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Is anyone around i am in bits and have no one to talk to

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anyone3 · 30/11/2010 16:57

I can't even explain what is wrong properly it sounds so pathetic. There is no one close to me I can open up to and I din't want DD to see me crying

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 01:28

sorry libster I am in Kent

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ShanahansRevenge · 01/12/2010 01:28

Of course it's fine to call the staff up...and the entertainers, I would...you won't be the only one either, other people will be doing the same thing.

You could find out the likelyhood of gym staff not getting in...ie do they have to come far? Same with the entertainers.

You could also do a facebook thing or text arund of the parents who'se kids are coming just to try to check who thinks it will be ok for them to get there.

These are all perfectly reasonable things to do in the event of a big snow.

If the worst comes to the worst and you think that there wont be enough people able to make it...then rearrange it...does not have to be at the same venue.

Mt DD is 6 and her best mate reorganised her party at he last minte due to her Dad being ill...we all still went!

It happens quite a lot with kids this age...on DDs actual day...you could d soemthign special as a family.

SparkleSoiree · 01/12/2010 01:29

Bromley, is that far away from Bexleyheath?

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 01:30

Thank you all so much you are very kind to help me. Organising things are v difficult for me due to my anxiety, re-scheduling causes panic (I know pathetic) but I will just have to get through this

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 01:30

not so far SS

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thelibster · 01/12/2010 01:31

K looks like you're in for some more snow tomorrow, easing off on Thursday and Friday is going to be bright and sunny though cold. so that's not too bad. Do you have a lot of snow right now? Is it causing problems with transport?

SparkleSoiree · 01/12/2010 01:32

www.metoffice.gov.uk

This will give you a better idea..

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 01:34

thank you libster so much - yes not too bad from what you say. Lots of snow now yes that's why I am so concerned. Nothing I can do, just get through it. Thank you for your help I just have to pull it together

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SparkleSoiree · 01/12/2010 01:34

ok - well a friend of mine in that has said they were under a lot of it today but it seems that could be it...

Try and be positive, and also mention it in passing to your DD to get her 'on board' should you get to the party day and have to reschedule...will be easier for her if she thinks it is a possibility.

Although I am hoping/thinking you will be fine Smile

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 01:40

Thank you SS I have thought of doing that to DD just to prep. YOu have made a difference int the way I feel thank you for your good thoughts

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ShanahansRevenge · 01/12/2010 01:42

It will be fine...if it needs rearranging it just means a few phone calls and text messages...and then a lovely day with DD anyway.

But chances are there will be no need to rearrange. x

thelibster · 01/12/2010 01:48

K so it looks like the situation re transport in your area isn't going to change much. No sign that it's going to get much worse but no sign of it being significantly better. So, if I were you I'd make a list of calls to make tomorrow. 1)Gym to check if they are open and if staff are getting in ok. 2) Entertainers, the same, are they managing to get to their bookings ok. If both these say no worries then as Shanahan suggests, fb or ring round parents of kids invited and see how they are getting about. If all checks out ok go ahead and enjoy your party. If, after speaking to people you still think it is in danger of falling flat in some way because of the weather, see if you can change your booking or cancel. It doesn't matter if you have to change the venue, it really, honestly doesn't matter if you can't get the same entertainers. Clippityclop's idea is brilliant. Tell your DD that she's going to have an extra long birthday this year. I know, I really do know how important your DD is and how important it is to you that she has a terrific birthday, but she will have a terrific birthday whether she has it at the Gym with expensive entertainers or whether she has one or two special friends to tea at her house and a "big party" later when the weather is better. And that's because she'll have you there and you are the best mum she could wish for because you're her mum and you love her so very, very much and it's that that will make her happy you know Smile

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 01:56

YOu are incredibly kind. That list is good for me to work through.
The entertainers are the gym staff so luckily they can tell me who will be in for the party and I was thinking of texting everyone on friday if they confirm all is well "the party is still on, be great if you can make it blah" I can't really face 16 phonecalls. I suppose if on saturday there is some kind of freak blizzard I will have to call everyone and cancel completely but then go back to ours and try and make it up to her and then re-plan another party. The best scenario I am hoping is even a v v small party but at the gym itself.

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clippityclop · 01/12/2010 02:05

It sounds as though you've got a great grip on things now - well done. Enjoy a wonderful time with your daughter - will be thinking of you.

thelibster · 01/12/2010 02:06

Even better that the entertainers are the gym staff. Makes life so much easier! And if there is some kind of freak blizzard as you say it will make the rearranging a breeze! I always find it good to make an "action plan" list if I'm awake late at night and worrying, cos once you've written it all down you begin to feel more in control and then the anxiety should begin to subside a bit, hopefully enough for you to get some sleep!

I know that your DD will have a wonderful day on Saturday whatever you do with her because you'll make it fun! Even if it's only building a giant snowman with you and a few friends and having hot chocolate with masses of whipped cream and mini-marshmallows at home afterwards! She'll have a great day because you will make her feel so special and loved. She's a lucky little girl to have you for a mum!

lovereading · 01/12/2010 02:11

I hope that all works out for you and your dd.

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 02:18

You are all such kind people. Do you know people close to me in RL today have known how upset I am and not reassured me in the slightest, I just went on a down spiral and ended up here tonight. Thank you for all your good thoughts I will try so hard to be strong

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thelibster · 01/12/2010 02:27

Let us know how it goes? We'll be thinking of you. You know, I'm sitting up fretting about getting down to my DS in this bad weather and making an "action plan" of my own to calm me down. Grin Blush You're not alone, or strange; we all stress about our DC! You're a very normal, lovely, caring mum!

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 02:35

I will I promise. Thanks again for helping me I am still scared but I have step by step plan now

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anyone3 · 01/12/2010 21:05

Sorry - moved on from dramatic title, but can you all send me some good thoughts/ vibes for my DDs birthday party on Saturday.

I know it may not seem like much of a big deal but she has been through a lot lately and if this party goes ahead it will mean the world to her. I know we can't offset nature's wrath but I just want her to be happy on her special day so bad.

Thanks Smile

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thelibster · 02/12/2010 00:49

Hi anyone Sorry I haven't been around this evening but I had a bad fall trying to dig my car out (slipped on the snow Blush). But remembered you from last night and was thinking of you and your DD and just wanted to see if you had posted anything new. Smile Of course I'll be thinking of you between now and Saturday and sending lots of positive thoughts and prayers (hope you don't mind if you don't believe in God?) for everything to go well for you and that she has a wonderful party. Must go to bed now and try and rest my back and shoulder where I banged them when I fell. Goodnight! :)

clippityclop · 02/12/2010 01:02

I've been thinking of you today too. Come back and tell us how it goes! She's bound to have a fantastic time, but don't forget these things seldom turn out exactly how you imagine and are all the more memorable for it. Go with it, relax and have fun with your little one. I'll check back on Sunday. Take care.

snowmash · 02/12/2010 02:08

Sending good thoughts for your DD's party...hope it goes great and everyone has fun!

ChippingIn · 02/12/2010 02:22

Anyone - I hope you are tucked up in bed fast asleep.

There's always someone around when you need to talk :)

I am really sorry that they people you have in RL are so dismissive of how you feel - sometimes we don't really 'hear' those nearest to us :(

I just had another look for Bromley and it's light snow until Sat then sleet, so you should be OK. (I use the BBC one, you put your local area or PC in & it seems pretty good).

ladypop · 02/12/2010 12:47

Hi there.....you sound like such a great mom who is simply trying to do something lovely for her daughter. The thing is, you are putting so much pressure on yourself to be the PERFECT mom, that anything less just makes you feel rotten. There is no hope in trying to be perfect - none of us are!!! but you are a brilliant mom and your daughter knows that, party or not. You have no control over the weather, you do know that? Therefore, just go with the flow and make the best of it. I have a feeling it will all turn out well whatever happens because you will be there and she will love whatever you get up to.

I have been stressing that I have not bought my DS his Christmas present yet and that it looks like I don't care enough about him or I would have bought him loads of stuff already. The fact of the matter is I have been working really hard recently and have not come up with the right idea for a present yet and also know that he will get loads from other people too (it is his first Christmas!). I have to stop being so hard on myself and you need to as well xx