well, i started off reading this because I am looking to move to an area that has a Steiner school, although i am taking a gamble as the school is very over subscribed and there is a lengthy waiting list. I has taken me several hours to plough through this and I have gone through a range of emotions.
Here is my story, I am moving down to Herefordshire in the next year so my son can attend a Steiner school.
I had a son 26 years ago, i was a single parent, he was very intellectual and was attending a state school, he could be disruptive and bored easily because they didnt allow him to progress further than they could cope with, he would always finish his work before everyone else, everyone seemed to have to be at the same level. He also suffered some severe bullying because of his weight that was never dealt with and I lost all faith in the state school system. I moved from Herefordshire to Cheshire and worked my socks off to put him through a small private school, he thrived and went on to obtain a scholarship to a top boarding school and completed a law degree. He grew up without a TV or computer, not for any reason other than i didnt feel it was good for him.
18 years later i gave birth to my second son, when it came time for school i put him in the same private school that my 1st son attended, what a mistake to make. He suffered two years of really bad bullying, he was self harming and constantly wishing he was dead. His confidence and self esteem had virtually disppeared, but as i had been a part of the school for so many years I discussed the issues with the head and stuck with it, in the end it got too much and i was worried about my sons emotional state. He was made to write with his right hand even though he wrote with bothe hands and preferred to use his left. I have always suspected that he suffers from a very high functioning aspergers, but as i am aware of it and can deal with it and it is getting milder as the years go by i dont feel the need to have him statemented.
I decided to move him to a more expensive school, with great facilities and surrounded by woodland which he loves. He spent a year there and wanted to leave, he didnt like the structure, complained of being picked on, but no -where near as bad as the previous school, he didnt like the pressure to do sports etc.
Last year i moved him to a state school, he is doing much better and whilst he is doing the things he likes out of school now, ( he loves the Arts, he has tap, modern, street and jazz lessons and attends theatre school) he still hates the formality of 'regimental school' and the fact that he cannot be himself, he is an environmentalist, and he takes the lead on eco issues and me and his father follow as we need a lot of educating on these matters.
I am grateful to all the posters and all the views as there is food for thought and I have thoroughly read the Ofsted report for the school, I will be putting his name down for the school, as it is very over subscribed and has a waiting list for nearly all years. I think this type of education will be the making of this son, just as i had to find it for the other son.
I have had good and bad experiences in all types of schools and believe me I am not loyal to any one type as all have good points and all have faults and not all your children are the same or do as well in the same type of environment.
Whatever environment you are looking to put your child into, do your research, listen to first hand experience and beware of potential pitfalls, but be aware one persons bad experience doesnt make it another person bad experience.
I will let you know how it goes if we ever make it.