FIL about to move in😳

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Hello. FIL luckily survived a heart attack with a stent but obv can’t look after his bed bound wife any more.
he needs to move in with us while they find a house near us.
im very nervous-DH at work, so the majority will fall to me. He’s OK, but there’s only so many hours I can listen to his memories, he is getting forgetful. It will also impact teenage son- so I need to somehow handle that so son doesn’t hide in his room/ feel pushed out. And I don’t go mad. I’m looking for classes etc he can do, as don’t want him to feel a burden/ useless
any tips please! ?!

i think in your position i'd move out and see how DH manages. he can't impose this on you unilaterally

MIL's care home is £1,900 a week. This is what their money is for. Its not an inheritance its money so that they are safe and get care that they need. I do not understand the need to keep hold of money by doing the care yourself. Fair enough if its for loving reasons and you have the ability but just for the money/inheritance aspect nah its wrong and not good for anyone involved particularly the elderly.

As someone upthread said, if he moves out then that home is up for grabs and would have to be sold to pay for MIL’s care. The house or its proceeds won’t be available for inheritance unless FIL buys another property as his main residence sharpish.
I know a lot about care, don’t do it under any circumstances