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i have had enough, i want out of this life.

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misdee · 18/01/2006 20:11

thats it. i cant take any more. just want to give up. no more, just stop it all now. i cant cope, my life is falling apart. my girls deserve better than me. peter deserves better.

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moondog · 18/01/2006 22:31

Misdee,was going to flag up Home Start.
Glad someone else has.
Like everyone else,just want to say that what you are going through would be more than enough for a group of adults to cope with,let alone one mother.

Get onto your GP and HV. That is why they are there.
You and your children need and deserve extra support.

XXXX

Aloha · 18/01/2006 22:36

Look, you've had the vomiting bug in your house so you are exhausted in every possible way. It won't last. HOmestart will help. Peter is very wrapped up in himself. It's normal and natural and he cannot appreciate you atm. Doesn't mean that what you are doing is not fantastic. Being in hospital and seriously ill often makes a person unable to look outwards.
I am not in the least surprised you have reached the end of your tether. I get like that with a FRACTION - a microscopic, teeny, invisble to the human eye FRACTION - of what you are enduring, day in and day out.
Ignore the MIL. She also has her own issues. It's not about you it's about her and Peter.
Have you contacted any local colleges about getting a nanny trainee on work experience? I did. Fantastic. Not totally reliable, not the best nanny in the world, but so nice to go and have a bath!
Oh, and get your dd2 on fish oils asap!

Flossam · 18/01/2006 22:45

Oh Misdee. This is so understandable. Of course you must feel like this. Relatives get worn down within days or weeks, let alone months like it has been with you and Peter.

What is the situation with the possibility of Peter coming home again? How is he getting along? What is his state mentally? It is very hard for a person to spend such a long time in hospital. How do you feel he is coping at the moment? Is he free of infections?

Have you told him how you are feeling? I think if you told him more calmly how you were feeling then he might be more understanding. It can be very hard to keep a sense of perspective when you are in effect trapped every day. But then, it is trapping for you too.

Could you go and get your hair done, nails done, facial, massage, anything, all of the above? I know DD3 is still tiny, but how old are your other two? Are they both usually in school? Could someone just have DD3 for a while whilest you did the above? A friend and I had our hair done yesterday, we took turns and looked after the boys. I felt almost glam today .

You so do need to take some time for you. I can't imagine what it must be like for you atm. I moan that I don't get out much. I dread to think how much socialising and 'fun' stuff you manage to do. You do put things in perspective. I wish there was something I could do to help you. xxx

VeniVidiVickiQV · 18/01/2006 22:50

Misdee, i have taken ibuprofen and diclofenac (aka voltarol) whilst b/feeding.

Honestly, if there is anything i can do to help you please say.

xx

lucy5 · 18/01/2006 22:54

I think the trainee nanny is a great idea. My friend did this and it bought her some valuable me time, things like having a soak in the bath or sitting in the garden reading a paper.

FrumpyGrumpy · 18/01/2006 23:38

Hey sweetheart. Too much for one person.

Kids plus illness plus broken nights equals major stress and thats without everything else going on. You're stretched every way and you probably feel everyone is missing out. You are doing your very best.

Be as kind to yourself as you can, in whatever way you can. When its all too much for me and my head is bursting with it all, I pile everyone in the car and drive about anywhere just to listen to some music and let the brain settle. Sometimes its the only way I can get some peace in my head. Sometimes I just break as many rules as I can and I feel better just rebelling against anything. Shout f a lot, that helps too.

I hope you get some peaceful sleep and that tomorrow brings a better day honey x.

Weatherwax · 18/01/2006 23:49

misdee you are such a good mum, and a good person. I've followed your threads and felt humble. All those things I moan about are nothing compared to things you deal with.

You must look after yourself, I can see you are the sort of person who likes looking after other people but you can't do that if you don't look after yourself at the same time.

I do so hope things get better for you.

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sparklymieow · 19/01/2006 00:42

me and Dh are going there tomorrow to do a tip run, put a hutch together and tidy up with Misdee, hopefully it will make her feel a bit better.

mummyhill · 19/01/2006 08:55

good on you Sparkly, Misdee is lucky to have a good friend/relly like you. Make her sit with her feet up for a bit if you can!!!!

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