Brexit looks shit because the prime minister decided that her version of leave was the one we would go with. She decided her red lines and she negotiated the deal with the EU without consulting parliament or ever asking MPs what version of brexit they would support.
She has spent 3 years on her deal, and her blinkered approach has boxed her into a corner unable to break the deadlock because everyone has realised at the 11th hour that the whole thing is screwed.
I voted to remain, when I saw the result I was desperately sad because so many opportunities for my children were inevitably going to be lost. However, I accepted the result and trusted that those we have elected into power would act in the best interests of the country when implementing the result of an incredibly close vote. I accepted we would leave, given how close the result was I assumed something would be negotiated that would honour the referendum result whilst not screwing up our country.
Had brexit been handled differently at the start, by the people we elect into power, had they worked for a cross party consensus and tried to bring remain voters on board, I think the situation would be vastly different now.
As it stands though, remain voters have been largely mocked and ignored for the last 3 years. We are told to shut up because the will of the people, we are told it's democracy that we don't get any say in how our future relationship with the eu will look. At the same time, we have a prime minister who is paying for the dup to prop her party up, she has no qualms about presenting her deal repeatedly for mps to vote on because she didn't get the result she wanted, she is acting like the result to leave was 80/20 not 52/48 and she is acting like her position as PM was a landslide when in fact she has no control at all.
I'm not convinced a 2nd referendum is the way forward, I believe it could further entrench some of the frankly vile and hostile behaviour and I don't trust the prime minister to act in any of our interests. However, to say it is undemocratic for people to have another vote is just not true. When we cast a vote we accept it may or may not be the majority vote, that doesn't prevent you from casting future votes and the suggestion that the people who voted for the first in the referendum would never vote again if there was a 2nd...how many of those people have since voted in elections? How many took part in the general election (which was called 3 years early because the PM wanted a strong mandate for brexit)
Democracy is not a single, rigid, snapshot in time that must be adhered to forevermore. It is about holding to account the people that we pay to run the country for us, for expecting them to act in our interests and not just for their own benefit, it is trusting that the people we elect are more knowledgeable and aware than joe public and giving them the mandate to go forward and work to achieve the things in their manifesto if they are feasible and work for the country.
Part of democracy is being able to say hang on, why are you causing a national crisis and ripping up 40 years of history? Why is the prime ministers interpretation of brexit the correct one, when she has come up with alone and will not consider other options? Why wasn't the referendum treated in law the way an election would be, to prevent interference in the results? Why does this government continue to screw every last penny out of the people that desperately need help, and yet has billions to throw at buying support and failed projects?
You ask why remainers want a second vote, I ask you in any other situation where life would be completely and utterly ravaged by politicians looking to line their own pockets, would you not be standing up too and saying hang on, why are you doing this to our country?