Vasectomy regret after less than a year?

[Mumma123456]

DH had a vasectomy after the loss of our 4th baby at 10w3d last summer. The vasectomy had already been booked, and we went though with it thinking that our family was complete, 4th would have just been the icing on the cake, but we didn’t want to put ourselves through more heartache and we would just be happy with what we have (3 healthy daughters).

fast forward to now, 6 months later, and I am having so many feelings of regret and I wish we hadn’t done it so we could try for baby #4 again. But have we missed the boat now? I am 32 and DH is 33 so we are still young, but also knee deep in our very demanding careers. Has anyone had a vasectomy reversal within a year of having it done and have any stories of this?

I suspect you are still very much in the bereavement process. Breathe, take time, get some support. Your feelings will be complicated and distressing.

My husband had a vasectomy when I was 6 months pregnant with our first (and only). I wouldnt say I regret it because all the reasons we wanted to stop at one still apply- finances, gestational diabetes, the fact we own a 2 bed flat in london and dont want to leave.

But I do often mourn having another baby and wonder if this urge would go away if I had a second. Clearly not.

I think not putting yourself through more heartache is very valid. It took us 10 years to have ds and even if we had a second, I would be at least 37 to 39 with a second and given i was infertile in my 20s who knows if that would be possible. But at the same time, not knowing is very stressful. So in a sense while it can feel like a loss, there is something liberating about it because you also have certainty..