fine and when her dd is poorly she's absolutely fine

[liveinazoo]

sadly i dont feel proud myself belgianbun

bloke rang and all he kept banging on about was the kids being upstairs,not around me.despite the fact he works in MH he an be such a thoughtless arse sometimes-i dont need anyone else to beat me up ove rmy problems


he is picking up the washing for me after work and will pop it back tomorrow on the way back in as i cant handle it in my WM

gonna try and grab a nap now.

[frantic51]

I, too, am sorry about bloke being an arse but glad he, at least, is going to deal with washing. Don't get me started on ocd about what can and can't go in WM! I, too, have very strange, "rules" about such things! One of the things that made my ex H so exasperated with me that he left Though I swear it was partly his controlling and EA behaviour that pushed me into it. Never used to be like that when we first married

[liveinazoo]

one my exes got progressively "dirty" just to annoy mefrantic

we were together 5yrs and it was ok for 3 of them,then he started doing things he knew i wouldnt like and eventually in snowballed....

ffs who sits on the loo eating chocolates then wants to bring themdownstairs to "share"

he also stopped washing his hands before eating ,and eventually after going to the loo-at that point i chucked him out

as for washing-his mum did his laundry as i boil wash socks

he said i shrunk them.i say better be clean and small!

[liveinazoo]

just to check on ds as dd2 said he was asleep
he woke up after a few minutes of calling him
he proceed to projectile vomit all over himself and his bed and floor

now im really freaking

i lobbed down the sawdust again but im torn between struggling with my fear and a small boy dripping vomit from his hair looking tired and weak

the smell this time is over powering and im sooo out of my depth

do i tackle him or the mess first?

[BeaWheesht]

Him, get him cleaned up and then sort the rest

[zonedout]

Oh goodness, was just having a very quick check in amidst a floor full of Lego when I decided to have a quick check in. Poor poor you. Am holding your hand.

Right, one step at a time. Deep breaths (outside the bedroom and/or could you open a window for a bit?)

Pop the poor little thing in the shower or a nice warm bubble bath for a quick clean up. While he is in there, grab some clean pj's & bed sheets. Another deep breath.

Now, without really looking pop all the dirty bits and bobs into a bag or big bin liner, tie up and leave for dp to sort.

Another deep breath. now wash your hands with hot water and soap. Pop clean sheets on the bed, possibly covered in towels so should it happen again you can just remove the towels rather than strip the entire bed.

Help ds out of the bath/ shower, into clean pj's and back to bed.

Tell yourself how amazingly you are doing. You ARE coping you strong, amazing woman.

[zonedout]

apologies for some of the nonsense I wrote, was multi tasking with a Lego lorry while I wrote it.

[liveinazoo]

thanks zonedout

thank god bloke turned up for the washing 10mins ago-i was trying to rinse banana sick from his waist length hairat the time...

i couldnt do the bed-the folds of the duvetsecreted littel pockets of it that i hadnt librally sprinkled with sawdust and the smell got to me

i did the floor though,as bloke wouldve ended up jusst sweeping a load toys into the bin too

thankfully only a playmobile tree got a bath in it so i launched that!

dad dried and cuddled him

hes very lethargic and complaining of a very sore thoat-is that normal?

he has drunk about a pint of water todayin sips,and had a bit toast,a rice cake and the banana

hasnt weed since first thing.should i be worried?

im worried now he has something the girls will get as i assumed as he hadnt eben sick again he was ok and they bin playing around him.petrified im gune be ill-i would raher slit my own throat than let that happen

dads just left to go and wash the coats etc and pick up a fever strip
he will be back in around an hour.am i be unreasonable to ring out of hours for some advice?

[liveinazoo]

btw he now snuggled back up on the bathroom floor under a duvet with a bowl

his hair is now in a bun on top of his headand i will be checking it regularly to try and prevent anymore hairwashing as he so weak dad had to support his weight in the bath while i tried to wash it

[frantic51]

Oh zoo! So sorry, been out and missed all this! I would say no more to eat now until hasn't thrown up for at least 12 hours but plenty of clear fluids in little sips as lack of wee does point to dehydration. Stopping solids will also make the vomit less in both volume and smelliness. You're doing great, don't be afraid to ring for after hours advice. Here now and holding hand! Hope your dp is back soon. xx

[zonedout]

Yes, I second what frantic said. Def no solids for at least 12 hours. Try a teaspoon of water at a time. When you do re introduce solid food maybe try a piece if dry toast to 'test the water' then move onto other very bland foods and no dairy for a few days.

[liveinazoo]

he bawled his eyes out when dad left to go home and have a bath/eaat

he not a well boy-we had blood tests done a few wweeks ago as he seems to be constantly ill and is a slender little thing that gets weak really quickly when unwell.he has been shown to have small red blood cells and is on iron medication and we are meant to go back to the gp in a couple of weeks with any illnessess he had since last visist...since 20th october he had a cold and night wheezing,then another cold and monday he was struck down with conjunctivitis-we only stopped the eye drops yesterday then he was ill last night!

he has a reversed chromosone and they dont know if that is causing any problemshe seems to have caught up with his milestones but illness plagues him

i rang out ogf hours-i have roughly a 2hr wait for a call back as it a wweekend and very busy!

[TheSilverPussycat]

Just stumbled across this thread, MNetters at our finest. Hope it doesn't sound patronising to say I am heartwarmed by this thread and impressed by all. Thirding frantic and zoned on how to deal with the actual illness.

[frantic51]

Oh poor little soul! :( I take it dp is coming back? You're doing soooooo well, zoo. Hang in there honey!

[TheSilverPussycat]

x-posted with you, poor little DS and poor you...

[liveinazoo]

thanks silverpussycat
ive said it before and i will say it again
Mumsnets a saviour in a crisis!