Funerals

[forrestgreen]

I'm not sure if my personal thoughts are clouding my judgement.
Re funerals, I don't want one, I think they're a waste of money and I prefer if my nearest and dearest had a lovely meal out, thought fondly of me and chucked the cremated me in a river.

I asked my dm what she wanted, as her mum had planned and paid for her funeral prior to her death. My dm has the funds to pay for one and said I should just organise it after she's gone. I think she'd enjoy looking down at all the work I've gone to, everyone crying etc.

I think if you want a funeral, organise and sort it before rather than leaving it as a chore for when people are grieving?

@irregularegular - sounds lovely We had no officiant - not so many people as yours but close family - scattered the ashes (DFIL ) and then went for a nice meal and spoke about them - I think it was about as nice as you could get in the circumstances. He had lost touch with many friends

I needed to organise my mums funeral. It was the last thing l could do for her and was all about her and her personality.

Expecting her to organise it would have taken a little bit of healing away. It seems kind of cold hearted expecting her to do it. I wanted to do the best for her.

Planning DH's funeral was one of the last things I could do for him, it certainly wasn't a 'chore'.

I had a friend who wanted this.
When he died of a certain cancer his body was not able to be used .,,,,

I remember the time organising DMs funeral with DF as a time of closeness and indeed happiness. It carried us through the first two weeks of mourning.