Not feeling like me anymore

[yabbs]

Hi i hope someone can help i have a 15 month of son who i love so much but I just do feel the same anymore I am not the bubbly person I used to be. I am just someone wife or mum not me anymore I know it sounds selfish. I am just fed up with being uphappy I have been like this for a while I just dont like myself anymore.

Hi yabbs. I'm not really in a position to offer any advice at the moment, but I wanted to let you know that I had read your post and am thinking about you. NASWM

Thanks having a really bad day today. see we live in holland no family and at the mo not alot of friends. just wish i could be happy again,

I'm in the same position Yabbs, no family or friends nearby, just moved. It's important that you have something just for you in your life. Somewhere you're not a mum or wife, you're just you; could you join an evening class or anything like that - something that has nothing to do with children (much as you love him). It's so easy to lose your identity - you're a strong person. Good luck.

Try to have half an hour to relax tonight when your Ds is in bed. Run a hot bath add some nice smellies and just wollow. I'm going to do the same tonight. Hang in there. Let me know how you get on tomorrow.

Thanks I am thinking about going to bed early as ds has been teething and not sleeping well thanks for listening.

Thanks I am thinking about going to bed early as ds has been teething and not sleeping well thanks for listening.

How was last night yabbs?

Not to bad I got a bit of sleep too. My little one started creche today and loved it so thats sometime how are things with you?

That all sounds positive yabbs. I'm okay thanks. Didn't get the soak in the bath last night though. Keep me posted how you are.

PS Do you think you know why you are feeling like you are? Is it a sudden thing? Or more gradual since the birth of your ds?

I feel like this on and off I think I need a group of freinds and like you said something for myself. I feel very icolated were I am my dh is in the army but its a very small unit so that make it harded for him too. I have also but registering as a childminder and its taken over a year but once I am registerd and working I think that will also help.I am also looking into being able to do some driving lessons over here as I have taken two test in the uk and failed It would be a great help driving too.I dont know I feel my life change since I had my ds is a shock that you cant do all the things you used to do I have also put on weight which I cant seam to get rid of. sorry to go on its sound like my life story.thanks for listening

I feel like this on and off I think I need a group of freinds and like you said something for myself. I feel very icolated were I am my dh is in the army but its a very small unit so that make it harded for him too. I have also but registering as a childminder and its taken over a year but once I am registerd and working I think that will also help.I am also looking into being able to do some driving lessons over here as I have taken two test in the uk and failed It would be a great help driving too.I dont know I feel my life change since I had my ds is a shock that you cant do all the things you used to do I have also put on weight which I cant seam to get rid of. sorry to go on its sound like my life story.thanks for listening

How was your day Yabbs?

Not to bad really. Didnt sleep very well little one was up again so felling a bit sleepy. Have to get up early tomorrow as have to attend a frist aid course ( part of registing as a childminder) How about you how has youre day been?

you around naswm?

Hi Yabbs I popped in earlier and am having another flying visit now. Difficult this evening as DH is around and wants to know what I'm up to...

How was the first aid course? I hope it was good. I'm okay. bit up and down at the moment, but more up than down this evening which is good.

Got to go now but will pop in again when I can. Do CAT me if you want

Dont know hace to cat? It was a good course it was also nice that dh had to have ds for the day as it the first time he has had him a whole day since he was born. Ds now sleeping very well must have got about 3 hours sleep last nigth and the night before.

HI naswm you about?

Hi Yabbs. I'm here for 5 minutes before bathtime. You okay???

How was your day Yabbs?

Yeah fine having a bit of a down day today. Hope you are ok? of to have an early night need to get a good night sleep little one at creche tomorrow so a least get a couple of hours to myself. How has youre day been?

Hi Yabbs Sorry to hear yesterday was not a good one. I really hope you can have some time to yourself today. Make the most of your DS being at the creche and focus on yourself for a bit. Ignore the housework and other chores. Do something that you really enjoy - read a book, listen to a favourite CD, go for a walk (it's very cold in London today though so dont know what the weather is like where you are!). But basically try to forget about everything for a little while today and be yourself again, not a mum, not a wife but YOU. good luck.

Thanks naswm Today is a better day my son seams in a better mood and I got some sleep last night which help thanks for all you help and advice Hope everything is ok with you?

Hi naswm How are you today I am having a bit of a crap day my dh has gone on a lad night out and I am on my own just me and my ds. Wish I could go out. Men seam to have it easy.Missing home tonight.

Sorry you are having a bad day. I am too so haven't got many words of comfort tonight, but I am thinking of you.

Hi NASWM Sorry to hear you were having a bad day too. Hope everything is ok now? My Husband came home last night and was very drunk but has paid for it today. so part of me is gald I don't go out.