School staff member took my child’s toy (for his own child) after confiscating items for sale

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My DC has recently been selling squishy toys at school, he’s an entrepreneur in the making. However we told him it wasn’t a good idea and he carried on.

On Friday he got caught and his teacher gave me his school bag which contained ‘his stock’. They asked me to not allow him to bring them in as it’s not allowed. I told them I’m glad they’ve said it to him & he won’t be bringing them again. As the teacher handed me the bag, another staff member who works at the school asked to see what he was selling and went on to take 1 squishy & said ‘this will be nice for my daughter’. My DC asked him for the money & the staff member said ‘No, your lucky I didn’t take the lot’

My DC asked the staff member for the money or squishy back & he said ‘Na na your not getting it back, your lucky it wasn’t (deputy head) as she would of taken the lot’

This doesn’t sit right with me, value is only £1 but it’s the principle. What is this teaching the children?

What do I do about this?

That’s a good email. I hope you hear back soon.

She knew before the he school stopped him what he was doing and couldn’t stop him? I would hang my head in shame if as a parent I wasn’t able to deal with this? What is teenage years going to bring?

I would not be accusing the teacher or sticking their nose in, when they were doing my job.

I think OP needs parenting lessons, or more training.

Your job is stealing from children?

That doesn't take away from the teacher also needing to improve.

Your job involves stealing stuff from children for your own kids?

Its theft, taken without consent.

The teacher is a disgrace

A couple of quotes from OP

I asked my child not to sell them during school hours and he could potentially sell them after school, however Childs argument was that others sell stuff at school and he wants to sell too.

DC has hardly committed a crime for selling a few bits at school! I said it was a bad idea because he goes ahead taking loads in his bag, some children may not be able to afford it & this can make them feel left out when others are buying. I’m glad he has entrepreneurial mindset, however I wish he wouldn’t want to use this during school hours!

In all honesty I didn’t think it was a bad idea when others have been doing it since yr5 & haven’t been told off (teachers turned a blind eye) - it’s not the end of the world. What life skills is history or RE going to teach children? Not that I don’t expect my child to work hard - they are on the expected level in most subjects & ahead in Maths!

How do you think he is learning from his mother? She’s presumably be of his biggest influencers. She just says it’s fine, carry on!

No parental control of a 10 year old!

Oh damn ……. You’ve got me bang to rights! That’s my exact job!! How astute of you.

Seriously, what lesson did the staff member who took the toy teach? The class teacher had already remonstrated with the child and the parent, and returned the bag of toys to OP. The staff member taught (a) there's no need to respect your colleagues by undermining the class teacher and (b) they can take OP's property for their own use without consent.

Theft .

Chalk it down as a lesson learnt and move on, OP. Hopefully your son has learnt his lesson. I certainly wouldn't be up in arms about this incident of a £1 toy under the circumstances.
Focus your energy instead on your child's academia and maybe turn his focus from being the next Apprentice candidate!

Why thank you.

I don't think this constant posting and response is helping the poster here. She's not happy. Nothing anyone can say will help.

From what the OP says in her posts, I think it's helpful for her to see that others agree with her and that she's right to raise the male teacher's behaviour with the HT.

Well how has your son got a stash of squishymallows to sell, if you haven't bought them for him? As my question to you is 'what has started this selling of squishymallows. Rules are rules in schools, so don't break them - when children are there for education, not selling items at school!!!!! 🙄

Teacher in the wrong here.
Your son is also in the wrong for selling them despite being told not to.
You have condoned your son’s actions - get a grip of his behaviour, you’re the grown up!

You’re welcome, is your job mind reading?

I do parenting lessons to make my money up, I’ll DM the OP.

They were NOT doing their job! Bag was already given to me by my child’s teacher & the matter was sorted. However this other staff member asked to look in child’s bag to see what they were selling and proceeded to say ‘I’ll take this one for my daughter’ after he had a good old rummage through the bag!

That’s exactly what my child said when they got home - ‘so does that mean I can take someone else’s things if it shouldn’t have been in school?’

I explained the staff member was very wrong for doing that, but if my child hadn’t bought the toys to school this situation wouldn’t have taken place.

My child is unaware of me posting this & the responses, as far as I’m concerned they can feel they’ve lost the item due to them ignoring basic instructions!

Righto

Please let me know when & where to meet you for these? I’m delighted to be offered these! Over the fucking moon!

keep your BS to yourself!

I'm surprised you didn't put a stop to it yourself. My daughter (6) Also an entrepreneur. Has been bringing home with items she's 'traded' all of which I confiscate and return to their original owner via the class WhatsApp group. Recently it turned to cash where she sold a bracelet for £2. I confiscated the money (returned it to the mum) Business is great, but not allowed in school hours. I've got my daughter on board helping me design Cricut crafts at home , which she loves and then she can turn this into a small business if she wants, but only with my oversight.

I agree, most responses have really helped & prompted me to email the HT today. Thank you