Glad your DS got the school he wanted @NebulousPhoneNotes
When you say he got it on merit are you suggesting that students who came from private school didn't?! You know they all sat the same exams, right? In 2 years time, when your DS accepts his Uni place, will you say your DS got it on merit? Despite having done his A levels at a top state school, which is far, far closer in results and outcomes to private schools than to schools in the bottom quintile of state. Plus he will have had the boost in offers which Universities like Cambridge give to state students over private ignoring the enormous difference between top state schools and bottom state schools. Not talking about contextual offers - which do take that into account - just the plain state vs private quotas (Cambridge have now dropped the official quotas, but similar undoubtedly still exists elsewhere/less formally).
Of course you should still say he got his Uni place on merit. He will have worked hard and achieved his results. Himself. Exactly like the private school students did. So stop implying that they didn't get in on merit.
It seems that you're also implying that private school students should leave those 6th form places for existing state school students. In fact, you're sounding pretty negative towards the incoming private kids with trying their luck.
Really?!?
All the time that we've paid for our own children's education, we've been told that there's a state school place available for them if we want it. That this is we pay for their whole education ourselves out of taxed income, even the 8k per year we're saving the taxpayer. That's why we've been paying 5k income tax on the 8k we're subbing the government each year. And now an extra 4k per year VAT.
And now you're saying that school place shouldn't be available to us after all?!?
Well I'll have my 8k state school funding + £5k income tax on that + £4k VAT back from the government then please. Per year.
Whilst we're at it, I'm feeling pretty pissed off at the £10s of thousands of tax which I'm paying each year and getting nothing back from because it's all either means tested or else completely unavailable because we're the only buggers contributing to it.
And all the while, people on Mumsnet insulting us and making very clear that they are quite keen for our children to suffer and their schools to close. I will never forget or forgive this.