Everything was negative

[Ribenaberry12]

Spent the day out with my parents today and noticed that they their interpretation of EVERY thing and everyone was negative.
Guy on car parking wasn’t very good.
That area isn’t roped off very well.
Not paying that for a sandwich.
Theres too many people.
Theres not enough people.
This beer’s flat. (It wasn’t).
AD INFINITUM
They also expected everyone to short change them. Expected everyone providing a service to do it badly. Weren’t warm or friendly with anyone. I got embarrassed with they way they were talking to some people. They viewed everyone and everything as if they were out to get them. Couldn’t seem to have positive interaction with anyone. When I called them put on it they couldn’t see anything wrong with their attitude. I couldn’t understand it if they’d had a shit day but they hadn’t, they said they had a good time. I can’t understand why they’re treating people like they’re going to be ripped off or badly served. WTF IS WRONG WITH THEM???
I’ve come home baffled.

A lot of truth here. You get to a certain age and it's funerals not weddings, aches and pains don't get better like when you're younger, and the pathway to permanent oblivion is getting shorter (will my cancer come back to strike me down?!). But....hide your fears and try and be the perfect guest, paste on a smile and eventually it does become 2nd nature 😊😊😊

So glad to have found this thread. I am finding MIL really hard work recently, everything is negative and every news story is something else to worry or grumble about. The smallest thing or inconvenience is such a big deal that will be seen as a personal attack. The rudeness in restaurants and comments about how people look or what they are wearing is just embarrassing and makes me reluctant to go out with her much these days.

@sprigatito my father in law is like this too at 84- but doesn't have Alzheimer's- the only thing that's a bit annoying is he is convinced everyone (not family) is ripping him off - however apart from that- he is very cheery - must be the copious wine and nuts and olives!!

Absolutely agree with this. Before she lost her speech mum was always a very positive, cheerful person and never complained about anything. She was a really sunny person to be around and even now it amazes me that she remains as cheerful as she does manage while being paralysed down one side with a catheter and unable to speak. Her biggest influence was Pollyanna

my dad, on the other hand, could find a negative side to winning the lottery.

Being pernickety about food is a post menopause thing. It's bloody annoying

I'm not being funny but are they right wing newspaper readers? Picked up a copy of a popular daily at a friend's house. Flipped through it. There was hate on every page.

My friend is a clever, retired professional but it rubs off on her. She was going on a bout migrants and benefits. I gave her the info from Gov.uk about migrant's money. She asked me if I trusted the website.

I went home, head in hands.

I've noticed increased paranoia and depression in 3 of my elderly relatives. DF even said he'd lived too long as he didn't understand the world any more. The newspapers (especially Daily Fail) are full of hate and negativity and if all their friends are dying off and that's all they're reading the negativity must impact them.

I interact in small doses as I find it too tiring running around apologising for them and their interactions all the time!

Our neighbour is a gloom merchant mid seventies, reads the telegraph every day. I wish he'd read it in the evening instead of at breakfast it really sours his day and his wife gets the worst of the fallout.

Oh yes the rudeness to people in the service industry. My husband dies 100 deaths every time we take my mother out for a meal. She only eats fish dishes now so we will go round the table and everyone else will say can i have / I'd like/ could I order the x , could I have that without the whatever thank you. Get to her - "seabass - no sauce".

Oh and recently we had - said in a negative way "I was in half an hour with the nurse" me, that's good isn't it, she was obviously being thorough.

@TorroFerney wondering if we are related. My mother took to only ordering seabass about 6 years ago. Never shown any interest in fish before. DH thinks it is because it ‘sounds posh’ , she very Hyacinth Bucket though. Then when it comes she complains it’s dry.