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Whatwouldscullydo · 07/08/2025 09:45

No one ever says- have u tried not sitting at home watching Netflix and drinking a bottle of wine. No one minds you turning down cake or fried chicken when you are already on the heavy side

But start hitting the gym or going for a run and all of a sudden everyone has an opinion and has never been nore pushy trying to get you to eat stuff.

What is it about spandex that gives a Green light to tell someone they don't look how a woman should look or that you are too skinny/muscley or whatever. Like you didn't look twice at me before. Whys it matter now.

And im.not trying to lose weight why is that the only thing people assume working out is for. Amd its not for anyone but me.

Do men get called crazy because they exercise? No. Men and a protein shake and a barbell is seen as perfectly normal. Thought we had moved on from women only doing pilates and yoga.

And gow can you take the piss out of me bringing food to work. Least im not spending a fortune getting takeaways delivered or meal deals.

Sorry dont know what the point of the thread is. Just tired today of all the comments and questions. Like I dont wanna go back to being home alone with my brain rotting in front of the tv. Maybe I want to get out the house for a bit and see people. How's that weird. Again no one cared when I did nothing and I think that's more tragic/crazy tbh

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Alltheyellowbirds · 07/08/2025 21:57

Whatwouldscullydo · 07/08/2025 21:14

I’ve just come off another thread where OP said she’d lost a lot of weight by walking (walking to work etc instead of driving) and at least four people instantly came at her with “how do you have so much time!!! I’m far too busy!” Thats number one I think, and you often hear it if you say you’ve upped your steps or started exercising. Like you’re only managing it because you’re not as busy or important as they are

That's another thing people say alot to me is why dont you drive to XYZ. As if walking or cycling isn't an equally valid form.of exercise or transport. The way traffic is these days its actually quicker to walk but its automatically assumed there's something wrong with choosing to do so if you have a car.

Yep, I’d far rather walk than be stuck in traffic and then have to waste half an hour looking for a parking space! Different if you live somewhere with lovely quiet roads but certainly where I live walking is a far less stressful option.

Megaclean · 09/08/2025 16:27

Op your friends, colleagues and customers either regularly frequent the pub you work in or work in a pub.

To say that demographic is not going to be regularly doing a Saturday am park run would be an understatement. Anyone parking more than a 1 min walk to the front entrance of the pub is probably regarded as being “obsessive” about their health

YelramBob · 09/08/2025 23:16

I get you OP. Exercise and a strict diet is part of who I am, if I didn't do it I'd be the size of an elephant. I've lost 25kg over two years through sheer hard work (and had cancer treatment during that time which made me balloon) yet I still get comments like 'You're STILL going to the gym/running/swimming?' And that old chestnut 'Ooh you've lost enough now' 🤨 I was in the obese category before, had high blood pressure and sore knees but 🤷

The positive support however comes from certain friends and colleagues who are into fitness so they're the ones I listen to and chat about targets and new trainers 😁 I have good friends who drink a lot and eat shite but I've learned to never mention exercise to them as they just look confused bored

YelramBob · 09/08/2025 23:31

WearyAuldWumman · 07/08/2025 16:25

I've had a couple of people warning me not to lose too much weight. I've lost 2 stones (over a period of nearly two years). I'm still over 14stones.

I also have one friend who's made comments about other people being "addicted" to the gym.

I'm trying to avoid the family osteoporosis and to build up more muscle mass. I'm in my 60s.

'Addicted to the gym' 🙄 Well yes you have to keep going, it's not as if you go for a few months and then just stop once you start feeling better FFS.

I had a conversation today with a friend who asked me how many times a week I go to the gym, she gasped when I told her four times.

ZenNudist · 09/08/2025 23:38

I'm pretty sure people are making small talk.

Roothewheel · 10/08/2025 06:28

ZenNudist · 09/08/2025 23:38

I'm pretty sure people are making small talk.

Yup.

No one will actually be giving this any thought beyond the nano second they mention it whilst waiting for their pint to be poured, or a colleague a bit bored at work at making chit chat

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