Play date with mum who agrees with education tax

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Please let me know if I’m overreacting. I recently overheard a new mum at school talking about a local private school closing down due to the education tax and how this is somehow a good thing. She’s now invited my DD for a play date, would you accept?

What teento wrote. And tbh it's useful to know this sort of thing in advance - if you don't fancy a discussion/disagreement about it, just make sure the topic doesn't come up during the playdate. Otherwise, it's fine to disagree. She won't spontaneously combust; neither will you.

Wow. I guess we all have a line in the sand. Mine would be 'Nazi', but you do you OP!

Her DD is lovely and the two seem to get on really well, it’s a shame but it’s a massive red flag.

Yes, of course. 🙄

Civilised, educated grown-ups have the capacity to respectfully disagree on political issues. It’s indicative of both emotional maturity and intellectual self-confidence. I have friends who vote Tory and voted Leave. They are still my friends.

A red flag for what?

A massive red flag for what? I'm genuinely puzzled.

A red flag for what?!

Fwiw, one of my ds good friends mum is very left leaning which is not me at all....but it's never occurred to me that our political views must align for our DC to be friends.

Is the red flag in the room with you now, OP? Maybe it’s red for SOCIALISM.

I don't think you're using the phrase red flag correctly here

This must be a deliberately goady post? No one genuinely thinks this way surely?

I bet she has!!!

She's battening down the hatches as we speak!!!

Oh come on now.

I don't see it as a red flag. I would disagree with you more if you did not vote at the last general election, at least if you did you have in my opinion reasonable grounds to complain about the policy.

I give parents of children a pre screening survey to make sure their views a voting record align perfectly with mine before allowing them to mix with dd. It's completely healthy and normal. She may hear wrong think if I let standards slip

“Question 7: If you had been old enough to participate in the Brexit referendum, how would you have voted? Please use the pipe cleaners provided to build a 3D interpretative map”.

It’s a red flag to think that people should pay tax on goods & services… ?

Are you worried she might be a povvo?

Yes I understand, but this is malice towards children. She was over the moon the school had closed like it was a normal view, I just can’t reconcile that with being a good parent. Reading the comments, it seems people think I’m overreacting but I’m going to go with my gut on this one and politely decline. Thanks for the posts.

Hilarious.

You sound a very responsible parent. I like it.

You’re being ridiculous. My children went to private primary school; I don’t really care what others views are on it. We live in a democracy. I am a lefty, my kids had friends whose parents were a Tory M.P., a dodgy millionaire, an academic (whose views didn’t align with mine), I just bit my tongue and was polite and kind to their kids.

What’s your worry OP? That they are a bit too poor or a bit too common to be friends with your DC?

Does the mum have previous for holding political indoctrination sessions for EYFS children? If not YAB ridiculous.

You're only going to accept playdates from people who agree with you on every random niche subject?
Maybe check what her views are on farming subsidies and photo voter id too.

Here’s a big grown up secret OP, you are allowed to have friends who don’t agree with you about everything. I know there are topics that would go down like a lead balloon with some of my friends. We either avoid them, or discuss it, have a disagreement then get another drink in. And this is her little child,whom I doubt doesn’t even know what tax is. Give the kid(and the mum) a go. (And you don’t have to be her friend, but if you do, that’s a win, isn’t it?)