Anyone have a relative in a mcarthey stone? Need advice

[Edinlassy]

As the title says really am in need of some advice from anyone who have experience of a relative living in one of these.

long story short we are reaching a point where they are making noises that my mum is no longer independent enough to live there. As she owns he flat outright I am wondering what happens when they decide she is no longer eligible to live there. How do they force a sale?

many thanks

They usually allow a pet if you already have one but not usually allowed to get a new pet.

I'm sorry you are going through this OP. Sounds really difficult. She's obviously stubborn as hell and basically a danger to herself and others.

I'm with a PP in that you need to take a massive step back - let the chips fall where they may - and not let your kids and husband fall by the wayside, so to speak. They are your nr.1.

Maybe some counselling for you to order your thoughts about it all....?

Wishing you much strength to deal with it all.

(My mum had dementia for 7 years).

They do have a master key but mum blocks the entrance door with a spare wheelchair so nobody can get it. Social services were involved when she was in hospital and put in place carers 4 x per day. Mum as o said blocks the doors and shouts at them to fu@@ off so after 8months they stopped coming.

@suburberphobe thank you xxx

My dad had dementia for 11 years before he passed it is hard going.

To the poster who said she probably has dementia she does not. As you can see above my dad had it I am pretty well versed with it and my mum has always been this way.

Does she still keep her hospital appointments?

Blimey - if she has always been like this it must be truly terrible for you. My Mum was very needy in the last few years of her life and it was horrible for her and I but previously she had lived on her own quite happily. Very set in her ways but bumbling along just fine.

Then she fell and broke her hip and was never the same again.

I wass wondering about the hospital appointments too. Does she get picked up by hospital transport?

@Tracker1234 yes it has been a very long hard time. I should have walked away years ago I could write a book. Her hospital apps she gets picked up in a taxi there and back arranged and paid for by hospital. She had a million complaints about that too 🤯