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Just about had enough!!

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sparklymieow · 31/08/2005 23:46

I got up this morning to find my car had been egged, after all that has gone on with Apeman and co. It was a final blow, I had to clean it off. Today some kids from next door and 2 doors up have been kicking their ball against the car, DH asked them to be careful and they said the car shouldn't be parked there! (on a driveway BTW) and now a MNetter told me that I should just let the kids play and cars are not the be all and end all.
I have enough today, it feels like I am fighting a losing battle, my kids won't wear the shorts and splints they are supposed to wear for their cerebal palsy. Dd2 keeps telling me she hates me, and Dd1 won't do as she asked and keeps screaming at me. I can't do this anymore.......

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Distel · 31/08/2005 23:48

Just keep thinking of that lovely new house you will have soon.

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sparklymieow · 31/08/2005 23:49

I can't Distel, its all too far away!! I just wnat to run away and get away from it all......

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Distel · 31/08/2005 23:51

I don't meen to sound condecending but with everything you have had to deal with you are bound to have bad days.

This is my my first time but ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

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sparklymieow · 31/08/2005 23:52

DOesn't help when a MNetter is telling me I am overreacting and kids can do what they like, basically I just want my life back to normal

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QueenOfQuotes · 31/08/2005 23:55

sparkley - I don't think she meant it like that - that particulaar poster has been around a while, but doesn't post very often. She maybe just didn't know the history???

Aero · 31/08/2005 23:55

It's late and I'm off to bed, but couldn't ignore sparkly so ((((((o))))))s from me too.
Just try to keep positive and looking forward - that new house really isn't too far away.

Distel · 31/08/2005 23:55

I read the post and it did sound like someone who had not followed the antics of apeman and diddn't say it intentionally to hurt you.

Try not to take things on here to personally, you know what you have been through and you know you should be proud of yourself. I know why you are upset, but do try not to let it get to you.

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sparklymieow · 31/08/2005 23:57

I know, I did explain it to her. I don't want an agruement on here, I have enough shit in my life without the hassle of shit on here.
I just feel so down!!

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Distel · 31/08/2005 23:58

I'm sorry but I have to go to bed. Tomorrow is another day and all that. hope you feel better xxxxx.

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sparklymieow · 31/08/2005 23:59

I should go to bed soon myself, I have a delivery at 7-8am!!!

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QueenOfQuotes · 01/09/2005 00:01

I bet at least you haven't done what I did yesterday.........lost it with the kids, yelled (well screamed actually) at them and got myself completely hysterical - felt myself getting close to wanting to whack something so went to open the back door to go outside to calm down.........

Realised the back door was already open and our next door neighbour - a lovely man in his 70's - had half his family round and they were all sat in the garden (very low wall so they could see and hear everything )

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:02

why am I so down though?? I should be happy!!

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:03

No, I haven't lost it with my kids I even managed to calm Dd2 down when it was bedtime, and she is a real daddy's girl.

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QueenOfQuotes · 01/09/2005 00:05

There you go see - you're not fighting a losing battle - DD2 can't hate you as much as she says she does if she let you calm her down

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:08

took ages though, she was having a paddy because she wanted to play on the swing and it was bedtime Dh couldn't calm her down enough so I had to do it, also dd1 got up earlier and I took her back to bed and she was saying about me staying with her, I said no, go to sleep and she did.
Ds has been giving me lots of hugs today, he said I looked like a popstar earlier, bless him....

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QueenOfQuotes · 01/09/2005 00:09

time taken is irrelevant you still did it

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:15

I know I can manage my kids, I know they love me, just feels that everyone else is against me. I have missed another one of Dd1's eye appointments (I feel terrible) with everything going on, I keep missing them, although I haven't missed any of DS' physio appointments, but they are weekly. I have to go and order a new car and I am worried about having one here tbh! what if it can't take a football being kicked very hard like my car atm can?? What if it gets a broken window?? I don't know what to do.
My social worker came round last week to see us, and she is helping us apply for carpets via chartities, because the DSS said it wasn't a great enough need.
Maybe I should have taken those ADs the doctor gave me when all this kicked off with AM. MAybe I wouldn't feel so down now.

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QueenOfQuotes · 01/09/2005 00:22

oh blimey I'm cr*p at trying to make people feel better aren't I - think I'll stick to silly threads and posts

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:23

no carry on, make me laugh!! go on, I need cheering up!!

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QueenOfQuotes · 01/09/2005 00:29

I walked 2 1/4 miles with DS2 in the buggy and DS1 (5 in 2 weeks time) walking next to me to "Water Play" park near the river in town. One of those things where the water squirts out in different directions and is 'recycled' back into it so it's never deep enough (just like splashing in puddles) to be dangerous for little kids.

It was REALLY hot and for DS1 quite a trek. Made the packed lunch up, got the bread to feed the swans.......got there and realised I'd left the bag behind with a change of clothes and towel on the stairs . Thankfully had taken a fleecy like picnic blanket which doubled as towel, and I just let them go topless (so they had dry t-shirts to wear back)- but of course all the other mums (and a few dads) have towels, and swimming costumes and all terribly organised - and there's my two running round in shorts and getting wrapped up in the picnic blanket .

DS1 walked back with a dry t-shirt and dripping shorts and pants (another 2 1/4 miles) and I had to let DS2 go with just his nappy and t-shirt on

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:30

hehe at least it was hot today!! I would love to go to one of those water fountion things, they look like fun!!

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:34

MIL and FIL came round to see us today which was nice, normally we only see them once a week, and dd1 stayed at misdee's after I was relieved from baby siting duties, so it was quiet here for a while, dd2 kept helping herself to cake though, I had 12 and when I looked again there was only 6 left, I'm surprised she wasn't sick.......

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QueenOfQuotes · 01/09/2005 00:37

my parents are popping in to see us briefly next tuesday - they haven't seen the boys since Christmas!!!

When is it you move to the new house?

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sparklymieow · 01/09/2005 00:41

the builders said the 4 beds are just going up, so xmas they think! I want to be in xmas, that would make my year! Did you see the bed I ordered dd1?? Its a proper princess bed, four poster, she is going to die when she see it!!! She is so girly, she has spent the last week in a bridemaid's dress, I have to keep washing it.

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QueenOfQuotes · 01/09/2005 00:42

ooo not long then - we're in september now! No I didn't see the bed - I saw you asking about one - but must have missed you finding one!