Coping techniques

[KatyMac]

I'm using 3 atm
The first is just labelling it as 'just worrying' or 'just stressing'
The second is mindfulness, which is about being in the 'now' I think
& that prayer "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." is the third

What do other people use?

I have text messages from friends on my phone - when they've texted me back when I've been in distress or just messages of support. When I'm struggling or when I can't sleep again I read them all over again.

Flinging myself right into the moment and doing something with ds often helps.

And just telling someone I feel rubbish and get some support.

DD is struggling
DH is out of hospital but I'm not sure how much better he is

latest bug

DD is about once a fortnight - DH & I were supposed to go yesterday, I went by myself

My private counselling is going much better (I think)

Kind of - it's fine unless you draw attention to it. But sometimes it just goes

The counselling is odd; she made me say how hard it is when DH is ill like this; and then asked if it upset me

I know you have had a difficult time recently - how are things?

Yes but there I was in floods of tears barely able to function because this might be the time he doesn't go home & she asks how I am feeling....it seemed bloody obvious to me

Then she asked how I lived with it & I said most of the time I don't but when he is ill it surfaces & when we plan to far into the future it surfaces & then she said everyone does that

At the moment, as soon as I feel that knot of stress or anxiety in my stomach/chest, I am trying to recognise it as 'a natural but unhelpful physical reaction'.

I don't deny it. But I don't let it overpower my thoughts and feelings. That's the plan anyway!

I was busy telling her how I didn't want to be a single parent & be alone & raise DD & that I was scared and sad

I don't know she pushed awfully hard

The other lady was so different

Faaamily, that sounds good