I can't cope anymore, I've had enough

[nutcracker]

The kids hate me, the house is a tip, I can;t keep on top of anything.

Dd1 wants her dad to come back and me leave instead and tbh i think it's a great idea cos they are obviously all hating being with me.

I can't keep up witt the house work, everytime i try i turn round and they've messed it all up.

I just feel so crap.

Blimey Fiestybird that makes erm interesting reading

Ok i feel ever so slightly better now. I cleaned the bathroom whilst the kids were in the bath and have washed up the stuff from tea so I don't feel quite so overwhelmed now.
Have decided to buy one of those washing baskets with 3 parts, cos i seem to spend more time sorting the washing than washing it..

Oh my dad rang to so I had a good moan to him and he to me and i think we both felt better by the end.

Thanks for being here guys, it means alot.

Oh meant to add, i've told the kids I am going to write up a jobs list that they have to do each week. Haven't decided on a reward yet.

Glad to hear it nutcracker, it just rises at that moment doesn't it. I'm thinking not so much of a reward for the kids, I'm thinking more along the lines of "we're a team, so I'll do this for you if you do this for me" or "what do you choose to help with tonight" in a smiley voice, never a voice raised and don't budge from the responsibility, the smile or the low voice. Let them learn consequence, but with a smile and a quiet voice. It works but its bloody hard to hold the voice bit (for me anyway!!)

Glad you're feeling a bit better. Keep going, one day it'll all be different.