Expectations from elderly parents I mean. I live three hours away from them and I work full time. Over the last year my parents have become sicker and their expectations have massively ramped up. At the moment I visit twice a month for about two or three days. They have said they wished I lived nearer and perhaps I could give up work. To be clear they have lots of support from family who live close to them, they drive, do activities, go out most days. I am their only child. I'm finding the stress of this very difficult to manage. After I visit I'm always poorly, when I leave to go home my mum cries. I was there before Christmas and Christmas eve and am there again now, oh one of them said, such a brief visit. Any suggestions, particularly about lowering my stress levels?