i messed up

[JAPE2K]

i really messed things up @ home by gambling on fruit machines and i have lied about where my money was going my girlfriend has had to put up with hell of a lot from me which i think is very good of her as some of you may know when you stop playing the bloodyn things you need to sort yourself out before any1 else which i feel very depressed and angry with myself for haveing to put her through it but its done and i cant change what i have done if i could i would i need to get myself sorted and get xmas over with then we can start to try and make it work which would be the best thing ever to happen to me i have said she can have all my bank statements and wage slips but but she wants me to get a mini statement also but it isnt going to help me get back on track again with her keep getting on to me i know she has every right to but i need to sort things out in my head before anything please let me know what you think...

wrote that before the previous two appeared saying the same thing...sorry

I've got numerous threads on the go about buying/selling houses.... and advice about mortgages!! I know I could ask a financial adviser.... or contact the bank.... but I like to talk it through with 'normal' people and not those with an alterior motive!

Jape/Colditz - Good luck with it all, I hope you all have a lovely 'gambling-free' Christmas!

Jape - If you're still reading this I just want to put my 2 cents in. My DP went through a gambling phase (just before I met him) which ended up with him stealing from his workplace and going to jail for 2 months. He told me from the beginning (about 3 wks after he got out) and I kept an eye on his money for the first week. My main thing was watching him not his money.

We went out, we did things together so that he wouldnt spend time on his own bored. He went to work, he came home I went round we watched tv or went out. I even went to an arcade with him where I played the machines with him, he learnt that when he was losing he left the maching. Now I trust him even if he says he's going to the arcade.

I understand your DP's point of wanting to move out because she worries that you'll gamble the money, not because she doesnt love you. Try speaking to her again, tell her you dont want her to move out but if she does you can understand. Don't argue and ask her if she can wait till after xmas if its a big worry for you.

I hope this helps and Good luck to you and your DP for xmas and the new year.

thanks to all for letting me post it made me feel a bit better to getb it off my chest.

Aw Jape don't think of it as us 'letting' you post! You can post whenever you want, its an open forum...... DESPITE how some MNers behave.

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