Recent discovery about neighbour..

[Lambchop86]

Hi everyone. Just a bit of advice wanted really. We moved into our new home late last year. It was going to be our forever home, however we have discover over the weekend that there is a convicted peadopile living opposite us. We are totally devasted by this news as we have 2 very young children - our minds have gone into overdrive about what we should do.
Can we call the police to ask whether he is being closely monitored / assessed as part of him being on the sex offenders register (since 2017)? Can they tell us anything?
I feel as though our children would be safe, (we don’t let them out of our sight if they are playing on the front garden for example) however we feel uncomfortable even looking at his house now and having to think about him and what he is. The thought of him even glancing at my children makes me feel physically sick.
We also live around 200m from a nursery - the fact that he is allowed to live in such close proximity to a child’s setting seems unbelievable. Will the nursery be aware of him, or should we tell them? There are so many families around us with small children (some neighbouring his garden) - do we have a duty to tell them about him?
We have so many questions, and not sure if most of our questions can be answered but needed to get it off of my chest.
I honestly think we are in shock about the discovery and our emotions are still raw, but most of all I feel sad that the life that we imagined in this house will have this black cloud hanging over it as long as he lives there.
Has anyone had any similar experiences to this? And if so how did you deal with it?Thanks

Tbh it is very naive to imagine you can live in a predator-free environment, you would be shocked of you knew howany love in your immediate neighbourhood.

All you can do is be a responsible parent and take sensible precautions.

*how many live

How did you come to Google his name and find out? It sounds like you have only just discovered this fact.

The only question here is, would you want the neighbours to tell you if this was reversed? I certainly would
Exactly!
I genuinely don’t understand why people are asking «why did you google his name?» and saying not to tell anybody.

Posted too soon -
It is obvious that someone told something to OP that triggered her to do a Google search. She has now verified the information.
It is allowed to talk about other people isn’t it? Especially if it is true facts that could impact someone’s children.

Statistically there will be more than one just unconvicted or the person they've abused will never have come forward.

The stats show one on every street or something. Yes this won't help but there will be kids in schools with parents who do the same to you that you won't be aware of.

The world is disgusting and so are people.

Read about 1 in 6.

My brother was in this situation. Everyone in the close knew and they informed every new arrival.

One of this person's victims took their own life.

Go to the police and ask under Sarah’s law. Then get advice from them

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Speak to you local Police sex offender officers. They probably won’t give you any information but they may put in a visit to him. He may be under some kind of long term supervision. I use that term very loosely as it could just be that he gets a visit once every few months or even less.

As for those saying don’t tell anyone, that’s easy to say when you’re not living with young children opposite a sex offender.

I would just caution though, that although you think you know the facts, you probably don’t. I would just ensure that your children never go anywhere near him and don’t play anywhere near where he could photograph them from his house.

@Elephantonascooter

If he was convicted in 2017 and is already out and living within 200 meters of a nursery then I think it's worth remembering that the papers arnt always accurate and his crime could not be exactly what has been reported. I understand where you're coming from and it's definitely something to be conscious of but there is a large difference between some crimes that are classed under the same name.

There is a convicted peado opposite my mum's house and I grew up there my whole life. Looked like a nice family man with a disabled son. It was in our local papers. He got a 2 year suspended sentence so didn't even go to prison!!! So just because he isnt in prison doesn't mean he won't be harmful to anyone

There is nowhere you can live where you will not be within walking distance of a paedophile. Just keep your distance from this man and live your life normally.

@Bananahana

Where should he live?

Why is that the OP's problem?

@biglouis

Before becoming concerned about a “peadopile” it might be a good idea to learn to spell the word peadophile.

There is an urban legend about somone who once confused the word pediatrician with peadophile. However I am not so sure now it IS a legend.

You can't spell either!

Don't be a dick.

I'm very vigilant, and pragmatic about it.

There is probably one living every couple of streets or so. And those are only the ones you get to find out about.

Local papers have a reliable archive under 'In the Dock' this week.

You can usually google your street and the name.

Safeguarding is about how you live your life, how you parent and who you allow your children to mix with. It is wise to be aware of safeguarding best practice as a parent. Such people creep into all kinds of organisations.

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There is an old saying "strong fences make good neighbours'. In this case you want very high fences so there is no chance of him watching your DC or chatting to them over the fence.

Does no one pay any attention to the post dates?

Report it to one of those “guardian” organisations that publicise the location of paedophiles. They’ll make sure everyone knows without involving your name. If you’re lucky there will be a public outcry and he’ll get moved on. There was a paedo moved into my village a fortnight ago, it got publicised and his windows were put out, and now he’s been moved. Don’t care where to as long as he isn’t near us!

The chances are, wherever you live, there's probably a paedophile in your street. www.rt.com/uk/524798-sex-offenders-increase-uk/
This is something I realised when my own children were young, and was the reason I was careful to always be aware and to look after my children as well as I could. These people have to live somewhere. The convicted paedophiles are probably the least dangerous, in my opinion. The best you can do is teach your children that their bodies are their own. That they decide if they want to kiss or hug someone (relatives can be paedophiles too) and that nobody has the right to touch them without their permission. And while they are little, keep them with you or someone you really trust.

@Paulinna

Report it to one of those “guardian” organisations that publicise the location of paedophiles. They’ll make sure everyone knows without involving your name. If you’re lucky there will be a public outcry and he’ll get moved on. There was a paedo moved into my village a fortnight ago, it got publicised and his windows were put out, and now he’s been moved. Don’t care where to as long as he isn’t near us!

This is appalling advice.

@Doyoumind

Does no one pay any attention to the post dates?

No

ZOMBIE THREADS should be in a different colour.

Once someone revived a thread, it just looks 'active'. Unless MN is going through a spate of revived zombie threads, then I don't look at dates. I only noted this one as I knew I'd read it before.

No idea how boffinmum came across it or why she revived it, it's usually either a troll
Or someone asking if there's an update.

@Lambchop86 what did you end up doing?

naughty @BoffinMum, don't wake up Zombies

More importantly, how did this happen?? 12 Jun post appears after 25 June post??

@Lambchop86

Thanks for the response imsooverthisdrama. Unfortunately we know it to be 100% true. It made our local area papers/radio when he was sentenced (we’ve found this when we have googled his name)

Are you CERTAIN it is the right one?? Only saying this as a family I know moved to a district and someone googled their name, and it matched that of a convicted paedophile.

It made their life hell.

Despite the fact the convicted paedophile was actually in Jail {And still is}

Many people share the same name.

The family moved as the place was so unwelcoming.

They are much happier where they are now.

People can jump to conclusions.

@biglouis

Before becoming concerned about a “peadopile” it might be a good idea to learn to spell the word peadophile.

There is an urban legend about somone who once confused the word pediatrician with peadophile. However I am not so sure now it IS a legend.

This isn't an urban legend - it happened in my city, ignorant idiots didn't even know the difference between paedophile and paediatrician and they showed up outside this person's house, complete with misspelt cardboard placards (looking like absolute numpties to the rest of the residents).

And biglouis it would be advisable to be able to spell paedophile correctly yourself, after pulling up the OP on her spelling.