Not sure where to post. How long before you can report a person (with mentsl health issues) as missing?

[Marne]

Hopfully it wont come to that

Dss(19) has disapeared, was ment to be going to the doctors at 10am (not sure if he went), his mum left him some money to put electric on the meter, he has taken it and disapeared, he's left his phone at home (very unlike him) and no one has seen him all day, i havn't got a clue where to start looking. He had a break down a few months ago and ended up in hospital for 3 weeks, he seemed to be improving but then started to return to his normal depressed self (being lazy, not getting out of bed ect..), last week he emptied his mums bank account (not sure how this happened and i don't know the details). His mum has phoned me as she's worried, i spoke to him first thing this morning as he phoned to ask for the gp's phone number (maybe that was his way of asking if i could go with him?), i now feel guilty that i didn't offer to go with him . I know that chances are he will turn up and will be fine but a part of me is very worried as i don't know what his mental state is (i have not seen him for 2 weeks).

How long before worry and report him as missing?

What a difficults situation for you :( Just to reassure you, alcohol and ADs aren't recommended together becaue alcohol is a depressant, but its unlikely that they will react together and cause a big problem. It is not to be encouraged though. You sound lovely

:( Most antid's won't negatively react with alcohol - but depression itself will, and people report antic's as not working as well as they could when alcohol taken too - tho that may be more about the fact that alcohol is a depressant - you sound like you've both (you and DH) have an awful lot on your plates :-(

Ex wife must be very drunk or she wouldn't have called dh (she knows how he will react, dss2 is only 16 and has probably been drinking with his brother and dss1 really shouldn't be drinking with everything else going on), i just hope dh isn't too angry at them (i did offer to go and get them for him). Fingers crossed they wont be drunk (maybe we should trust them more but its hard after all that has happened). . Dh should be back soon x

How did it go last night? X

Luckily they haddnt been drinking (they had been at a friends and just wanted picking up from outside the pub), dss1 had not been home sinse thursday and he was very smelly (not washed), dh took them home and dss1 wanted to show dh his letter from DLA so dh could explain it to him, dh was trying to explain but dss1 was zoned out and not listning (his brother had to keep calling his name to get his attention) , we are worried he is having a relapse. Dh has asked him to come over later to watch the football (we shall see if her turns up). His brother seems to be keeping an eye on him (as his mother is away) but this seems unfare as he's only 16, dss wont come and stay with us because he doesn't like the fact the dd's get more attention (he has said this in the past).

Ridiculous to expect a 16 year old to keep an eye on a potentially relapsing individual ... Poor boys :(

Is there any way you can call his team? Did DH manage to discover who he was under?

I don't think the hospital can tell us anything, we have phoned them in the past and they have been secretive, i don't know what we can do.

He came over yesterday and addmited that he hadn't taken his anti-d's sinse thursday (because he wasn't at home), we knew something was wrong (either he had touched drugs again or stoped taking the anti-d's), dh took him home and made sure he too them last night, his mum was still not home so dh had to leave him on his own . He was ment to come over today after collecting his dla money from the post office but he never turned up, dh has been trying to phone the home phone but no answer. Hopfully he will continue to take the tablets, if not then i dread to think what will happen (he will slowlly sink again).

God how hard :-( Can find out your local Crisis team number if you want to PM me where you are roughly?

I have the number for the crisis team (i had to phone them last time) , dh keeps trying to phone dss but still no answer, we will try again tomorrow. Last time the crisis team managed to get him an appointment with the mental health team the next day but this is no good if we can't even contact dss.

No absolutely - but depending on the gravity of the concerns they can try to track him down plus/minus police support if needed x

I'm not sure what to do (its all such a mess), dh and ex w do not communicate, we have tried phoning every day and no one answers. This morning dsd phoned as she had missed the bus for school so dh asked her about DSS1, apparently he has not been home for days and does not have his medication with him (ex w is doing nothing), ex w knows where he is but we dont, we can't get hold of ex w (she wont answer her phone). We don't know what state he is in, wether he is taking drugs. He is with a friend (so at least he's not on his own) but we don't know the friend, he could be anyone .

:( how awful. She sound attrocious :( Crisis will often offer advice if nothing else?