My father is currently living in my brother’s house, paying him the full government rent a room scheme amount of £625 a month.
As expected, after a short time, he’s now decided he wants Dad out in the next few weeks.
Dad uses a zimmer, has a full package of care, has a urinary catheter, wears slip pads, often doesn’t get to the toilet in time to open his bowels and so there are faecal accidents.
He gets up at night to use the toilet a couple of times and my brother has to help him.
He doesn’t seem to have much recent memory at all and yet his recent brain scan didn’t show any dementia.
My brother wants to move him into his vacant rental house and charge the full market rental value.
There is no downstairs toilet in this house and I, as POA, would be expected to put a stairlift in.
My father says my brother has shown him round and he would like to live there.
The social worker says it’s actually worth exploring the funding options for this as the council might decide to contribute.
Dad would need a live in carer with support overnight. The cost would be extortionate. Then utilities, council tax, a cleaner, food, no doubt.
I am taking Dad to see a care home tomorrow as I think it might be more realistic.
How likely is it that my Dad’s wish to live in my brother’s rental house will actually be fulfilled?
I have my reservations about my brother’s plans but as POA, I have to consider all views and options.
I’ve spoken to Dad about how quickly his own funds would run out but he forgets.
I’m finding the whole POA situation a stressful place, providing so much support without any support.