Counting down to June...

[desikated]

All welcome - new posters and old!

A gentle supportive fasting thread with as much or as little checking in as you like

@HarpQuartet @loveyouradvice @ItRainsItPours @Clearingaspace @Catherino @Saraswati @ItRainsItPours @jane46b @TooEarlyForBreakfastInApril @angeldebs444

@ItRainsItPours oh you poor thing. That sounds horrid I hope it eases soon.

I would say that....you might not be the best judge of how you look! I think when you have had a bad feeling about the way you look and that's been for a long time, it can be difficult to shift that perspective even when the objective facts might be....quite different. So. When you fee ready ask a trusted honest friend or whoever for their view - it might be quite different from what you imagine you see xx

I've just succumbed to after dinner crumpets and cheese -ahhhhhh. I am stopping at one despite a second one sat next to me. I'm just starving today

@desikated nice advice ❤️

Happy Friday to all who weigh, measure, don't weigh, don't measure, and want to come here to talk about how they're doing.

I'm at 77kg this morning, which represents a triumph yesterday, breaking my storm eating week.

I deliberately chose to post about it here to wake myself up and make a plan, so thanks to the group. Onwards and upwards.

So checking in for me.

I actually weighed myself on Wednesday -
65.1kg
SW-somewhere around 71kg
GW - 63kg (10 stone - totally arbitrary just a nice round number).
Last check in weight was 66.7kg (nearly 4 weeks ago...)

So I'm quite pleased with a loss especially as I've been a bit on and off fasting, and not very well

So I'm definitely sloooooow. But going in the right direction.

This weekend will have a bit of a splurge tonight and tomorrow as weekend / family birthday event.

My feel good thing is wearing a size 10 dress for the birthday event tomorrow (I am not really a size 10, a definite 12 but the sizing is inflated for the dress so I can be in a 10).

Next week will be getting on to PMS times so probably won't check in with weight for a couple of weeks but rather with other updates hah.

How about everyone else?

Ah cross post @HarpQuartet

Onward and upward, and well done for breaking the spell and clearing the storm. ❤️

Well done @HarpQuartet and @desikated onwards and upwards indeed!

I'm still here and fasting most days but have been trying to eat a bit more as have been tired this week. Weighed in at 9st 5lbs this morning which means I've lost a stone since Jan!

Found my denim shorts from a holiday I took in my late twenties pre children, when I thought I looked good, and they fit again! So they will be coming on holiday with me in 2 weeks time.

Anybody else had some good non scale victories?

well done everyone.

@Saraswati back in shorts for your 20s is a great nsv!

I have also fallen foul of catching an unflattering glimpse of myself in a shop window today. I think I have reverse body dysmorphia as in my head I look great. However I am back in the 170s so I am pretty actually happy! I have lost a bit more than the previous week despite doing a lot less exercise and fasting etc- which is typical! Currently 179.2 lbs. Still not back down to my lowest weight since starting this though - the spring has really done a number on me!

@Clearingaspace you are the first person to say what I have too: I think I'm really lithe and gazelle-like, then I see a photo 😆 three cheers for the 170s

I’m back on the wagon. I gained 3lbs with all the back pain and emotional eating but have lost that now. The back pain is much better so hopefully I’ll be able to start actually losing weight. How is everyone getting on?

I'm off the wagon! Was supposed to fast today but had a snack mid fast 😳😫
Got a really heavy (random, peri meno) period and had a rough 10hr work day and just cracked. So easy to get disheartened and give up but have decided it's better than having eaten a whole meal and tomorrow is another day... So much to lose though 😭

@Clearingaspaceapologies, this is really for @ItRainsItPours but I had a fat finger moment and my phone won't let me correct it! But hello anyway 👋

I'm also back on the wagon after a weekend of excess and glad to hear you're not in as much pain. I think my body behaves like yours, in that if I act quickly to remedy a sudden gain, it can be a blip and not a disaster.

@mynamechangemyrules that sounds like self-care to me. If it helps to know, when I have a big day and put on 2-3lb overnight, my body seems to like losing that very quickly with two days back on the wagon.

I've been thinking today about those times when I don't eat the KitKat and those times when I do, and what is happening in my brain in each scenario. I haven't got anywhere with my musings, I'm a mystery to myself.

I just can't push through and fast, I'm really disappointed with myself but trying to avoid my (always present, very boring) shame spiral leading back to eating more.

So so so tired of carrying this extra weight around. So tired of feeling ashamed for not being able to shift it. But also so tired in general that I can't stay committed to anything.

Sorry just a moan nothing constructive to add!

@mynamechangemyrules we all have days where we fall off the wagon, the important thing is to get back on. The odd day here or there isn’t enough to reverse all the hard work. As captain Tom would say, tomorrow will be a good day.

@mynamechangemyrules I'm married to someone who suffers from shame and it's so so hard.

Do you want to tell us anything more e.g. how long you have managed to fast, if you're managing any exercise or another healthy habit? Do you manage to plan your meals?

Only if you want to talk about it though.

I walk every morning with the dog, I've usually completed the 'rings' on my watch by about 11am as I have a relatively physical job (teacher of little children..!). Would love to do more stretching/ yoga but finding it hard to motivate myself when other jobs are staring me in the face.

I've had 3 glasses of wine and 2 beers in the whole of the past 4 weeks (this is amazing for me!).

I am definitely eating less even when I haven't fasted as I'm not 'accompanying' the alcohol I'd be drinking...

I think this most recent wagon crash is caused in part by being told by my 7 year old that my ExH told her I was 'still a fat bitch' this weekend. He used to keep a record of my weight on the back of the front door for me to update each day. 6 years on from leaving him I'm realising quite how insidious 20 years with him was at undermining my self esteem regarding some things. Mostly weight and food related. He never let me wear shorts as it would have been embarrassing for him so I'd love to wear them this summer. But they'd have to be a fairly hefty stretchy pair probably!

Thought I might lose weight and feel great about myself to get over him, but now I'm 25kg heavier than when I left him and can't shift it. He has quite a lot of time to hit the gym as he rarely sees his children and very much on his schedule- will drop them back early to get an extra session in the gym in...

You're doing loads of good things already! Your ex sounds like a real prince among men - thank goodness he's your ex, phew. What a horrible thing he's doing, including your child in his poisonous thinking.

Keep investing in yourself, then you're modelling behaviour that shows you're worth taking care of. And if you want to wear shorts, then wear shorts.

I sounds like you’ve ditched quite a lot of dead weight in the form of your ex so well done. It might take a little more time to ditch all the emotional damage but it sounds like you are on the right track.

Happy Friday, IF-ers.

I'm at 76.6kg this morning, a little less than last Fri and just where I want to be.

Triumphs: kept to my fasts and have barely overeaten.

Even better if: I had done my strength training video. Does anyone want to commit to adding in two short exercises stints with me this week? I only do 15-20 minutes and even then I tend to put them off until another week has passed!

I have lost 2lbs this week after no loss last week. Not sure I will quite meet the target I set for this month but I won’t be far off.

SW 1st January 17 stone 5
CW 17th May 15 stone 5
TW 1st June 15 stone 2

Well done @ItRainsItPours and @HarpQuartet

@HarpQuartet yes i would love to commit to some workouts in the week ahead!

I am up a smidge but feel thinner so not to disappointed about it.

@mynamechangemyrules God what an absolute bastard, I'm so glad you're not with him anymore! Have you seen the 'wear the damn shorts' campaign. Pure pr for sweaty betty I think but I like the message of it. I had a similarly charming ex husband who used to regularly tell me he'd leave me if I got fat (in his eyes this was about a size 12) because he couldn't be with someone he didn't fancy. It took me so long to realise what damage that kind of talk does to your self esteem. What pricks.

Anyway I'm still here checking in to keep myself motivated, hanging out at just below my target. I have my 10k race on Sunday so I'm focusing on getting a good time, then holiday on Thursday woo! Don't want my holiday to derail me too much but I want to enjoy the delights of course.

Have signed up for a half marathon in Oct which is my next goal, looking for something else over the summer to keep me motivated though.

@mynamechangemyrules darling, you sound amazingly wonderful and far far too good to be with that waste of space. @Saraswati likewise- these abusive men, who use weight and body insecurities to control, coerce and abuse women are the f-ing pits.

I also had an abusive ex who told me (when I finally finally broke up with him) that if I broke up with him, no one would ever want to be with me, I would be alone and unloved forever and would get 'fatter than I already was' . I see him now for what he was - a narcissistic controlling prick who couldn't cope with a womanexisting not simply to follow his demands and please him.

Anyway.

My week. Been alright at staying on fasting track and done quite a bit of running but the scales say I have put in a kilo!!!!

Period due imminently so bloody hoping this is bloat and water weight.

And well done @ItRainsItPours and @HarpQuartet !!! Smashing it! Very impressive indeed. Keep putting one fasting foot in front of another...

This weekend I'm going to eat some chocolate and drink some wine because mnnnnggggg. My womb hurts haha.

@desikated chocolate and wine fit in with fastings motto, delay don’t deny.,That’s what I keep telling myself anyway.

As always, very pleased to hear how we're all doing, high fives all round, lots to be proud of and a gentle hug to those suffering. @Clearingaspace I am going to do the bastarding strength training video on YouTube NOW!

Help friendly fasters.

How do I stop comfort eating? What do I physically do?! It's not even comfort eating I just need some physical sensation I think. What do other people do like when you're at on the sofa with food available??!!

As you might be able to guess the weekend has not been an ideal one...