My mum has died

[PermanentTemporary]

I’m a bit of a frequent flyer on this board. My mother has been in a nursing home since her stroke in 2021. This is something like the 5th deathbed call there has been over two years. She died reasonably peacefully this morning and I was with her and had the privilege of seeing her final breath.

I cried yesterday when she was going downhill but I feared she might survive yet again. Now she is at peace at long, long last. There will be a lot of emotion to come but now I feel peaceful too.

She was a lovely mum to me. I am so lucky to have had that.

My friend worked in a hospice and believes that too, that some wait until they are alone and others want their family with them.

@PermanentTemporary I am so sorry for your loss but also glad you were with her. My siblings were with my Mum, we were all doing shifts to be with her and I drove to them in the middle of the night because I couldn't sleep, held my Mum's hand and she died a few minutes later so we were all with her.

That was a very long time ago and it can still hit me with physical pain to think of it but for the most part I am grateful I knew her as a woman and not just my Mum, she was a fantastic Grandma and I remember all the good things about her. I am sure you will find comfort in all the lovely memories you have of your Mum too.

I hope you have good supportive people around you

I’m sorry for your loss @PermanentTemporary . I’m glad you were able to be with her at the end, and that she doesn’t need to struggle on anymore. Wishing you peace.

Am so very sorry for your loss OP. Even when you are aware that it’s a possibility, nothing prepares you for the loss of someone you love and who has been such a meaningful part of your life.

Hope you have someone with you now to give you a hand-hold, but sending a hug.

So very sorry. I'm sure it will be a comfort in the days to come that you were able to say goodbye.

So sorry for your loss - it sounds like she waited for you x glad that you were together and she went peacefully

I was in the same situation, I couldn't get home to be with my father and afterwards regretted it.

Having been with my mother when she died however, I have now very mixed feelings from a mental health point of view (I actually found it quite traumatic).

Oh gosh @PermanentTemporary I am sorry for your loss; it still is quite challenging, even though it was anticipated. Good for your mum, waiting for you. She probably knew that's what would help most.

Sometimes release is a relief.
My mum hung on too, I had to cross London to be there.

Look after yourself.

Sorry for your loss @PermanentTemporary I am glad you were able to be there with her and that she is at peace and no longer suffering. My thoughts are with you 💐

I'm glad that she got away, at last, peacefully, and you were with her. Take good care of yourself.

Thank you for sharing your news .
How has today been for you? Have you had a chance to catch your breath?

I’m so glad you could be there, I shed a few tears reading your update. Also sending you a hug and wishing you peace 💐

You have been brilliant in supporting many on this board, so remember we are here if you need us in return.

I am glad that your DM and you can finally be at peace.

So sorry for your loss.

sorry you’ve lost your mum, but glad it was a quiet, peaceful end for her.

Dear PermanentTemporary
You've been through so much.
I'm very glad that your mum's death was peaceful and that you were with her at the end.
May her memory be a true blessing for you.

I am so sorry for your loss and glad she got away peacefully.

So sorry OP. I lost my mum in 2009 when she was just 60 and it still hurts, but she had cancer and it was a relief at the end so I understand your feelings. It is only day one for you so be kind to yourself - you are allowed to feel relief as well as grief. Take care.

She'll know you were there with her at the end. Take care of yourself.

Sympathy. But I hope you are comforted by your memories. It may take time but the sadness will fade.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope the fact that you were there is of comfort to you.
Take care of yourself x

So sorry @PermanentTemporary. May all your memories be good ones after the difficult years. Glad it was a peaceful end and that you were able to be there.

Today has been a relentless adrenaline jag. I’ve got a lot done, at least… the crash will come. Trying to read myself to sleep. Also realising we might have to unpick a lot of very rushed arrangements!

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my mum a month ago and I just got there in time for her too, didn’t with my dad either. I think they’d both probably have wanted it that way. I felt a bit of relief too, as my mum had been pretty poorly for a few years. It still hasn’t hit me badly yet, just occasionally.
I wish you strength and hugs.

I'm so sorry for your loss 😔. I also believe that she waited for you too. I lost my mum 6 years ago and every day she was sick I went round at 8.30am. She passed away one morning at 8.40 am. She most definitely waited for me.
Sending you love and hugs 🤗 x