Hi @Borris
I also have a pre teen DD and I am very worried about projecting a negative relationship with food and body image. So I never comment on my weight or anyone else’s weight in front of her [in fact, I never comment on anyone’s weight ever full stop, it’s none of my ducking business whether someone has gained 100lb or lost 40, and society’s obsession with weight is one of my MAJOR rants at the world, and is probably up there with junk food companies at causing the obesity crisis][and breathe].
Having said that, i also think it’s important to teach kids the importance of food as fuel, because while I would never fat shame anyone, i do believe that it’s not good for you to be seriously overweight in the long term, as it is almost as damaging as smoking. So we talk about the nutritional components of food, and what we need and why, and how sugar cereals taste great but they don’t give us what we need, make us crave them, and companies try to get us addicted to them etc. No food is good or bad- just is it what we need.
So when I eat with DD I eat a modified version of what she’s having - ie more veg instead of carbs but the same protein. And I’m open about saying that because of my age and the amount of exercise I do (compared to their DF), I don’t need any more carbs than I get in the veg.
I think scales in the house are ok too, I just rarely let them see me use them. And I talk about trying to gain muscle and get fitter if any questions come up (which they rarely do)
All my diet books are on my kindle only. I wish the publishers would ban the words “diet” and “lose weight” from the covers!
I have no idea if I’m going about things the right way, and it worried me enormously.
Have a glass of water and start again everyone who has slipped up this weekend. (Myself included- too much roast lamb and a tiny portion of ice cream led to a 600g gain
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