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Doctor told me to just pull myself together

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mamaslittlealoo · 20/06/2012 13:52

I need some advice. I have had depression before (in my early teens and also PND) and I feel I may be slipping back in to it. I have a big change coming up in my career and we also have horrid home situation involving my stepdaughter. I'm not sleeping hardly at all - I just lay in bed awake worrying about naything from trivailities of the next day, to things that might happen to my daughter who is at infant school.

It's been going on for a couple of months so yesterday I finally plucked up the courage to see my doctor.

He basicaly told me I have nothing to worry about, he arrived in the UK with £15 in his pocket and he managed to get out of bed every morning. I told him that some days it was a struggle and that I was finding it hard to go to work every day all day, and then have the energy to look after the house duties and car for my daughter, support my husband with the problems he has with his dd etc. He said "oh i suppose you want me to sign you off work then? is that why you came here?" I told him it wasn't which was the truth - I wouldn't get paid if I was off for a start.

He says he doesnt "subscribe" to depression and I really need to pull myself together in order to be able to care for my daughter.

I feel worse now than I did before and had thoughts of self harming for the first time since i was 14 years old. I don't know if to be angry or sad.

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mamaslittlealoo · 20/06/2012 17:28

She ran through a list of questions and came up with come kind of score that means I need to be referred on to them... I've spoken with them this afternoon and they will call me on Monday for another assessment. That's 4 days away.

Knowing myself as I do, I think I need some drugs to level me out for the interim period whilst things get sorted out. The therapy charity website says they offer "short-term" counselling. My 20 hours barely scratched the surface which I think is fairly common so I'm not sure how much effect that will have. Seems to me to be one of these bizarre government inititives, something to do with targets no doubt.

Having my symtoms ticked off on a list and then being sent on my way has made me feel even lower and to be honest I really don't have the energy to do anything else.

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mamaslittlealoo · 20/06/2012 17:30

I'm kind of playing it down but if I hadn't had my daughter with me when I left the surgery I think I would have walked under a bus. I haven't felt as low as that in a long time.

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CatPower · 20/06/2012 21:16

I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. You go to a GP expecting an understanding ear at the very least, not to be made to feel an inch tall.

Definitely, definitely, definitely register at another practice. You and your daughter deserve far better.

MrsMicawber · 21/06/2012 10:05

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mamaslittlealoo · 22/06/2012 00:01

Hi, that's kind of you to ask. Sorry the reply is late.

Hmm, it's an okay day - I guess. I'vebeen really busy at work so not too much time to think. I'm really tearful though and cried during DD's bedtime story because it was vagualy emotional ("Dogger"!?)

I just feel so.... sad.

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SlinkyB · 24/06/2012 23:31

Have you thought any more about seeing a different GP? Your posts sound so sad, hope you get help soon

gingeroots · 25/06/2012 10:22

mama thinking of you .
Please try and find the strength to register with another surgery ,I don't want to make you feel worse but think of it as doing it for your daughter .
She needs a mum who is feeling better .

from me as well .

MrsMicawber · 25/06/2012 12:11

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nannyof3 · 25/06/2012 12:21

Complain about this doctor and go and see another one !

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