I don’t want children but my wife does

[Confusedwife111]

Hi all, this is just for advice for anyone who has had a similar life experience or has any advice

my partner and I met 5 years ago. Initially she wanted children but explained it was because she’d been brought up that women got married and had children. I didn’t, we spoke about it at length and decided we wanted to be child free

we got married in 2021 and the decision was spoken About prior to this and remained the same

out of the blue my wife has informed me she’s changed her mind. I’m 39 she’s 28

it has been a shock and I’ve agreed to think about adoption etc but my wife’s decided I’d be doing something I didn’t want for her, without letting me formulate this opinion however has said it isn’t an ultimatum

any advice welcome as I am stuck, as it appears I can’t even think for myself and whatever decision I make will be wrong

I agree with the PP about adoption being a harder option than her just having a baby.

I assume you don’t want to carry the baby and your wife may not be able to carry a child and so adoption is your only option but this comes with massive challenges and should only be pursued by a couple who desperately want children.
It would not work in your situation.

Let her go