As my DC is Pre Vocational I try to reframe "audition" as "job interview" (this advice probably isn't as relevant if auditioning purely for funsies)
So at some point we all have to have a first job, bar work, coffee shop, shelf stacking burger flipping - just something to pay the way through college. Now if you go to an interview say at Mickey D's and dont get it, would you come out and be all like
"But I used to flip burgers in a chain hotel!! IN A HOTEL! How very dare they not hire me.
Perhaps it was my mopping technique .I know it I didn't really nail realy squeezing out the mop... and that other candidate was so much cleaner and sharper getting in to the corners.
But my burger flipping is so accurate! I bet they went for that person who did the flashy tricks when flipping, Perhaps I should get a coach to help me work on my 540 degree burger flip twists, if I can't do a double flip no one will hire me ever.
They must all have hated me"
OK yes I know that if you dont get a job then yeah it can sting a bit, but for the most part we just pick up and move on to the next interview without too much soul searching. The point is we dont view not getting a regular job as some sort of moral failing in the same way that we do when its an audition (which is just another word for an actors job interview surely?)
Truth is sometimes there isn't really any feedback and you are just fine as you are, just on the day for whatever reason the stars aligned and another candidate was selected.
In terms of BYMT/NYMT not getting a pick can definitely really sting and I am fully bracing for that this year, but at the same time after the initial sadness you just have to pick up and move on with the acceptance there was nothing else you could have done. Some times it just isn't your time.
I shall be saving this post for approximately 10 days time.