no orgasm since 14!!

[Baba]

anyone got any advice. I have only ever once had an orgasm with a man (boy!) when I was 14 and it was obviously a fluke. I have them on my own but just don't with a man. I have slept with a lot of men and am married now (although having an affair) and neither of these men make me come, although I pretend that they do all the time. Any advice? PS I do try and relax!

mm lovely

I thought I'd do orgasm with sliced potatoes and red cabbage

There is something odd going on-never known so many stereotypical Womens' Issues to be grouped together....

Dysfunctional background
Low self esteem(yawn....)
Lack of sex drive
Work/Life balance (double yawn)
Affair
Baby hunger (triple ywan)

Moondog - She's a journalist.

lol OO! Happy Birthday!! I had a double helping of orgasm last night served up with lots of Gin.

actually I'm not a journalist - I work for a fitness company in Nottingham - I initially discovered Mumsnet a few years ago when I was trying to sell Aloe Vera and didn't realise I wasn't supposed to advertise my goods!!

And thank you all so much for telling me what you think of me. I thought MN were supposed to be good at giving support - you've just made me feel worse!

What do you want? Praise? Huggy hugs?

Haven't read your other thread, but having an affair's not usually something I get the bunting out for. Sorry. If there's a good reason for it, I'm sure someone will set me straight.

Sooo, you start a thread about the World Ending, about how you are having an affair and are about to leave your unsuspecting husband, about TTC and about not having an orgasm since you were 14. Blimey, you've got a lot on your plate haven't you?

If you are for real, be a good girl and let your dh find someone he deserves, i.e. someone NICE!

CRSEIH you are a total charmer aren't you.... don't hold back now.

Thanks for the constructive criticism anyway.

Some people do have more than one problem.

hmmmmm are we sure she is a troll? Thread is a bit nasty if not. There is a baka as well which confuses me no end.

It is still my birthday however, that much is true.

have u considered sex toys?

And you are being filmed by the BBC Making a Baby? You're full of charm yourself! Just which man are you supposed to be making the baby with? Give it a rest!

anal beads i hear are good.

oliveoil, happy birthday.

As for the other people (you know who you are) I think enough is enough and I won't be using MumsNet again - I can't believe people can be so nasty about other peoples opinions - yes, I know my mind is all over the place but I have so many subjects in my head that I just type them as I think/feel them. Obviously I need therapy. Just thanks for being so blunt about it.

But Baba, you're a bit mixed up are you not?? If you're having an affair and want to leave you H, why would you be ttc??? >confused<

AND it seems the mention of the word affair gets the hackles up on some MN'ers and after that you're real question gets lost. Perhaps you should stop going on about the affair!

Another confusion..... I could probably understand you having an affair if you couldn't have an orgasms with your H and the bloke-on-the-side blew your mind and made your eyeballs pop out with screaming orgasms......

But why hell would you put in the effort to fake it with 2 men?????

Sweetheart. You are cheating on your dh with another man who is also attached and you all work together. You've only been married a year, you have a son and, by the title of the BBC documentary, are looking to having another baby? You cannot get an orgasm and are worried about the end of the world. What would you think if someone posed all those questions to you?

I actually do think your dh deserves someone better, yes. And I think you need therapy.

Baba, think your name says it all, really. Grow up, perhaps?

SackAche, PMSL at the effort needed to fake it with two men.

God, I'm going to hell. But honestly, this is not real, right?!

Baba - Stop flouncing..... you've done that before! And so have I!! Still here though..

I'm just worried that you are trying to have another baby.... but are having an affair..... and don't want to be with your H. Please can you try to make me understand why you would want to do that to yourself?

Not sure if this is a wind up or if you genuinely have just got lots of things that you need to talk about at the same time, (I can relate to that I do it too).

But to help with the orgasm question, and also being embarrased about showing your DH what feels good, what about something like this?

Nookii
Might make a nice christmas present? you can then keep out the cards that you really liked, and put together your Fav session.

Just a suggestion

H x

Hunker - I always give people Huggy hugs!!! Please dont anyone think she was implying that im Baba

i hear the \3 way rabbit is also good here (whispers, i used to work for them )

Tamba, no, didn't mean you!

misdee what are anal beads?Although I can hazard a guess

erm i think ann summers sell them too, posibly under love beads. peters friends (male and immature lol) used to flick through the catalogue.

LOL Misdee, i didnt know you used to work for them too! I did until a couple of months ago and then i quit, but got a letter this morning asking me to come back but i dont think i will

Phew Hunker!

I haven't read any of Baba's other threads and don't know what she has done exactly to upset you all so much, but I do feel a bit sorry for her treatment here. If, as I am right in thinking, she is having an affair, thinking of leaving her dh, and trying to conceive, what makes you think her inability since the age of 14 to achieve orgasm is one problem too many?

Also, if we are flinging mud around, why doesn't anyone express shock that she was having sexual intercourse at 14? Just a thought.

don't think it would be good for my heart!